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Is it that simple? Am I supposed to accept my self worth the same way I accept the law of contradiction?
Reason: Why not?
How do I achieve this? Any advice or tips are appreciated, thank you.
And no I won't do poppers
My dream is to earn enough through passive income that I can "retire" and focus on my hobbies (art, animation, 3D)...
My current investments, over the past 5 years, earned me an average of +4.5% value YoY. So above inflation, just barely.
That's not nearly enough.
I need books, tips, and advice on becoming a property investor/landlord.
I can save enough to buy an apartment, since that's a much higher ROI source but I need to know how to manage it...
How do I undo this situation? I pretty much checked out of life after I was 12 years old thanks to COVID and I never bounced back from it. I was born in 2007 and I still think of me and people my birth year as just kids because I never hit any milestones it feels weird that I am an adult now. It’s crazy that people my age are already driving and having sex and marrying and I just spent all my life at my computer and phone.
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>date this super hot, super manipulative girl, 23F, a year ago
>turned her down for a serious relationship even though I had feelings for her, had doubts, red flags everywhere
>she lost it, insulted me, made scenes, tried to get me kicked out of our gym
>she got a new boyfriend immediately after, guy mustve been lined up already
>no closure, just silence, we both moved on
>we see each other at the gym regularly, she ignores me completely
>cold shoulder for almost a year, avoids even looking at me
>she knows I have a gf
>people tell me shes talking with her bf about me all the time while working out, how shit I am and what not
>asks a staff member about how I'm doing, if there's any news about me
>last Tuesday, we see each other at the gym again
>later that night, she sends me a WhatsApp message
>deletes it before I can read it
>still blocked by her, so she had to unblock me, type the message, send the message. cant be an accident.
>next time at the gym, she acts different
>normally avoids looking at me, now she's facing me more, seems more approachable
>still doesn’t talk, but it feels like she wants me to notice her
>what’s her angle? testing me, fishing for attention, or something else? she still has her bf and brings him to the gym from time to time
I would never message her, because we are both in relationships and I have no interest in her being able to spread rumors that I tried to reach out or contact her. she doesnt seem to care about these things.
It's kind of a boundary violation. The fact that she messaged me shows a lack of respect and impulse control.
I have given her absolutely no reason to contact me. There's nothing we need to discuss or coordinate.
I’d list all the shit she pulled on me, but this post would be way too long.
I was always patient with her (probably made her think I'm weak), but I’ve had enough of her games and want to teach her some respect. how?
The other night while we were together, she went to share something from Facebook messenger on her phone, and the first suggested contact to share to was her ex. (Huge red flag for me)
When I checked whose Netflix she uses, it's his.
Her Facebook is still full of old pictures of them together as well, and none of us together.
I highly doubt she is cheating on me physically, also her cuck ex bf lives in Europe where he belongs. However of course there is a possibility at these concerts they both perform at. This really disturbs me.
This type of "emotional" cheating does in fact bother me quite a bit. As recently as last year she was liking content on his Facebook and even a "heart" emoji on one of his profile pictures. Wtf is up with that? You hearted his gay ass profile picture???
Am I cooked or what? I'm not even sure how to bring up this topic and it has been festering in my head for a while and only getting worse.
I feel very disrespected and want to confront her, but I don't want it to turn into a huge blow up. Unless of course it's worse than I think. What do you think bros
>coworker is 16f, going on 17 this month
>she’s cute as fuck and has taken a liking to me, which is fairly uncommon
>reciprocate these feelings
>eventually get her number and start texting n a regular basis, learn that she acts very childlike
>still attracted to her but feel very guilty, like a disgusting fuck who’s trying to deflower an impressionable child
What the fuck do I do here? I understand it’s weird but I really do dig this chick. I have zero intention of being predatory or rape-y towards her at all. I believe that genuine sexual predators oughta get beaten half to death. But still the guilt is starting to set in now that I’ve somewhat committed to the act. How do I proceed?
How do I tell her I'm breaking up to cause the most amount of emotional damage to her?
>write a letter gaslighting her that she never made me feel loved and someone else did
>just ghost her completely
>write a letter that says basically nothing except it's over
>write a letter implying I think she cheated (she didn't) and the ghost her
>send her a video of me and the new girl fucking
Any other ideas? I don't know which one would be the best.
Right now I'm leaning towards the letter making her think that I think she cheated.
>dont talk with anyone and have no social life
>jewish teach is taking us to clean a jewish graveyard
>people from all classes are coming
>very few will come anyway
>opportunity to meet folk
Should I go?
I literally have been in therapy, studying this shit
>upper middle class parents, went to private schools
>almost got a philosophy degree bachelors (have to write a 60 page thesis to finish)
>was a rebel that’s why it took me so long
>107 IQ
>want to be a physicist or some respectable career like that
>have AGP so in the meantime I thought it would be hot to get a job at a makeup store lol
>have worked like 3 months total in my life
>can paint quite well but I’m not a real artist so i would feel like a grifter even though my art has divine inspiration
>spend my days gooning
>want to get out but I’m addicted to the internet
>if I quit or diminish the internet I get massive stress that makes me sleep 3 hours a day
>my fathers lawyer can maybe offer me a job as a real estate agent
>my father wants me to help him at his job but it sounds lame I wouldn’t leave the house
>I have never had sex
>I am on female hormones despite identifying as a man just to goon .
>feels like my life is over and it’s too late to start anything
>also started an online associates on programming but I fear we will be replaced by ai so I stopped but I could resume I guess would finish in 1.5 years .
>want to work to improve my situation but I don’t even know how
I used to think I could spend my life on a computer. Now everything feels so fake and annoying. You don't find neat little cool things anymore. Everything is just heavily corporatized psyops and normie shitflinging.
I feel completely alone as I am not compatible with any racial group
There seems to be no online forums for people like me, every black forum is delusionally ethnocentric
how do i unlearn this? it seems to honestly be one of my problems when pursuing a relationship with a woman.
>inb4 just troon out
Larping as an ugly manlet will effectively end what little chance I had at love in the first place. I don't agree with the ideology, and while I find myself agreeing with and relating to men more, I'm not retarded enough to believe I'm a man trapped in the wrong body.
now i’ve been with my gf for 7 months and haven’t seen my ex since, until yesterday. i went to a book store with my gf and i noticed my ex. i completely ignored her and felt incredibly tense just seeing her, but then my gf and ex just hugged each other??
turns out they met at the gym a few months ago and have been friends ever since? i had no clue and my gf knows about the history and doesn’t care.
why hasn’t my gf said anything about this, am i wrong for thinking this is weird as shit? all this time they’ve been going to the gym together sometimes and even went shopping
Im soon 24 and before i turn 30 i have a bunch of cosmetic surgeries i want to do.
3 weeks ago I did my hair transplant to fix my hairline and it worked out great as you can see by my hairlone it works out great (wont be thick and natural for another 12 months)
And next im getting my eyebrows lasered so they permanently go from the mid pic to the bottom pic (first time in the coming week)
Then my question is what should i do next? i have a bunch of other surgeries lined up that i want to do but need to save up for and in what order?
Fixing a slightly bent tooth with some sort of teeth correction device that costs the equivalent of 5k usd (pic of teeth in replies)
Teeth whitening which im considering next since it only costs the equivalent of 500 dollars but i would have to pay another 500 dollars after fixing my teeth if i do that first so im unsure if i should wait for that
Jaw surgery for a more prominent jaw (pic in replies, kinda not accurate since i put on 10kgs due to the surgery and fat goes to my face
Eyelid surgery (normal surgeons wont do this because the "difference is too small" so i have to go to a top guy in france and that costs 15k )
Height surgery (went from 174cm to 176-8 cm after fixing my back but i want to be 185cm) and its very expensive
Nose surgery cause my nose is so big
And lastely if i cant fix it through training, shaving of the hip bone surgery)
Which do you think i should do next? Which is worse and most "urgent"?
only I sent was my first name and an obscured pic
I just want to know if its an empty thread
what should i do to prepare? can i just scream jury nullification to get out or will they arrest me.
(both /r/ and /wsr/ are closed so I'm asking here)
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>like to keep a very specific schedule of events every day
>huge emotional over-reactions to mundane events so have to live life on eggshells
>huge terror of displeasing others and being yelled at
>this is a sword of Damocles over my head
>even consciously acknowledging this doesn't stop it
Is there any help? I think my nervous system is just bugged and I've always been like this. Only help is to escape into escapism for long periods and null my sense of self-awareness.
>stuck in burger king bathroom with diarrhea
>apparently it's also a cruising spot
>so far three men have attempted to initiate gay sex
>one of them stuck his dick under the shared wall between our stalls
What the fuck do I do? I've been here 20 minutes but it's felt like an eternity. I know i'm not going to make it to my car without shitting myself, let alone the drive home. How do I make my diarrhea stop immediately?
Her highlights were pics with her parents, sister, friends (not even “hot” pictures she could regret or pictures of a pet that may have died). And then she suddenly deletes them. Does it mean she is going through some type of crisis? is that the 2020s equivalent of dying your clothes black in the middle ages? I need to know what’s the reason she may have done this.
I've been searching for a woman that wants to be my girlfriend, but they all don't seem to want a boyfriend.
I thought girls wanted romance and love and shit.
Right?
However, we disagreed on a few fundamental things. Many of my friends are trans, and he think it’s all a fetish. He thinks having exes as friends “rots the soul,” but I have a good friendship with both of them. I considered breaking things off, but decided I’d stick with it because he said himself that he was open to changing his mind about trans people.
Things were normal, but then literally within a half hour of him asking me to call him darling, he said that he “sees now” that we will never date because casualness “cheapens” his future relationships. I asked him to call, agreed that it was a logical decision because of his values, and asked if he genuinely liked me or if he was just eager to date anyone. He says he genuinely liked me, and that he was uncertain about dating ever since I told him my stance on long distance that week ago. He then blocked me. I thought we could’ve stayed friends.
I realized I made a mistake, and sent a long message saying that I genuinely enjoyed his company and was mistaken in being overly detached with an alt account. He said no and then “embittered” my view of him by saying rightoid bs I don’t care about. Then, he blocked me again.
What the hell is this? I just don’t get how a person can say “I think we are perfect together” and then later do this shit within the span of a week. The reason he ended things was because of casualness, but how is chasing after him and admitting to my mistake not a change from that one barrier?
I started dating her at 22 when she was 25 and I was pretty introverted when I met her so I never dated anyone else
Her friend suggested I have sex with other girls since men dont attach emotionally so easily and itll boost my confidence
She is not going to have sex with other men and has no desire to so itll only be me going crazy for 6 months
How should I approach this she says I cant fall in love with or date any other girls
>she already has a bf and is clearly not as interested in being with me as much as I am with her
I feel like after college everyone starts doing their own shit
I have a big test coming up in a month and I've burnout my will to study anything.
even when I force myself I just stare at the pages, and have this brain fog all the time.
Any advice?
>he's the CFO of a large company with a banging hot wife, while you remain a mentally ill incel NEET
unironically how the fuck do I even cope
I’m happy for my friend "matt" getting married, but I can't shake the deep sense of despair that comes from realizing he accomplished something I couldn't. Not even the "Chad" of our group, who’s a self-destructive nihilist wasting his life on shallow affairs, has reached this level of personal fulfillment.
Because that guy’s an idiot, constantly unhappy even with his superior looks. But my friend "matt", the one getting married, somehow outdid ALL of us. He’s marrying a beautiful, loving woman who’s completely devoted to him and the cherry on top is that she is a virgin.
I’m happy for him, sure, but I'm also jealous, bitter, and feel utterly unlovable. I’ll never have that, and it’s eating me alive. The worst of it is that i hate myself for feeling this way,.
Because I should just be happy for him. I used to comfort myself with the idea that if even "Chad" can’t be happy, then I’m fine because i have an excuse to say "if someone like him cant start a family its fine.that i cant". But now I’ve realized someone from my own group has made it, not because he's special or wealthy, and it’s destroyed me. I have no excuse to be mediocre anymore. I'm garbage, I should feel proud of my friend but I'm envious of him. I will never compare him. Not even our "Chad" friend could with his supreme looks. If Matt could what's stopping me? I'm a mediocre imbecile.
I am from eastern europe, more specifically romania and I would be interested in getting trained as a soldier for many different reasons.
However due to high probability of conscription I would rather not be on any list of military trained men(if the training my government provided was of any worth at all).
In my country you can't even have a knife on you while being on public property much less own a gun unless you're a high ranking government employee. So this possibility is out.
Nor am I medically able to serve in the french foreign legion due to chronic diseases.
> Suicidal ideation from 8yo. Absent dad, whore mom.
> Might be autistic--my younger siblings are. I was never tested. Diagnosed w/ ADHD at 25. 130+ IQ.
> Started college the Spring Covid happened. Became a hermit. Moved to a small town that has no clue I exist (aside from the occasional trash cleanup). I have several acres of property and I'm more capable than your typical CS grad, but not much else.
After graduating I've been unemployed for 3 months now (on top of the 4 years I spent for my degree). I take care of elderly family, but I'm losing my mind with this free time. I got offers to apply to the Navy for NUPOC or as a NOAA Comissioned Officer, which I will chase, but I lack confidence, particularly due to no (since 2020) employment history. I spent most my life playing vidya and tried hard to separate myself from that identity during college as a freelancer, but there's little fruit.
I have a literal handful of IRL friends that are all dumber (less educated) but more successful than me, all who work manufacturing/trades or own their own business.
Do I go all in as a manufacturing/tradie wage slave? Do I stick it out and try to land a unicorn gig? I had imposter syndrome until right before the the free money in tech dried up. I like working with my hands and learning new skills, and I'm a competent programmer.
I'm fortunate to have wealthy family to care after, I just want to be able to make it on my own, especially if I move to the city. My dad failed me growing up, I'm the most masculine role model in my household. I hate myself for it, but I need guidance.
My contingency plan for the last X years has literally been a bullet. I don't really care what I do at this point, I just want to leverage my skills and make a (eventual) living from it.
Sorry for the rant, I'm drunk and looking for any advice. I'm losing my mind staying in front of a screen all day every day. I need some actionable advice.
and for the past few months I've been thinking about getting into trading instead of pursuing a conventional career.
it's something you can do at home, by yourself with very little equipment. i think maybe I could start with paper trading, learning the ins and outs for several months with a few books and videos, I'll avoid any courses or "gurus".
afterwards I could start actually trading, not focusing on monetary returns but just paying attention to percentages, i'd only be trading pennies at this point, so there's no risk of me fucking up majorly.
i'll document, what I do wrong and what I do right and how I can improve. upping the amount of money I put in slowly over time. i think maybe after 3-4 years of this I could become decently profitable and make a living wage and maybe have enough money to put into long term investments?
I'm not looking to be a millionaire, i just want enough to be comfortably independent.
my mother gives me around $15 dollars a week so I do have a tiny bit of an income stream to invest with.
worst case scenario: if I still can't hack it after 4 years of giving it my all I'll still only be 21-22 years old. that's still quite a bit of time to set myself on another path, right?
does this sound silly to you? why or why not? any other advice?
That's what it's about, right? You read part of a book, then everyone discusses how they understood it? Is this even a good way to meet new people or is everyone too busy masturbating to their own intelligence?
I can appeal tomorrow. Will the jannies spare me? What do you even say to appeal this?
>No girl has ever asked me out
>No girl has ever displayed a sign of romantic interest in me
Do I just move on and give up? How?
How do I prepare and not be nervous or awkward?
They told me that Ill hear back from them either Monday or Tuesday, but I want confirmation now because I start another job tomorrow just in case I didn’t get this one.
What do I do? I don't want to inquire and come across as a prick.
I tried all the Witcher powers and potions, also I'm trying to get through the stage without a shirt on let me know if this is like impossible or you know how to do it? K thanks
But I guess I think about it more than a person that's never been adopted
I was wondering, what happens if you're never adopted? I know what happens "legally", but I mean
Where is that people? I know no one thats never been adopted, like "I'm 40, nobody adopted me, but I studied ***. I work at ***",
Like, that people exist, but, where are they? I know they wont have the easiest life or be the cherry of the pie, but they gotta exist. Anyone knows, Idk, for example, a podcast or an interview with an unadopted person?
Around a year and a a half ago my parents led me into a weird scheme saying they would bail me out financially if it didn't work. As a result after it failed I lost my job and despite my asking repeatedly they refuse uphold their promise.
Entirely my fault for believing them as I'm pretty sure my family are all psychopaths. I've made many attempts at my life ranging from almost hanging myself when I was 14 after my mother told me to my face she wished she had aborted me, to somehow slicing my wrists at around age 5 while my sister watched with no reaction.
This place being remote I lost access to the therapists I had began seeing due to overwhelming depression resulting in me stopping medication. And I have no idea what to do. I would start dumpster diving but due to not having a phone I can't do it unless it's in broad daylight.
What should I do ?
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What does it mean? How should i respond?
Obviously I think we're gonna have sex, but I am extremely anxious. I've never had sex before so I really don't know what to expect, and she is older so I'm probably gonna embarrass myself by being way more inexperienced than her.
Also I should I wear swim trunks in the hot tub or don't wear anything?
Old friend of mine, told me it will eventually come around. he moved back to Russia, it came around to him.
Other friend of mine (slightly older than me), always out partying on weekends, always ask him if I could tag along, never invited me anywhere. Same goes for former classmates (I changed schools when I was 14).
Mother and grandmother tell me that I'm "different" (that's true) and that some people simply participate in such activities. Tbh, it sounds like the biggest cope to me.
So anyway when I'm done with school and even if I go to university, I highly doubt that my chances of going to parties will rise.
So my question is, will it happen? Will I have the best night of my life someday, or am I destined, to die as a loser like my grandmother tells me?
It pisses me off so much to be honest, I simply cannot imagine working till retirement without having being young once.
I think I'll just going to kill myself someday to be honest. I guess I'll never be truly happy. There's no coming back for me. I'll stick around a few years, until my mom dies, then I'm gonna do it.
The bad news is that it was apparently being used to block a hole in the wall. And I still haven't found a rat corpse even though other people say there's a smell.
Does anyone know the cheapest and easiest way to deal with a hole in the wall/corner?
however i fear i will break under the pressure; i am not sure i can be awake and congenial full time..
what do
Now that I’m self sufficient and live on my own he won’t leave me alone. Constantly ringing me, constantly texting me and asking if I want to hang out or go over, and I don’t want to. Should I just block him? He’s an extremely negative piece of shit and I don’t really want to have anything to do with him.
Saw doctor and he was just like sleep better, eat better, get exercise etc and sent me to get blood test.
I'm trying to do all that but I'm skeptical that's the issue because I'm not that bad with any of that in the first place. Since moving to a new city starting a new course 2 months ago I've been more stressed than usual, haven't been eating great nor getting a lot of exercise but it don't think it's so bad to be causing this sort of problem.
Yesterday I tried going for a hike. I was already feeling lightheaded when I started. It was only about 3km but I was really struggling towards the end, felt really out of it and close to collapsing. I don't think this is normal.
Aside from lethargy and lightheadedness I've been having a dull discomfort around my appendix.
I'll be back at the doctor in a few days but I wanted to see if these kinds of symptoms is something anyone recognises?
>m 20y
>mom passed away when i was 10
>just me and dad against the world
>have a great relationship with him, he’s always understanding and have great advice for me
>get a partial scholarship at the local college
>my dad gets really happy, says that he’s gonna pay for my tuition
>my life has been amaizing for the last year
>great grades
>got into a life changing intership
>dad is a blue collar worker and is very happy that I’m getting a good education
>ask me for help with his phone early this morning
>says that’s really slow
>open Google Chrome
>open the tabs to close them
>10 tabs of daddy and son incest porn
wtf do I even do now?
As short as I can make it, I (adult f) was raped by my biological father and his friends when I was around 5-6, so severly that it left my guts and holes permanently scared and stuck together. This has ruined many aspects of my biological life. Can't shit without pain, can never have sex let alone kids, stomach hurts everyday and I have to have surgery every few years to address constant regrowth of scar tissue, adhesions, Etc.
That I could take, but I am starting to fear this also ruined my life mentally.
While I am somewhat lucky and I barely remember the 'incident', I have been passivly suicidal for most of my life. I am full of anger and despair most days, deeper hate and pity others. I do mask these feelings very well, so much so that annoying, weak people in my life constantly lean on me as their 'rock'. I am tired. Tired of the truths of the world people choose to ignore, tired of weak willed people wanting support despite their incredibly minimal efforts, tired of peoples surface level pathetic self centered advice, all of it. I do not live because what's the worth of a deadwoman's actions? I do not have desires because what's the worth of a husk's wants? Everything I do feels selfish and guilty and I honestly feel like I'm just waiting to die. I've fought it for years with superficial things but I'm tired.
I have very recently developed a terrible alcohol addiction that I am hiding very well, but even this is eating at me for shame of overconsumption and laziness. Any advice on how I could push through it all? Somehow make it out okay?
> and don't give me some shitty self centered advice 'you wish you'd told yourself years ago', actually imagine being fucked so violently as a small 35 pound child that you could never shit, move or fuck again before you type a response.
Shes working abroad for six months and suggested I take this time to go crazy and sleep with other women before settling down with her in the fall. She says shes completely okay with it and even finds it hot as long as I dont fall in love or date anyone. She has no desire to be with other men so this would only be me seeing other people since as a man I wont get as attached from casual sex.
I was considering breaking up with her because I felt like I was missing out on new experiences but her best friend proposed this as a way for me to get it out of my system while we are apart. Ive never been in any kind of open relationship before and I have no idea how to approach this. I dont want to ruin what we have but I also dont want to always wonder what if… My girl is pretty and smart and nice and hardworking and I know Ill never do better than her since shes pretty doctor and Im an autistic factory worker but Id like to go crazy to get it out of my system but dont want to ruin our relationship.
I've used the unhook browser extension to block everything excluding the video I want to watch on YouTube, Iv'e turned my videos to full screen to not get distracted by the comments and video feed aaaaaannnnnndddddd I end up clicking out of full screen and uninstalling the browser extension because it only takes 2 clicks and I have switched to use open source front ends such as invidious to do the exact same thing I've always been doing: wasting time. I don't think YouTube is going to work for me ever.
I have unlimited backup from google for free so I'm mainly doing it just to feel like I'm screwing them over.
>I have failed to form and maintain romantic relationships.
>I have failed to maintain relationships with family members/relatives.
>I have been deemed too incompetent to have relationships and conversations with other people.
I have no one. I am a social failure. An outcast amongst outcasts, a loser amongst all losers.
No amount of internal validation can replace external validation.
He does this shit with everything in life. He bought a $1600 set of toolboxes from Harbor Freight and never touched them. He's paid like $2000 for a bunch of chinese no-name ebay tile saws because he saw someone on youtube cut rocks in half. He hasn't touched them. The man lives check-to-check despite maxed out social security and a huge pension. He drains his bank accounts monthly. At what point can I legally claim that he's unfit to make spending decisions? Should I threaten to sue the Ford dealership salesman?
I'm admittedly a pretty big coomer in between relationships which probably has something to do with this, but I've looked at hentai probably once in the past 3 weeks and still no luck. I've been working out to boost my T, abstaining from stimulants to help my circulation and meditating in hopes of gaining control of my attention. Nothing has worked.
Any advice? Should I just bite the bullet and purchase blue chews or hims?
I feel I should move past these thoughts and hope to one day love a woman who loves me in return. However, another thought troubles me—I don’t want to bring a child into this broken world. This makes the idea of a traditional relationship feel pointless, leading me to question my future.
At the same time, I’ve developed a connection with an 18-year-old guy. While we initially met through mutual attraction, we’ve come to genuinely care for each other. I can’t help but wonder—are we together because of lust, or is true love possible between us? We both see love realistically, valuing companionship over idealized romance, yet I struggle with whether this is right.
I don’t want to be a coward and deny who I am, but I also want to follow God’s will. I know that we all need Him, yet our actions often say otherwise. This paradox leaves me feeling lost, searching for clarity and guidance.
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.
>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard these days, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)
REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.
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When I get stressed I start browsing vr and jacking off to rule 34
There are times when I have a life in the real world but I always relapse
> Skipped a class, in a good university
> Reasonably talented, musician but I can't dress for shit
> Not actively trying to get a gf but it still eats at me that i'll be 18 and never have had that opportunity.
> First year of college over soon
> I know it comes much later for some people, but I'm not a fan of this life. I reckon I'm gonna start counting the weeks left to motivate myself.
>26 years old
>IT Helpdesk for 8 months
>40k a year
>Small college
>Do literally nothing most days, work maybe 1-2 hours a day
>sit in front of my computer being available for help if needed
>48 potential days off a year including holidays and sick time, more like 30 usable days
>No one gives a shit if I lie and take a fake sick day
>free reign to take certs and classes if desired
>general college campus perks like free food, one class a semester, gym access
>Insurance, it's shitty but better than nothing.
However
>No one gives a shit here at all
>Coworker is a slob, lazy and depressed. He's worked here 5 years and only makes 45k a year which says a lot about pay raises
>Director of IT is weirdly confrontational with every other team but us, makes people afraid to talk to us
>Infrastructure sucks, no current employees fault as turnover is really high
>No one gives a shit if I help or not. I spent 3 months cleaning up the shit show that was our office and daily I watch my coworker shit it up again by never cleaning after himself
>Feel unliked by college as a whole, though some people are nice I've had people be rude to me as early as 3 months in because they don't like our team. Like wtf did I personally do to you to deserve that
I guess it's obvious that I hate my job and want to quit. But I'm feeling nervous about it as it's a lazy and easy gig. However I feel like I'm rotting, I'd be much happier working in the outdoors somehow and have a few fun summer jobs lined up. I live in a very outdoorsy area, too. It also hurts that the starting wage at the gas station is as much as my wage.
Basically, am I crazy for wanting to drop this job. I am unsure of the future and worry that by leaving this cushy job I'm setting myself up for pain later. Maybe I'm being young and dumb but I'm also not that young and worry about job prospects.... But also, my gut says run away. Just looking for perspective.
>her first bf
>after one of her mental breakdown decide to end it
>4 months later have new gf
>she's perfect and better looking
>heart tears apart everytime i think of bpdemon
I can't help but feel like i should go back to her, she's still not over me and seeing her in pain breaks me. But i dont have any reason to break up with current one.
How can i get over the bpd?
Can they change after suffering a breakup?
If my idea is retarded please offer suggestions.
I also don't want to be retarded and contact each of them to avoid getting snitched on. I tried searching discord groups but I haven't found anyone who attends that class, these serves are either dead or don't allow cheating.
How do I contact these people if I don't have any way to know their names or personal information?
It's just that it's 27th year of my life and I haven't done shit. I don't care about the usual stuff like money, GFs, sex, creating a family, pursuing a career, getting some material shit like a house or a car, but there's nothing else that would ring a bell in me. Hell, I can't even boast about the amount of movies, series, cartoons, anime, vidiya or any other media that I've consumed because my list of these is pretty thin.
In terms of arts, crafts and any other skills and abilities, I have none beside reading things quickly and writing long texts like this OP-post. There were some attempts at drawing and programming but they haven't last very long because my general interest in these things was low. I've read a load about many things that I could do at my home with a computer as well as about many other things, but nothing really made me just go and do this or that. Even as a kid I haven't done anything in particular beside playing with my toys, watching TV, reading books and doodling stuff, so I have no points of reference in my past that I could use now nor do I have any right now.
So what can I even do about? I was supposed to sort this shit in my school years or even earlier, but not now being a grown-ass adult.
So, if you were learning the piano from scratch without any prior experience, how would you go about it?
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I don't know what to do with myself. I'm tired of trying to be a man and make something of myself. I just want to go back and relive those 2 years forever. Dating is off the table since I will always compare any potential partner to her so why bother? I hate feeling this way because I can guarantee she would not want me to be stuck in the past with her. She'd be proud of the progress I've made and encourage me to persevere and find some meaning in my life, yet that somehow makes it hurt more. I can't forgive myself for every mistake I made during our relationship. I can't shake the thought that if I was better to her she would still be alive.
I'd really appreciate some advice on how to live with the fact she's gone forever. Of course I've been in therapy, tried many therapists, even tried meds, but nothing has really helped. This recent bout of misery is unbearable and feels like it won't end. How can I remember her without wanting to die? This world is horrible and she was the only thing that ever made me feel human. I don't want to be here anymore, I feel so alone.
It doesn't matter if you are atheists, catholic, muslim or whatever. If you want advice it could be easier if you clarify if you are catholic or not (not out of discrimination, but the sort of advice I could give to someone who's educated in the Catholic faith is pretty different to the one I could give to someone who is not).
I told her to ask my cousin, who survived a different type of cancer, but I don’t know if that’ll help. She says she has faith and will fight, but deep down, I think she’s just saying that to make me feel better. She never really prioritized herself, which is weird because her siblings sure did. I feel conflicted because I’ve already given her all of my advice, and I can’t shake the anger and frustration I feel. I don’t know how to help or if I even should. What should I do?
why shouldnt i end it tonight
That section where they ask what race you are, your ethnicity, what gender you are, and whether or not you're a veteran?
Does that have any impact on whether a hiring manager is going to consider my application?
ANY impact at all?
Special unit active-War soldier, SWAT team member\SORT member, or even mma\bluhurt\rugby amateur player. non-violent yet extreme jobs like Underwater Welder, altitude rescue\medicine missions. etc
WTF Am I supposed to do? i changed and suited my whole lifestyle to be manlier: diet, sleep pattern, exercise type, so on.
>inb4 being a rEAl Man is about being a (((householder)))
No. Im Celibate.
I'm a turboincel but I've come to realise that I don't want the formal process of a marriage. Would it be hard to find a woman that agrees with the same and isn't cooked?
Where do I find real masculine men?
First rule: Never let women choose, make choices for them so that they follow you with less hesitation.
Second rule: Power perceived is power achieved. You're never weak and everything you achieve is done behind the closed doors. Never let them enter your real world.
Let's talk about these.
This thread is not for weak men who think being kind and funny is a positive trait for sexual attraction. Goes without saying this thread is also not for actual women, fuck off.
But seriously, I'm a 25yo virgin and the 3 women I've dated in my life have all accused me of being a player or having other women.
>I've been called handsome/fit/chad/ told I should be a model from a few people/ told I could do an onlyfans by both a man and one of the women I went on a date with
Never slept with these women or even kissed them. And 2 of them even came back to me a month later to tell me that they hooked up with another guy.
>Lliterally, when it happened the second time it was like a scary case of deja vu
>When the first girl did it I thought she was just a fucking weirdo, but it happened twice
The thing I noticed is that I never really pushed for sex, I genuinely wanted to get to know these women. With the most recent one
>Who bragged to me that she slept with someone else
>To which I told her she was fucked in the head for going out of her way to do that
The night of our first date I walked her back to her place, I stood outside hers, gave her a hug and said I'll see her again. The next day she said to me in person that it wasn't going to workout and I should just have my fun with my other women
I have had drunk club sluts ask me to eat them out in the toilets but that's just gross as fuck. Had one woman ask me to spit in her mouth Infront of her boyfriend, that was a fucking rough situation as he just looked at me like.he was about to smash my fucking face in.
But the thing is I don't really want to hookup, I wanted a connection, I wanted the relationship that my family members seem to have. Yet the 3 women I've went on a date with all seemed to be pissed at me that I didn't want to hookup on the first night, and then accuse me of having other women no matter how much I denied it. And as I say 2 of the 3 actually went out their way to tell me that they hooked up with another guy... As If to get some weird "get back" on me.
Also, based on my features, which Asian country do I appear to belong to? Japan? The Philippines? Thailand?
Worst case scenario you break up and hate each other, best case scenario you both don't really find each other attractive anymore but stay together because you still like each other like normal friends. And honestly why should I even try to get into a romantic relationship if we're just gonna end up friends who fuck from time to time. I might just try it at least once to see for myself, but I don't have too much hope for it. Are my thoughts on this just completely out of touch with reality or are romantic relationships just a scam?
>Apply to a store that I think will be a pretty good fit for me
>Immediately get surprise invitation to a "video interview" where I have to answer questions on webcam
>Have 72 hours to do it. If I fail at this point, they'll never consider me for the job again.
>Simply cannot. The fact I don't know who will look at it, the fact that they're doing it to "screen me out," is insurmountably dreadful.
After thinking about it, it offends me on a level as deeply as if I were to be blindfolded, told to get on my knees, and then enthusiastically suck an anonymous person off or I'll never even have a chance at getting the job. Am I not fit for this world? What should I do?
I think the mindset this website taught me about 'hiding your powerlevel' ruined my ability to socialize.
I don't really know how to respond. I have often had trouble cumming if I am not going fast, but to be honest I had never considered my average pace of sex "rough". To be fair, I had only really had experience with hook-ups, casual situations, and then not very long relationships. Me and my girl have been together a long while now, but I guess I'll have to relearn sex. I barely ever masturbate anymore, maybe 1-2 times a month - sometimes more sometimes a bit less. She had suggested maybe I had the "death grip" problem, which I may have in the past but I'm not sure that's it when I barely ever jerk off anymore.
I trust her and don't want to hurt her at all, so this has kinda blindsided me a bit. She's being very careful and considerate in how she's put it to me, tells me she still wants to have sex but that the constant soreness/pain had been making her avoidant of intimacy lately and she was nervous to bring it up. I'm going to be understanding about it - but it is pretty big change. I don't really know what to do to help, I guess I have to embrace some awkwardness and discomfort going forward and try to work on being able to cum with "gentler" or slower sex.
At points it feels like I'm doing this for nothing and I just won't find a woman because of the cultural difference of being raised by the internet and being raised in real life. It feels like pain is the only thing foreseeable in a while. What do you tell yourself to keep going?
