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Also, your roadmap should look like this.

>Identify distorted thoughts through CBT
>Develop Appreciation as a skill
>Learn to challenge self-criticism
>Learn to use porn to maximize pleasure without shame: Masturbate once every 2 days, try masturbating without porn, taking your time, experimenting with feeling. Try to find one porn video you really like, don't fap to shifting windows, take your time. Try to discuss porn openly with close friends, banter with it because you will have the upper hand in confidence
>Think about goals without pressure. Start with a long term goal (10-20 years) about whatever, no matter how stupid, but that genuinely makes you want to work towards, ask yourself why is that important to you. Set up medium term goals (5 years) as steps towards those. Do short term goals (this year, this month) according to those.
>The comfort zone is a shit model about a very real learning mechanism. Between the "learning zone" and the "growth zone" there is a PAIN ZONE in which you will inevitably suffer, doubt yourself, and get tempted to turn back, similar to Jesus in the desert. That suffering is literally neuroplasticity at work. Become accustomed to stick to challenges and you will see HUGE energy boosts beyond what you thought was impossible. Tell a girl how you feel, no matter her answer. You're offering her a chance to be with a stud like you. Yes, fucking believe it.
>"Be Yourself" means, once you stop criticizing yourself, be honest with others about your likes and dislikes, expose them so other people know you.
>"Go outside" means keep challenging yourself to new experiences, be vulnerable and admit you like some of them.

The key to all of this is to stop criticizing yourself and appreciate everything.

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