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>Poor sleep
>Procrastination
>Addicted to the internet (not just 4chan)
>Too manchild-like
>No real luck with work, no motivation for it either
>Moving abroad to live with family and look for work there
>24 years old
I'm eating and exercising properly again, trying to be more optimistic too so there's that.
I'm just looking for some real advice for self-improvement, since I'll need to do that for the next few years until my life is better.
You ask for more information and context, I'm just keeping it very brief right now.
>144iq
>live in shit hole boomer invested town
>can't afford a car
>can't afford public transportation
>can't afford university
>stuck at wagie job in town
>only old people around
why even bother living anymore? I am hardlocked in poverty and soltitude. So far my only accomplishment is not killing myself and quitting drugs, but why should I not? Things will only get worse
I'm off puberty blockers now, and have been for a year and a half now because they changed a lot of the rules in my state surrounding youth transition.
I'm 19, and approaching 2 years of my natural puberty. I feel like the hormones are making me a crybaby, and it's killing the tough guy image I've worked really hard to build for myself in my friend groups. My doctor says I have to finish some psych evals to get testosterone, but I was hoping for guidance on how to get ny delayed puberty under control while waiting for all that.
i considered military, to at least force me to stick to something and not quit. i consider being a police officer, but id need a while to bulk up as im short and small. seems like a thankless job and women especially seem to hate cops since they're all liberal.
i could go back to college but anything worth doing is gonna be a masters level education, id graduate when im like fucking 30. 6 years behind all my peers with my youth out the fucking window. then id need to spend years to get up to speed in the job market before i have any sense of real security, then i gotta pay off the loans. i dropped out of college out of HS, so im not even sure id be able to stick with it. not an academic issue its a motivation issue.
i know this is becoming a blog post but im seriously fucked up right now. i need to get a fucking job but i just want to feel like its actually building me towards an ideal future. i want to salvage my youth. i want to have fun experiences. i also dont want to be a fucking townie bum in 20 years.
sometimes i just want to run away and drive somewhere far, and just restart everything. go live in my car and tough it out. maybe itd force me to become something.
Basically the best years for my would-be sex-having are almost over. People from my high school are all in serious LTRs, some already have kids.
Meanwhile I never even had a hookup that most people have in their teens.
Because of this, I basically just can't be fucking bothered anymore. I graduate with a codecel degree right around my 24th birthday and i'll be damned if I go to some shitty 9 - 5 working in an office, just to come back to my parents' basement and sleep alone.
My plan is to work as a bartender for maybe 5 years or so, until i'm 30 and then i'll drop out of society and leech off the state until I die, whenever that may be.
Thoughts on this plan?
Not exactly willing to be prostrate for the worthless socialites, most of them mainly hate me because i'm doing something with my life (what i want to do) and they aren't. They veil it in some PC "think of the troons" bullshit but i mean i know they're lying sociopaths.
There's no way to crawl out of this, right? i am now persona non grata? at least in circles trying to appeal to the elites.
Is it worth trying to be "presentable"? nobody has a problem with me until they start interacting with these people, then i magically become this-and-that bad word.
I personally know that those socialites are deeply jealous of me, they always attack what i do and often times its what they also do. Dont even think im particularly good but these people would make you think im some avant-garde hyperpicasso with how they shit on me.
where do i meet people who dont fall into this loser trap?
what do they even gain with befriending those parasites? my life just felt miserable with them.
It's not so much that I'm unbearably sad because of some traumatic event that happened. It's more like I don't find fulfillment or joy in anything, have nothing I'm really living for, have no meaningful connections with others, and generally live an empty life. I can enjoy my hobbies at ties, and I can find a little fulfillment in my job and in the gym, and I have amicable relationships with my acquaintances and coworkers, but it's all shallow and fleeting. When I'm alone and I don't have anything distracting me, it feels meaningless. The only people who really care about me are my parents, but we've been getting more distant every year so it's hard to remember that sometimes. I'll bust my ass at work and feel accomplished until I get home and then when I spend the rest of the day in front of the computer with the lights off I'll wonder what the hell it was even for.
On its own I don't think this would be enough to make me want to end my life but the way I think about myself, influenced by the way my relationships went in the past, makes me see myself as a burden on other people and a cause of trouble, which in turn makes me want to always be useful to people or avoid them completely so I don't bother them. Everything I do in life is reflected through this lens. I know it's dysfunctional and that I'm probably not literally a burden on everyone I've ever known but knowing that in the academic sense and internalizing it are two different things. When I have those undistracted moments alone I'll end up reflecting on every way I caused trouble for someone else in my life and then I'll think that maybe the best thing I could do for people in the future is to shut myself away from them, maybe permanently.
I'm 24. Can I change? Is this fixable?
Asking for a friend
I'm getting mixed signals from her and don't know what to make of them, we spend entire days laughing and shooting the shit, we have the same values especially concerning relationships, but at the same time I don't feel like she's interested
But the real problem is that it causes insomnia which is counterproductive. So I cannot retake these drugs around 6-8 PM to get another boost and work.
What's a drug/nootropic/substance you can use to be productive at night but that won't fuck up your sleep?Other than L-Theanine(which I already take every morning on empty stomach). Is there something stronger for "calm alertness" that acts immediately without fucking up your sleep?
>still haven't done anything other than nofap
I don't even know what advice I am looking for, because as far as I can see everything seems impossible. Every attempt to help backfires.
I won't describe any situations, attempts, possibilities in detail now, because I'm fucking tired, and I just need to go to sleep, and tomorrow I'll try the impossible again. And maybe then I can come back to this thread and tell more details. But I just want to send this now to get it off my chest for the moment, because I know I need help. And maybe tomorrow I come back to this thread and explain more and ask for more concrete advice, or maybe not, because usually I don't even see it as a possibility that someone could give reasonably helpful advice here.
But feel free to ask in the meantime if you are interested. I would appreciate helpful question that could help me clarify my problems with my father.
Good night!
How do I use this to my advantage?
I also have to be honest with myself, most of the time I wasn't satisfied with the looks or appearance, whether its her body, face, femininity, hair etc. - the fault is on my side, i recognize that, appearance isn't everything and fades, that its wrong to make false hopes for them and for me etc.
Now I dont know what to do, should I work on my mental health and "accept" that looks arent everything and settle down, though i tried that now dozens of times OR should I continue looking for a "unicorn" and stay single forever
Unicorn actually even is an exaggeration, the woman I mean exist, its just that those are the type of women every man wants, obviously. They have options and they wont "settle" for me. Reasons herefore are probably that something is wrong with my personality itself, not with my conditions, I have everything (a man would think) a woman wants.
I'm basically selling Photovoltaic Panels for the company, they come and montage it on your roof, parcel etc, and some other renewable energy shiet.
Thing is, i got a 4000$ markup per closed deal, maybe even more.
I'm just a field agent, door to door salesman, driving to some old forgotten villages and selling the instalations to the people there.
My coworker told me than one dude even signed a old lady house to his name, and got the fucking house when she kicked the bucket.
I litreally see people company all the time when searching more about the company, about crazy markup prices, that the salesmen blatantly lie, etc, that it's not profitable for them.
I haven't started yet, but seems sketchy as fuck. Good cash though, but the people pay 100% more than if they would ask a local company to do it.
I dunno, could i get in trouble for this if the company got sued in the future? ( it definetely will, and was in the past)
They literally teach me to be manipulative, persuasive, and lie, about the profitability and the prices (also they lie to me on training, that it is actually profitable for the people i sell the instalations to)
Cheers
>dad was a sperm donor that dont wanna talk to his kids
>mentally and verbally abused by my mom from 2.5 to 18 years
>early puberty it was physical abuse too
>including a murder attempt
>bullied and ostracized all my life
>no friends
>lost my virginity to the single tinder date i managed to get
>never had a girlfriend or even been kissed by a girl
>never been desired by anyone
>so fucked up by my childhood and ostracization that i fail 11th grade and never move foreward
>school also refused to teach me a bunch of shit growing up so big holes in knowledge
>social services waste 2 years of my life stringing me along with promises of helping me find education and/or a job
>dont deliever at all except some crappy 8 week shit in history that wont count for shit
>never bother to contact a single job place
>no private teachers or schools where i live even after spending weeks searching online and leveraging every single connection my mom has
>private teaching is so expensive that i can cant afford a single class even with goverment loans and they are beyond trash
My parents told me to leave school and just volunteer at a food bank for a little while to readjust to society and regain some confidence in others and myself.
On the other hand, I passed a semester and if I leave it will all go to waste. I would have to do it over again.
>2 years pass since graduation and i don't manage to get any jobs in accounting so have no experience
>i get desperate and apply for a call centre job at a major bank in the personal lending space and i somehow get the job
>basically all i do is take people through personal loan and credit card applications and it's pure suffering
>after a year i have enough and accidentally tell a customer to fuck off
>somehow don't get fired but i get the sense my time there is almost over, so i start looking for something, anything, that i can make a career out of
>by sheer luck i manage to get a job at another major bank as a credit analyst in their car loans space
>the job involves assessing people's loan applications and their financial situation, and deciding if we should approve them or not for a loan
>it's a proper career, incredibly easy to do, with potential to make decent money (>$120k AUD), and the company intends to train me over time, teaching me to assess self employed deals and commercial deals
>the people on my team are all extremely friendly and chill, the job offers work from home 3 days a week, we're allowed to dress however we want at work
>the only downside is it's KPI driven, and i'm extremely slow, and you have to answer phone calls from brokers regularly, and i have insane anxiety when i comes to using a phone, but it's not nearly as often as in a call centre
>tfw every normie friend you know and even YouTubers you follow are married and have kids even the more nerd looking
>yet I havent had a real long term relationship ever and have no kids
Is it over for me? I don't know what can I do to escape the hell I'm in.
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>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard these days, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Resources and Books
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"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/ (a bit cringe but decent advice)
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (something to listen to)
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)
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>says she's OK with the idea but can't do it because she's not comfortable being naked in front of another woman unless she loses 10lbs
>AND if we were to do it to lay down certain rules, she doesn't want me to penetrate nor kiss the other woman
what am I supposed to do in a threesome if I can't put my dick into the other woman?
>I need to change to become successful
Why is this so tiring? I dont want to change and put in any effort. I never really learned to put up effort, because I was too smart for school. I just last minute finished the shits.
Maybe I dont really want to succeed. My childhood and my family is fucked up obviously. But now Im here and Im just full of doubt and hopeless. Having hope is just tiring and I feel like I just inevitably will self sabotage.
In a sense Im resistant to change. I dont want to change. I want to be contrarian to get attention even if that means that Im a total looser. I feel like I cant trust anyone and Im very isolated.
Its just all so tiring. I need to make a decision but Im too tired
I am worried and not sure what to do. The police said they dont think they can do anything, but I need advice on this. I draw art for others and help the community a lot, but I don't know why this is going on.
Wat do? Inb4 kill yourself, too old for it to be romantic.
Are there any scholarships for old tardos? Also I'm not attached to the area I'm at so I'm looking for random job programs with paid training or something and wouldn't mind moving to a different country.
Anybody have any ideas or hot tips on such things or any other suggestions?
ive never been particularly socially popular. im usually excluded in social environments with people my age because im a little turbomanlet and ugly. thats why i would lose motivation.
i want to go to college because im attracted to the experience and hitting all of the social developmental milestones, but when i go im excluded from those. it feels like shit.
should i give it a serious try? im 23 now, and im much different from when i attempted the other times. im more mature, disciplined, confident, and have improved by attractiveness as much as a 5 foot 4 guy can. i know i can handle the work, but if i dont have the social/romantic experience im looking for, its not going to be worth it for me
She watches lesbian and weird stuff like old man with young girl, fisting and swingers.
But now she admitted that she watches beastiality, involving mostly horses. Male horses and women. She says she finds their penises alluring and interesting because they're so huge. When I didn't know how to react she quickly moved conversation and told me she feels bad about it.
What the fuck, since when are women into this? What am I supposed to do now?
>zero romantic interest or prospects for an entire year and a half
>starting to go bald
>ultimate goal in life is to be happily married
How fucking over is it for me
However it's just about my favorite thing ever, what do
I am 26M and haven't been involved in a serious relationship before. I had a brief "second base" encounter over two weeks with a girl who initiated it about six years ago, but nothing further than that. I've always felt attracted to women but the thought of them being too involved in my social life, finances, and me just not measuring up concerns me deeply. Historically I've always been the loner type and, like many of us, socially dense, except in more recent years. Recently, I have no reservations about socializing with new people, even with women I'm attracted to, so I don't think that is the current problem.
I see many posts here about people wanting relationships so bad, like having one will complete them or something, but I truly doubt this is true for most people and I'm worried a relationship will just hurt me in the long run. Whenever I've tried to start anything serious in my past, it just lost me friends I cared about and hurt myself and others emotionally (Note: I'm not implying this wasn't always my fault, my awkwardness, pride, and vindictiveness have hindered me in the past.) I'm also the last person in my family capable of having children, so I've come to accept the fact that my lineage may die with me altogether.
I could elaborate further, but I won't in this post for brevity's sake. I'm just not certain if my fear is holding me back, or if I should truly be alone for my own good. Do any of you have thoughts like this?
Most of the online discussion points to battery issues, but like I said, it was on just fine before I reset it, so I doubt that's the issue.
Anything else I can try? Any ideas on how to fix it?
I rarely connect with others, even those with similar interests.
I am rarely vibing with someone when talking.
I rarely 'pass' as a normal dude rather than an odd weirdo.
I rarely am sought after as a conversational partner despite my efforts to conform.
I, in turn, rarely seek out interaction with people; preferring time where I won't either awkwardly stand by listening to the convo or try to add to the convo and still fail the quick time event.
Even in text, I can rarely fit in on autistic discord servers and am rejected by others online.
On the rare occasion everything goes right for me, it is neither consistent nor the true me. I wholeheartedly feel locked out of human connection.
I think my gay room mate is so desperate to get his dick wet that he's been dropping hints that we can bang. No, I don't think he's realizing he could be bisexual, I think he's just that fucking desperate.
I mean, he is pretty hot and I'd be down, but at the same time I'd feel like I'm taking advantage of his desperation. The one gay bar around here closed down and he doesn't really use Grindr.
one side is playful, snarky, scruffy and presents as boyish as possible to the point of crossdressing; the other is reserved, brooding, and presents very feminine with a focus on elegance.
i don't know which is the real me, i go back and forth and its not did but more drastic than a change in mood. if i try and merge them then i compromise on the traits that i like in both sides. if i see something that resonates more with one side, i'll feel really determined to choose that side until the feeling fades and i go back to not knowing what part of me to choose again.
i know i sound unlikeable and for lack of a better term extremely cringe, but it's just for me. i failed at socializing and have no desire for friends/a boyfriend. talking to others just bores me and wastes time.
what should i do? what side should i choose, if any?
i can't explain it well. i'll elaborate if needed
And while I have no problem with gay people, his effeminate nasally gay voice is starting to get really fucking annoying in ways I did not consider before moving in with him.
I didn't expect his voice to get on my nerves this much.
What should I do?
what have you got what do you know what works
In order to adapt to the fucked up superficial world we live in and remain a part of society that actually talks to me i have to get on these platforms and i dont know where to start. What kind of pictures do i need to learn to enjoy taking and publishing? How do i know what my looksmatchmax is? What are "stories" and why does it matter that your workplace crush posted one? If you hit it off with a femoid in real life are you supposed to ask her phone number anymore or just her instagram? do you ask her instagram/onlyfan even if you DON'T hit it off, but still want to stay talkin, fappin? discord? when the porn models say they're looking for older men, are they talking about me? how does /b/ have so many chicks? do chads talk about discord in real life or that just an obscure gamer messenger? kik and whatsapp, or is that just for pajeet? every thought i have am i supposed to tweet? or nobody uses twitter anymore since the guy we all used to praise but now he's bad took it over. Am I missing out on using any AI tools? Do I need to watch hazbin hotel?
And then theres The TikTok, which i hear might be dying soon, something less to learn for an aging old boomer like me
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About half a year ago she suddenly had this moment of realizing she doesn't want kids. She's getting ahead in her academia and there's a lot of potential horizon out there for her. It's all very exciting and promising, and the idea of kids just seems less appealing. She said that in those early days, she was projecting who she thought she should be as a woman and as my girlfriend. As she finds her own identity in the work she's doing, she realized this has changed. She never saw herself capable of being a mother, and had no dreams of her own before we started dating. They are gradually coming into place. She now just longs to have the indulgences of wealth and comfort. She isn't sure now if she won't ever want kids, just that right now in her early 20s she wants to have a chance to live a life of her own. I'm entirely fine with that, but the real chance she won't give me children later on is now fucking with me pretty badly.
I've gotten super close with her family and really do not want to leave. Please help bros, advice, tips, experience, share it all.
If you aren't making the lives of the goyim nigger cattle as uncomfortable as possible you aren't really a bad goy.
>even when I'm doing something productive
How do I get rid of this?
>fake and gay personality, dozens of personas melded for max social benefits at lowest effort. Still the most boring person in any room
>pulling off hobby bullshit, athletic bullshit, academic bullshit, and career bullshit doesn't fill the void for longer than a day. Literally need to be on a day of being on top of the world, which takes me weeks to months to achieve each time, and I finally get relaxed, but merely for a day. Ultimately I'm just feeling hollow
>skills, knowledge, and experience deteriorate as if I'm on Alzheimer's or dementia. Have to rely on extensive notes I'm making. Not doing something for just a week turns me into a wreck when I return to it
>all spiritual, mindfulness, therapy stuff only made me despair more
>people make me disturbed but also I get mad from how easily I get lonely AND how easily I get tired from people
>have to force myself to stay calm 24/7 or else I become a burnout low-key melting wreck
Me: "Hi, how are you. Nice day right. Sun is shining."
Hipster: "Well gee I'm fucking burning from the sun and everything is fucking shit you asshole! Fuck you for telling me how I'm doing! What are you some retard who checks people how they're doing. Hurr durr I'm OP and I'm checking how the day is, FUCK YOU! Who the fuck asks that? What are you off your meds?
Me: "Why are you like this?"
Hipster: "Like what?!"
That's what I deal with with those hipsters. Just can not even with them.
I've never done poorly academically but not particularly well either, however would spend 100% of my concentration on school and nothing else. I always struggled to balance school with hobbies or a social life and would spend my free time either working, studying, or doomscrolling online in my room. About to shill out 600$ for an evaluation at my local uni in the hopes of reaching normiehood and want to know what I'm getting myself into.
Wtf do I say.
Actually it makes me mad for some reason. But mostly because I dont know what to say and it will lead to arguments.
I'm probably not asking in the best place seeing how half the threads here are about not having a girlfriend, but anyway, does anyone have experience with teaching blind people?
>Can't read or watch literally anything without getting distracted
>Have zero passion for any hobby except for jerking off on my phone
>Lay around in my bed all day
>Feel like sitting in a computer chair for a while is too much for me.
>Can't even walk around normally without bumping into things.
>even when I'm on stimulants, it only makes me shake too much to do any fine motor skills
I don't want to live like this anymore. How do I make this stop?
>gods derail her plans but at cost: im continued to be magically tied to satan woman
>finally come to the conclusion maybe i should accept being raped by her, then there will be no more satanic tie.
what should i do? should i accept her rape?
This is not a joke, please take it seriously.
I've had an obssession with Karen Carpenter for nearly 8 years now. And it's just growing day by day. I cannot last a single day without her voice, and often fantasize about her as well as how I could save her in some kind of time machine like Jeff Mangum with Anne Frank. I genuinely am in love with her, her voice, her movement, her manners, her life story etc. I cry to her voice at least once a week, and look at her pics on a regular basis.
fuck I've never fallen in love with anyone as much as her and I've had my fair share of manic pixie gfs. I just couldn't help but compare them to Karen. The painful fact remains that she passed away well before my time and I will have to cope with the fact that I will NEVER meet her in this lifetime. I just want to give her a hug and tell her how beautiful she is and how she has a once in a lifetime voice as well as drumming skills.
What should I do? I've had my fair share of obsession with celebs dead or alive, from Shelley Duvall to Carol Kane to Winona Ryder but there's just something about Karen that drives me absolutely insane. Almost as if she was my past life lover.
How likely is this to end badly?
>Go to UFCwebsite to check schedule
>See a title fight of Usman Nurmagomedov V.S Paddy Pimblet, lightweight division scheduled as last fight 18/01/2025
>Talk about it with my friends for nearly a month
>Friends say that Paddy may not make the weight, due to his bullimia
>Call another friend who's not from the same group, about it
>"Wtf, anon?! What r u talking about? Pimblet isn't fighting!"
>Check the Schedule
>"MAKHACHEV VS TSARUKYAN"
>"DVALISHVILI VS NURMAGOMEDOV"
>Wtf.jpg
>Nurmagomedov is there, but no traces of Paddy?!
>See if the fight was cancelled
>No traces of it online
>It is impossible that I would have just seen a picture of Pimblet on the UFC website and assumed he was one of the challenger.
>Even less that none of my friends bothered to verify the list and correct me, for nearly a month
>Only logical explaination is that we skipped a timeline.
How do I get back o my original timeline so that I can watch Pimblett fight?
Suppose everyone i interact with dislikes me or will come to dislike me over time if I talk to them. Assume a bare minimum of basic competence and grasp of arithmetic
If it matters, I'm male, late 20s. The bar I was at was in a college town, so most of the people there were a few years younger than me. But I'm very young looking, so I could easily pass as early 20s.
I literally cannot imagine why someone would do that unless they wanted to die.
>live with parents to cheat code
>save 65k
>make 25 per hour
>start looking at houses
>only option is a trailer home with a fucking 458 dollar a month HoA fee
>read lot rent agreement (because that's what the "HOA" basically is)
>see word "eviction"
>turn 540 degrees and walk away
My girlfriend is getting more and more impatient we don't live together. After 2 years relationship I can't even blame her. I'm so close to giving up and going NEET. It's not even worth going to work anymore.
Is it going to get better? Is there some way out?
And if it isn't, what are some other hobbies I could look into to meet new friends? I'd rather not do something that takes years and years of practice to actually get remotely good at (something like sports or art)
Now I'm 24 years old, I'm an old man and a social retard. I started going to Catholic mass a month ago, never even been to a church before, and I've been enjoying it. They serve coffee afterwards for people to drink and talk to each other, which in theory is a perfect way to make some friends, I could just go up and introduce myself to somebody. But every time I'm about to do that, I get completely overwhelmed.
When I'm not actually there it seems so easy, but when I'm about to put myself into a social situation all I can think about is "what if I look stupid, or nervous, or weird, or my hands are sweaty" and everything else, and I just can't do it. I keep trying to go but I get so anxious that I convince myself to leave every time. Even if I did go I'd probably look like I'm having a nervous breakdown. Then afterwards I feel like a fucking idiot because it's so simple.
I've never been great at talking to people, I'm a bit autistic I think, but the past few years have totally fucked with me. I've become so self conscious and socially anxious that I can barely function. I might actually not be so bad, but if I was, nobody would even tell me, they'd just not want to talk to me.
How do I cure this?
She's a pretty open person and among other things she told me how she developed an Electra complex as a child. Namely she doesn't have any kind of sexual thoughts towards her father right now but she told me how it's a part of her I guess. I don't find it repugnant because she really seems honest and a prudent, conscientious girl, I even told her that I'm a bit of an Oedipal myself (as probably a lot of you here) but I think this is some sort of calling card.
I'm not looking to manipulate her or anything but does anyone have any practical advice on dealing with girls that have severe daddy issues? I'm not looking to taunt her but to appease her. You could say that I'm exploiting a vulnerability but I'd just like to get closer to her, nothing mean.
I feel betrayed and Idk what to do about it, he hurt me very much.
I've recently been wanting to study computer science, programming
but it reaches a point where i can only think "i'll never understand this"
and although i think it comes more from an ignorant part of me and discouraging, i still want to breach this barrier
what can i do? as soon as i get to that point of "deepness" i start to get anxious and to think that's the furhtest i can go
as if i, never in my life, had actually understood something more than basically to get praised by others because of my environment (""gifted"" kid)
It's been pretty bad
I'm thinking about dropping out of city life and just buying a few acres and living simply in a yurt and doing permaculture, spending my money down. I'm spending a bunch just to sit around in this tiny city apartment anyway.
I foresee the possibility of my family also getting automated-out of the workforce, so maybe it'll be good to prep some space for them to join me and live cheaply and simply.
Dumb idea?
I've been a surgeon for a couple years now. I don't consider myself all that successful but throughout my life i'm often seen that way. Of the little family and ancillary family friends i'm touted about as doing the "right thing". You're "supposed to study" and "make something of yourself". I agree in that I'd be much more miserable without some measure of financial safety but all the training over more than a decade and a half. I never prioritized making friends. I have even less time now. My fiance lives far away since she's doing the doctor thing too. We plan to move in together again once she's graduated (2 years). We've been together 7 years now. This path has taken so much. Sometimes I wish I could have friends, play games with them on discord, go out for beers, or fish. Anything. It's just me and my dog now. My lady visits me and I visit her whenever we can. But I wish we could share the bed each night. It's so lonely sometimes I feel like im dizzy or drunk. No drug or food or drink has been able to make this more tolerable. It's easiest just working more. Work and think at work - but when things get silent when once I stop the sleep catches up the dark covers me and i wake up alone .
>Younger of 2 siblings in loving middle class family
>Normal happy childhood
>Agnostic mother; atheist father
>Love to draw
>Mom (nurse) has stroke when I’m 11 from trying to lift morbidly obese patient
>Barely survives surgery
>Permanent brain damage resulting in little damage to her cognition, but total loss of impulse control
>Starts doing every kind of drug, stops eating
>Homelife becomes a nightmare
>Mom loses weight, bottoming out at 90lb, starts talking about killing herself constantly
>Dad has to quit new job to pick back up at his old one (lots of travel; I’m left at home with mentally deranged mom + abusive older sibling)
>Escape into my art
>Flash forward 7 years, both parents are separated after both cheating on each other
>Still love them both after everything
>Show Mom drawing of picture I had been working really hard at ; she starts crying and tells me to never give up, shows off drawing to every family member, talks about it every time I see her
>2 years later, Mom passes away from a whole panoply of causes (I’m 20)
>see it happen, see her take her last breath knowing that was it
>Devastated
>Continue working on art, focus everything on it
>Go to art school next year; drop out after 2 years because it’s art school (full of “activists,” useless degree, admin keeps lying about scholarship stuff/raising tuition)
>Work throughout my 20’s, supporting myself while working on art
>31 now, lost most of my friends, cut off contact with sibling
>No followers online, can’t make money (duh)
>Found God through the process of creating my art, so that’s a plus
>Otherwise, I guess I just suck at art because I'm a total failure
>Was already in the midst of yet another depressive episode recently
>David Lynch died
I think I wanna give up. Really want to die desu but can’t because it would fuck over too many people. Thinking about converting to Catholicism or Orthodoxy to eventually become a monk.
How do I make sense out of any of this?
so what the fuck DO i do now? i mean really i thought xanax was supposed to be the good stuff. the ones i took are supposedly 10x stronger and i don’t feel ANYTHING. i still CANT SLEEP.
and heres the kicker. i can’t sleep so i end up staying up all night: which leads to me crashing in the day and sleeping all day. and because i slept all day i can’t sleep at night. which leads to me crashing in the day and sleeping all day. and because i slept all day i can’t sleep at night. which leads to me crashing in the day and sleeping all day. and because i slept all day i can’t sleep at night. which leads to me crashing in the day and sleeping all day. and because i slept all day i can’t sleep at night.
It literally drives me insane. the less i sleep the more psychopathic angry and deranged i become. im getting this server job soon. its gonna be absolutely hell if i cant sleep so please help me
I've tried dating since I've developed it and it's always gone wrong. The relationship starts out normal until they realize just how fucking weird and insane I am and then they leave. But what if they could understand a little better?
If it turns out to be a horrible idea and I end up getting stabbed in my sleep or something like that, at least I tried.
I know im fucked, what can i do to mitigate the fuckedness?
>lose my job
>decide to sell apartment but have a buncha money saved up
>"I'll just do it later"
>money runs dry
>decide to sell apartment now
>nobody wants to buy
>all my assets are almost liquified
I keep having these moments where if I just fucking did it, I wouldn't be fucked. I don't know how to fix this, it's like my brain simply does not care. I have zero stress or urge to do what should be done, I can only do what needs to be done. I want to change as a person
How do I get rid of it?
Im honestly thinking about dorpping out for this, but at the same time Ive been in my msc for 2.5 years and would graduate next semester.
What to do?
My maternal grandfather had male pattern baldness.
My understand is that gives me at least 50:50 chance of having it.
Both of my brothers got it and are balding badly.
Weird thing is, at 27 they were way worse then I am. I am actually having a hard time telling if I have it or, just have a really shit hairline.
Its definitely receded compared to highschool photos though
Should I get on the anti-balding medications? I can't live without my hair, but I can't let it get worse (if it is getting worse). But I don't even know if its going to. Its already bad. I'm seeing my doctor tomorrow and thinking about asking for finasteride+minoxidil
1) Supermarket job
2) Programming job
I do find programming alright but I dunno if I want to commit to it. The supermarket job would give me time to think about what I want to do.
What features should I add?
Anything annoying or clunky about it?
Any cool ideas to make it stand out?
Let me know your thoughts. Rip it apart if you have to—just want to make it as good as possible.
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I'm at the age where gaming is a huge waste of time but I would stream the game since it's so popular it'd be easier to build a following.
At this point should I just build a new computer?
Money is no object but I don't want to consume. But I haven't felt this excited in a long time. For reference, I was vacationing EU and SEA a few months ago and I wasn't even this excited.
Just feels like something I'm more excited about wanting to do than having done it. The chase is more thrilling essentially.
Now that I'm moving to a different area and switching gyms, I have to go and cancel my membership. Would it be a bad idea to ask her out?