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Dad is back edition
Previously on >>32931812
I've been searching for a woman that wants to be my girlfriend, but they all don't seem to want a boyfriend.
I thought girls wanted romance and love and shit.
Right?
However I'm not really attracted to her since she is kind of chubby and her face is mid.
The only reason I was entertaining her is because she is blonde and her tits are huge.
I could smash and dash but I don't want to play with anybody's feelings I'm thinking about just blocking her.
I want to find a girl who I have a future with not a one night stand but unfortunately I don't have any other options right now and I'm still a virgin at 19 even though I'm decent looking I'm just introverted and don't approach girls often.
I think I should improve myself to attract a girl I actually want instead of wasting my time.
Born to poor parents who are basically in the same financial situation as me. So they can't just magically loan me money to begin success like how most successful people seem to forget to mention
How do I fix this? I work a blue collar job installing cabinets/closets etc in houses. I do a lot of music stuff too, and have ways to make very light passive income but I don't want to turn it into feeling like a job.
It doesn't help living in Canada. Food is expensive and rent is through the roof. Fucking towelheads charging enough for rent and utilities where with 2 other roommates rent was still $1000. I don't even live in Vancouver, Toronto, Calgary or any other big city.
I want realistic, feasible ways to improve my financial situation without having to get a 2nd job or move. Haven't really looked into investing/all that financebro shit, it all just seems like male MLM's and smoke and mirrors. What do you people reccommend?
I plan on letting him out once he grows up. he doesn't even have his eyes open yet.
Is seeing a female therapist/dating coach worth looking into for this?
What causes this, and how can I stop it?
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>like to keep a very specific schedule of events every day
>huge emotional over-reactions to mundane events so have to live life on eggshells
>huge terror of displeasing others and being yelled at
>this is a sword of Damocles over my head
>even consciously acknowledging this doesn't stop it
Is there any help? I think my nervous system is just bugged and I've always been like this. Only help is to escape into escapism for long periods and null my sense of self-awareness.
Eventually I finished college and got a job in finance. I met my girlfriend and never told her about this. But now my stepdad is blackmailing me to pay his rent in exchange for not telling his girlfriend. I haven't responded to the message. What should I do? My girlfriends family is Mormon and I am worried they will make us break up.
I can appeal tomorrow. Will the jannies spare me? What do you even say to appeal this?
How do I make friends my age or find women that are my age? I go out and there are no white women anywhere.
>inb4 church
All old people
It's literally just all old people everywhere. The only young people are brown
However, we disagreed on a few fundamental things. Many of my friends are trans, and he think it’s all a fetish. He thinks having exes as friends “rots the soul,” but I have a good friendship with both of them. I considered breaking things off, but decided I’d stick with it because he said himself that he was open to changing his mind about trans people.
Things were normal, but then literally within a half hour of him asking me to call him darling, he said that he “sees now” that we will never date because casualness “cheapens” his future relationships. I asked him to call, agreed that it was a logical decision because of his values, and asked if he genuinely liked me or if he was just eager to date anyone. He says he genuinely liked me, and that he was uncertain about dating ever since I told him my stance on long distance that week ago. He then blocked me. I thought we could’ve stayed friends.
I realized I made a mistake, and sent a long message saying that I genuinely enjoyed his company and was mistaken in being overly detached with an alt account. He said no and then “embittered” my view of him by saying rightoid bs I don’t care about. Then, he blocked me again.
What the hell is this? I just don’t get how a person can say “I think we are perfect together” and then later do this shit within the span of a week. The reason he ended things was because of casualness, but how is chasing after him and admitting to my mistake not a change from that one barrier?
Today a girl gave an answer then all the girls around her exploded with laughter.
My male students are chill tho, they seem to respect me
So what's the problem?
They make me self conscious about my appearance...
I used to think I could spend my life on a computer. Now everything feels so fake and annoying. You don't find neat little cool things anymore. Everything is just heavily corporatized psyops and normie shitflinging.
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.
>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard these days, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)
REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.
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I am from eastern europe, more specifically romania and I would be interested in getting trained as a soldier for many different reasons.
However due to high probability of conscription I would rather not be on any list of military trained men(if the training my government provided was of any worth at all).
In my country you can't even have a knife on you while being on public property much less own a gun unless you're a high ranking government employee. So this possibility is out.
Nor am I medically able to serve in the french foreign legion due to chronic diseases.
I texted her 2-3 times and I asked for her number and she gave it
Then I decided to wait and say I was at work and text her late at night
The conversation is extremely dry 2-3 word answers for example. "im practicing guitar", "oh i love guitars", "whats your favorite band", "my favorite band is nirvana", alright Ill text you tommorow, ok good night
I am for sure an autistic sperg and not that pretty
Im wondering if she just wants to use me for a free meal. Ive never really gotten this far
I might call her later today. Help me anons this is probably going to be my first GF if I can manage to get there (23 years old)
>live in Germany
>long story short I befriended a cute polish girl who was autistic and openly racist. Like she was hardcore racist and hated everyone except whites (only like some Europeans not even Americans).
So it’s been some weeks since she’s been really touchy, she’s been laughing allot near me, she never leaves my side and can’t even hold eye contact without blushing so basically I have a feeling that she has a crush on me and wanted to know if I should like say yes when she admits to liking me?
I recently watched a documentary on people in death row and learned that if they can be optimistic that they'll one day be free even if it is hopeless, we can be the same with this girlfriend thing, this NEET lifestyle, this hopeless we all face.
Stop giving yourself evidence to be depressed. Be yourself and enjoy life, and it doesn't even matter if one second out of your day was good, focus on that.
>has no red flags
>gives amazing advice
>cares for me a lot
>likes my every kink
>is sexually active
>is incredibly hot
>can be racist
>can joke around with
>you don't have to figure out what she means she just gives it to you straight
>is madly in love with me despite never meeting me (we exchanged pictures several times)
>lives 6 thousand kilometers away
it's so unfair, she's a wife material if it weren't for the distance. Very unlikely she'd like to live in my country considering we both don't want to leave out our parents when they get much older and want to be able to visit them once in a while. I can't truthfully say I love her because I know that nothing will come out of it. Is there any way out?
I literally have been in therapy, studying this shit
I think that I could have hung around and got her number.
i had an easy opportunity but I am so used to just ending the conversation when it's time. Can I train myself to actually capitalize and stop second guessing myself into being forever alone?
>try reddit
>it is somehow more toxic but just from a far left point of view
>try to honestly debate people and they just act like passive aggressive dick heads or the mods instantly remove my comments
Where can one go for anonymous interactions with people then? I'm trying to get irl friends but I'm a bit of a weirdo and that might not ever happen. I'm really bored, just end up walking around staring at walls all day. Is 4chan really the best we can get?
Bingo is AMAZING at responding to my son’s triggers and alerts and the two love each other a lot. The problem is public training. He loves people and wants to jump and play and has a hard time staying focused on my son unless he alerts to a panic attack.
Bingo was supposed to start attending school with my son after Christmas break but with losing our trainer we have not been able to get Bingo to a place where he can be considered a trained service dog.
My son needs to be able to have Bingo all set for when he leaves for college in September and I just can’t do it on my own and haven’t found an my other options I can afford. We are really starting to worry and not sure what we should do.
ANY advice would be very much appreciated
>She shows high interest from the start
>Get into relationship few months later
>Introduces me to family, calls me perfect, her soulmate, someone she couldnt live without, has amazing sex with me and generally just seems to genuinely love me a lot
>Half a year passes
>Gets distant and then proceeds to throw me away like I never meant anything to her (both with no real explanation)
>Treats me like complete shit after breakup, like she genuinely enjoys hurting me
>Would literally do the exact things I told her hurt me alot like it's nothing and then proceed to claim that she respects me a lot and will always be grateful for the things I did for her
>Blocked her everywhere after this
Is this normal nowadays? It was my first relationship so Im not sure. I genuinely cant believe I will ever be able to love someone with 100% of my heart like I did for her ever again.
When it comes to women, I always was very pessimistic. But she managed to fuck me up even worse than I could imagine. I just don't understand how you can treat someone so terribly, especially someone you claimed to love
She fucked me up and every time I see my uncle (who smiles like this) or other people, I now cringe and think.
Is this a narcissistic smile from someone beyond saving?
and for the past few months I've been thinking about getting into trading instead of pursuing a conventional career.
it's something you can do at home, by yourself with very little equipment. i think maybe I could start with paper trading, learning the ins and outs for several months with a few books and videos, I'll avoid any courses or "gurus".
afterwards I could start actually trading, not focusing on monetary returns but just paying attention to percentages, i'd only be trading pennies at this point, so there's no risk of me fucking up majorly.
i'll document, what I do wrong and what I do right and how I can improve. upping the amount of money I put in slowly over time. i think maybe after 3-4 years of this I could become decently profitable and make a living wage and maybe have enough money to put into long term investments?
I'm not looking to be a millionaire, i just want enough to be comfortably independent.
my mother gives me around $15 dollars a week so I do have a tiny bit of an income stream to invest with.
worst case scenario: if I still can't hack it after 4 years of giving it my all I'll still only be 21-22 years old. that's still quite a bit of time to set myself on another path, right?
does this sound silly to you? why or why not? any other advice?
I'm a stingy guy. I was born poor and have had a shit life so I can't stop being a cheap ass for my own security, even though I make enough to save most of my wage.
when I lived with my ex gf, I made almost 3x what my she made.
I lived with her for almost 3 years and we split everything 50/50, including rent. before we met she was renting a small apartment in a relatively expensive part of the city, and I moved with her almost days after meeting. then we moved to a bigger, more expensive apartment. she complained to me once about not paying proportionally. I told her I wouldn't pay more.
at some point, I was paying my part of the rent with the gains I got from interests from deposits, while she had no savings and was paying with her wage.
a couple of months before dumping her we moved to a cheaper place because shit was getting too expensive. but at that point I was getting tired of her bs. she had started weird having emotional swings, and instead of talking to her about it, I dumped her. even after dumping her she complained to me about being stingy, being paid well and shit.
my logic regarding the 50/50 split in rent was that I was paying half the rent while I had my "own" (my moms) house, yet we were living in an expensive apartment, so why pay more?
I was cheap because I was obsessed with the idea of buying my own house. the idea was to help her save money once I got my house. I managed to buy land months after leaving her, and I'm about to build the house.
I feel so guilty that some weeks ago I offered her a compensation for all that money I didn't pay. instead of accepting my offer, she told me to stop talking to her. later I realized my message might have come off as insulting. I have no clue if I can fix this situation. I assume I should just leave her alone.
I don't understand women. and that makes me feel like shit.
It just needs new treads but I'm not even sure if I'll keep it.
I'm just having a hard time selling it and moving it would be a bitch
However I also don't have a car right now and I may need it for whatever reason if something comes up.
Also I do love road bikes and I'm not sure if I'll find another one like this when I move
What would /adv/ do?
Might be worth it to fix it up if I can use it to get in good shape
But it's also dangerous to bike on the road here, too many drunk hicks
What do I do?
Charisma is the ability to attract and positively influence others, creating an atmosphere of trust and respect. It helps build strong relationships, gain cooperation, and leave a lasting impression.
Eg: How to ask for help with charisma
1. Say names to make people feel important
2. Smile to make others feel appreciated
3. Ask specifically for that person
4. Ask for help without any kind of imposition
5. Also ask for help with delicate or expensive stuff
6.Do everything in crowded places to make everyone aware
People don't remember what you say or do, they remember how you make them feel. The focus is on the emotional impact of your interactions. Always ask yourself, "How can I make this person feel good, not bad?" Warning: This is not flattery or insincerity. Authenticity is key.
Strategies to develop charisma:
1. Give genuine compliments:
2.Joke and tease each other in a good-natured way
a: Avoid insecurity jokes: Don't comment on someone's physical appearance in a negative way.
b: Tease about strengths: "You're so good at cooking, you should open a restaurant!"
c: He jokes about the absurd: "I heard you won the marathon... walking backwards!"
3.Talk about other people's interests and listen actively
4.Speak through actions:
a: Special Gifts
b: Ask for help
c: Be kind
d: Invite them
e: Going out together
How much truth is there in all this?
>whats the most heartwarming or small act of kindness that made your day?
I will start!
>be me in high school
>lost my philosophy book
>the teacher gave it back to me
>he put a newspaper page inside of it
>just thinking he underlined it and put it there just for me
Remember! A small act of kindness can make anybody’s day!
there was nothing behind me and there is nothing interesting lookswise about me.
am i schizo for even noticing something like this or is this normal?
i have to say i rarely go out of the house, maybe once every 2-3 months and i also don't have any interactions with humans (really rare).
Ultrasound:
The vascular flow was evaluated and shows adequate color flow with normal spectral pattern of the flow waveform.
Uterus size: Measuring 7.8 X 5.5 X 4.2cm appears normal retroverted with homogeneous myometrium.
No evidence of masses, fibroid, or endometrial thinking. The thickness is 6.8mm
Cervix is normal
Right ovary 2.3x1.7x1.1cm
Left 3.1x2.2x1.9
multiple peripherally arranged follicles are seen in both ovaries mainly on left. No cyst, solid masses, or free fluid identified.
Adnexal structure are normal.
Bladder is normal
Im soon 24 and before i turn 30 i have a bunch of cosmetic surgeries i want to do.
3 weeks ago I did my hair transplant to fix my hairline and it worked out great as you can see by my hairlone it works out great (wont be thick and natural for another 12 months)
And next im getting my eyebrows lasered so they permanently go from the mid pic to the bottom pic (first time in the coming week)
Then my question is what should i do next? i have a bunch of other surgeries lined up that i want to do but need to save up for and in what order?
Fixing a slightly bent tooth with some sort of teeth correction device that costs the equivalent of 5k usd (pic of teeth in replies)
Teeth whitening which im considering next since it only costs the equivalent of 500 dollars but i would have to pay another 500 dollars after fixing my teeth if i do that first so im unsure if i should wait for that
Jaw surgery for a more prominent jaw (pic in replies, kinda not accurate since i put on 10kgs due to the surgery and fat goes to my face
Eyelid surgery (normal surgeons wont do this because the "difference is too small" so i have to go to a top guy in france and that costs 15k )
Height surgery (went from 174cm to 176-8 cm after fixing my back but i want to be 185cm) and its very expensive
Nose surgery cause my nose is so big
And lastely if i cant fix it through training, shaving of the hip bone surgery)
Which do you think i should do next? Which is worse and most "urgent"?
Keep your advice to yourself.
Don't help anybody at work with anything.
Don't show feelings to nobody.
Spend your money only on you.
Trust me.
Everyone is only using you.
They will discard you once you spoiled them with everything.
They will ignore you on purpose. Alienate you. Abuse you
I'm going to the doctors to try and get an Agoraphobia diagnosis
Do I stand a chance of winning on mental health grounds
>customers dont really suck they’re just clueless so i dont give a shit desu
>***managers?***
>no work? "go scrub the pavement outside", invent minor tasks that dont even need to be done or dont matter to justify their existence
>ask why? "insubordination and next is a write-up "
>try to talk to them about their behaviors and about other stuff in the workplace thats rough
>"i dont like your attitude thats a write up"
>slash pay behind peoples backs, in minimum wage jobs some were paying below minimum and not telling them
>their fuckup? document it as your failure
>suggest efficiency? "my way or fired"
>your way works? "violation" + threats
>write-up threats for:
>leaning
>not taking out trash cans that are a quarter ways full
>managers do 10% work, dump 90% on us
>shit hits fan? poof. gone.
>berate and insult us personally in front of customers and co-workers for mistakes that are trivial and don't even matter whatsoever
>their massive mistake? "whoopsie, your problem now"
>restaurants: health codes = fanfiction
>expired chicken? repackage and upsell
>elderly? toddlers? fuck em, profits > safety
>GMs: mythic creatures
>exist only to gaslight and cash checks
>tasks completed? "scrub the parking lot cracks"
>pause for air? "time theft" + final warning
If it's genuinely like this everywhere I'm probably just gonna kill myself ngl my life is already too shit for this, I'm not gonna live my existence sucking off retards who dont even deserve their positions.
At this point online friendship is becoming more and more socially acceptable so it's not entirely hopeless, but I've never had any real life friends so I don't know how to make friends online either.
When I join a server there is already an established friend group so I just don't know what to say and end up leaving. I'm also scared of talking because I get ignored most of the time. I don't know what servers to join either, all the public servers have 500+ members and it's so hard to interact with people there.
I am so jealous of people who call themselves "social reject losers" but in reality they have discord friends with whom they play coop games and hang out in the vc all day. I have never even played multiplayer games because I don't have any online friends.
How did you make discord friends? How did you find people to play games and hang out online?
I think I've made it pretty clear to xher, that if xhe doesn't get xher life together, xhe won't have much luck with dating, but then xhe tells me that xhe can't get xher life together because xhe's too depressed from xher loneliness, and yada yada yada.
xhe doesn't pass now, but I believe that xhe will eventually since xhe's still young, xhe's not built like an ogre, and only starte therapy 4 months ago.
I've told xher pretty much everything I could think of, xhe doesn't seem to be getting any better.
what can I do before I cut my losses and simply consider this one gone?
Around a year and a a half ago my parents led me into a weird scheme saying they would bail me out financially if it didn't work. As a result after it failed I lost my job and despite my asking repeatedly they refuse uphold their promise.
Entirely my fault for believing them as I'm pretty sure my family are all psychopaths. I've made many attempts at my life ranging from almost hanging myself when I was 14 after my mother told me to my face she wished she had aborted me, to somehow slicing my wrists at around age 5 while my sister watched with no reaction.
This place being remote I lost access to the therapists I had began seeing due to overwhelming depression resulting in me stopping medication. And I have no idea what to do. I would start dumpster diving but due to not having a phone I can't do it unless it's in broad daylight.
What should I do ?
I paid some money to one and now she's threatening me by "sending her men" to get me to pay for more however I live I a state where prostitution is illegal
Work a min wagie job that i actually enjoy. Only job I have enjoyed but now have a not picky nag of a manager. Sure there are some good points but a bunch of bad which is leading to losing other workers making things harder
Basically always kneejerk reactions to things even though it was initiated by her not doing things correctly or choosing the right time to do things (like filling up the bins so quickly after it was emptied, with things that didn't need to be urgently disposed of, then acting like the bin scheduling isn't ideal because they had to deal with full bins for 2 days straight). Basically can't be corrected or told it's the wrong way of doing something without feeling like you're undermining her (even though I corrected her in private, she kept carrying on like I was happy she made a mistake)
I really enjoy this job and with the right team barely feels like work, just a bit of exercise.
I'm going there to cosplay and also to be honest, I want to meet women and hopefully develop something into one day getting a girlfriend(either from there or entering a social circle that leads into it).
I think I am hanging too many hopes on this one event and I think that's not great because then I'd be going in with expectations and putting pressure on myself instead of just enjoying the damn thing.
What else can I do to meet women(yes women) outside of such events? I'm only getting older every year.
And don't start with that "it comes to you when you're not looking for it" bullshit.
I've been "not looking for it" my entire life and where did that get me? 0 female friends.
I only got to the cusp of female interaction after I decided I don't want to be lonely anymore and went on a few dates with one girl but "not looking for it" was a
>coworker is 16f, going on 17 this month
>she’s cute as fuck and has taken a liking to me, which is fairly uncommon
>reciprocate these feelings
>eventually get her number and start texting n a regular basis, learn that she acts very childlike
>still attracted to her but feel very guilty, like a disgusting fuck who’s trying to deflower an impressionable child
What the fuck do I do here? I understand it’s weird but I really do dig this chick. I have zero intention of being predatory or rape-y towards her at all. I believe that genuine sexual predators oughta get beaten half to death. But still the guilt is starting to set in now that I’ve somewhat committed to the act. How do I proceed?
Is it that simple? Am I supposed to accept my self worth the same way I accept the law of contradiction?
Doctors say that loneliness and no social life raises risk of dementia and heart disease etc. So am I at risk now? I don't talk, socialize, chat or even say hello to anybody. It's been years since I have had a conversation.
I really don't want any friends or even talk to people anywhere (inb4 why are you here now lol)
Thing is, it's not even remotely common or normal where I live for women to have shorter hair and I am certain everybody who knows me will think I have cancer or an existential crysis, it that I'm a lesbian.
The other thing is, I told my boyfriend about this fetish, and he accepts it, but he doesn't share it. He has said he prefers long hair but that ultimately, it's up to me.
I worry though that he will realise he doesn't like short (or really short) hair once I go through with it. Additionally, it'd be ideal for me to do this with him but I feel as though I'm "pressuring" him considering he has expresses this isn't a fetish for him, that he is at most fascinated I'd let him do this.
Has any of you ever had an impulsive need to do something like this? Was it worth it?
How do I tell her I'm breaking up to cause the most amount of emotional damage to her?
>write a letter gaslighting her that she never made me feel loved and someone else did
>just ghost her completely
>write a letter that says basically nothing except it's over
>write a letter implying I think she cheated (she didn't) and the ghost her
>send her a video of me and the new girl fucking
Any other ideas? I don't know which one would be the best.
Right now I'm leaning towards the letter making her think that I think she cheated.
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Old friend of mine, told me it will eventually come around. he moved back to Russia, it came around to him.
Other friend of mine (slightly older than me), always out partying on weekends, always ask him if I could tag along, never invited me anywhere. Same goes for former classmates (I changed schools when I was 14).
Mother and grandmother tell me that I'm "different" (that's true) and that some people simply participate in such activities. Tbh, it sounds like the biggest cope to me.
So anyway when I'm done with school and even if I go to university, I highly doubt that my chances of going to parties will rise.
So my question is, will it happen? Will I have the best night of my life someday, or am I destined, to die as a loser like my grandmother tells me?
It pisses me off so much to be honest, I simply cannot imagine working till retirement without having being young once.
I think I'll just going to kill myself someday to be honest. I guess I'll never be truly happy. There's no coming back for me. I'll stick around a few years, until my mom dies, then I'm gonna do it.
I started this sales job recently after being unemployed for a while.
Its only day 2 but I fucking hate it. I quickly realised that if you want to prosper in sales you need have a passion for it. All i wanted from this was a paycheck and I do get base pay but theres also a commission element attached. Im surrounded by people who have backgrounds in sales and I feel like I stick out. All we do so far is just go out and essentially knock on people doors and sell our product. It gets really fucking boring. There is progression, but theres a lot of pressure on me now that I cant seem to grasp how its going to be later on. I was hoping this job would help me develop my peoples skills as I recently got diagnosed with autism, but its hard to do that when you have to read off a script for your pitch.
Because nobody else wantes to make the next one
How do I undo this situation? I pretty much checked out of life after I was 12 years old thanks to COVID and I never bounced back from it. I was born in 2007 and I still think of me and people my birth year as just kids because I never hit any milestones it feels weird that I am an adult now. It’s crazy that people my age are already driving and having sex and marrying and I just spent all my life at my computer and phone.
![d7e[1]](https://i.4cdn.org/adv/1743380122958981s.jpg)
My dream is to earn enough through passive income that I can "retire" and focus on my hobbies (art, animation, 3D)...
My current investments, over the past 5 years, earned me an average of +4.5% value YoY. So above inflation, just barely.
That's not nearly enough.
I need books, tips, and advice on becoming a property investor/landlord.
I can save enough to buy an apartment, since that's a much higher ROI source but I need to know how to manage it...
>allow women to work
>allow women to get an education
>allow women to own property
>allow women to feminize the education system leading to them displacing men pushing them to work unskilled labor jobs and driving down the amount of intelligent workers in society
>allow women to decrease the population by not having children fast enough leading to an aging society that will be displaced by foreigners
>allow women to choose their marital partners despite studies showing women will often select for men with negative and/or antisocial behavioral patterns (i.e: criminals, gang leaders)
>allow women to kill babies in multiple states
why all this allowed but I am not allowed to request sex from them?
I feel completely alone as I am not compatible with any racial group
There seems to be no online forums for people like me, every black forum is delusionally ethnocentric
I feel I should move past these thoughts and hope to one day love a woman who loves me in return. However, another thought troubles me—I don’t want to bring a child into this broken world. This makes the idea of a traditional relationship feel pointless, leading me to question my future.
At the same time, I’ve developed a connection with an 18-year-old guy. While we initially met through mutual attraction, we’ve come to genuinely care for each other. I can’t help but wonder—are we together because of lust, or is true love possible between us? We both see love realistically, valuing companionship over idealized romance, yet I struggle with whether this is right.
I don’t want to be a coward and deny who I am, but I also want to follow God’s will. I know that we all need Him, yet our actions often say otherwise. This paradox leaves me feeling lost, searching for clarity and guidance.
Inb4
>zero
You always spend money on girls. Even if it's the cost of driving to the date, or the cost of food or drinks. What's the most you should spend on her/the date until you're done?
>living together for the last 3 months
>gf got job proposal abroad for the next 7 months, I told her to accept it and she did
>we've been arguing almost every week for the past few months, spliced with weeks of very romantic and warm moments
I broke up with her. I couldn't take the toxic cycle of almost breaking up arguments and then lovebombing anymore. She was very insecure. I am somewhat too, but she was too much. Plus now with the long distance, I don't see us getting any closer.
Did I do the right decision? I already miss her but I know we just don't work out and it's best for both of us to stay apart. How do I avoid thinking about her getting fucked by other guys?
Is it even worth bothering? She's great but I'm starting to get worn down. I hate the retards she hangs out with.
>instantly assume they are laughing at me
>catch a girl looking at me while I'm turned away
>instantly assume she's observing how ugly I am
>someone compliments me
>instantly assume they are lying and want something from me
Is this some sort of mental disorder? If it is, how can I treat it?
>she already has a bf and is clearly not as interested in being with me as much as I am with her
>19yo italian 70s looking guy
>meet goth gf about 2 years and a half ago
>most romantic experience ever had
>love of my life
>things slowly crumbled away as her mental state gradually got worse and led mine to get also pretty bad
>gf loses all her confidence , gains weight and stops wearing all the cool clothes that made her stand out
>start having fights over and over without really learning much from them as these happen usually because of how i am and because things that i don't really want to do as she is kinda obsessed with the concept of "serious relationship" and
i honestly don't give a fuck about or i'm too depressed to care
>also I'm in a spot where i'm afraid of commitment and i'd like to have new experiences and to date other girls/fuck around
>start having thoughts about having sex with other girls who started hanging out with my friend group and often think about one in particular wich is not actually a girl but actually a non binary person that i really find attractive
>meanwhile my girlfriend is also continuously limited in hanging out because of her mental health
guys i don't really know what to do i really think that i couldn't find a girl like mine because i actually think she is incredible and i love her and she is the most intelligent person i know and we have so much in common but at the same time i think that i still don't want to commit in an eternal relationship as i feel too young and scared and I also think that most of the fights are cause of my immature ass and sometimes i think i'd just like to breakup for some year by telling her some shit like that i feel not ready and mature enough to commit and that i feel like im hurting her by being like i am and then get back together but i know it's not possible.
also I really like this other "guy" (he goes by male pronouns since neutral doesnt exist in italian and kinda feels weird) and I'd really like to fuck his skinny pussy but at the same time he is kinda cringe and says corny shit
>dont talk with anyone and have no social life
>jewish teach is taking us to clean a jewish graveyard
>people from all classes are coming
>very few will come anyway
>opportunity to meet folk
Should I go?
I want to just show up and get cheap apartments and live like a king and be neet. I'm lazy I just want to show up and do whatever I want no paperwork and flying in and out.
>date this super hot, super manipulative girl, 23F, a year ago
>turned her down for a serious relationship even though I had feelings for her, had doubts, red flags everywhere
>she lost it, insulted me, made scenes, tried to get me kicked out of our gym
>she got a new boyfriend immediately after, guy mustve been lined up already
>no closure, just silence, we both moved on
>we see each other at the gym regularly, she ignores me completely
>cold shoulder for almost a year, avoids even looking at me
>she knows I have a gf
>people tell me shes talking with her bf about me all the time while working out, how shit I am and what not
>asks a staff member about how I'm doing, if there's any news about me
>last Tuesday, we see each other at the gym again
>later that night, she sends me a WhatsApp message
>deletes it before I can read it
>still blocked by her, so she had to unblock me, type the message, send the message. cant be an accident.
>next time at the gym, she acts different
>normally avoids looking at me, now she's facing me more, seems more approachable
>still doesn’t talk, but it feels like she wants me to notice her
>what’s her angle? testing me, fishing for attention, or something else? she still has her bf and brings him to the gym from time to time
I would never message her, because we are both in relationships and I have no interest in her being able to spread rumors that I tried to reach out or contact her. she doesnt seem to care about these things.
It's kind of a boundary violation. The fact that she messaged me shows a lack of respect and impulse control.
I have given her absolutely no reason to contact me. There's nothing we need to discuss or coordinate.
I’d list all the shit she pulled on me, but this post would be way too long.
I was always patient with her (probably made her think I'm weak), but I’ve had enough of her games and want to teach her some respect. how?
how do i unlearn this? it seems to honestly be one of my problems when pursuing a relationship with a woman.
Reason: Why not?
How do I achieve this? Any advice or tips are appreciated, thank you.
And no I won't do poppers
I have a big test coming up in a month and I've burnout my will to study anything.
even when I force myself I just stare at the pages, and have this brain fog all the time.
Any advice?
The bad news is that it was apparently being used to block a hole in the wall. And I still haven't found a rat corpse even though other people say there's a smell.
Does anyone know the cheapest and easiest way to deal with a hole in the wall/corner?
Obviously I think we're gonna have sex, but I am extremely anxious. I've never had sex before so I really don't know what to expect, and she is older so I'm probably gonna embarrass myself by being way more inexperienced than her.
Also I should I wear swim trunks in the hot tub or don't wear anything?
> Suicidal ideation from 8yo. Absent dad, whore mom.
> Might be autistic--my younger siblings are. I was never tested. Diagnosed w/ ADHD at 25. 130+ IQ.
> Started college the Spring Covid happened. Became a hermit. Moved to a small town that has no clue I exist (aside from the occasional trash cleanup). I have several acres of property and I'm more capable than your typical CS grad, but not much else.
After graduating I've been unemployed for 3 months now (on top of the 4 years I spent for my degree). I take care of elderly family, but I'm losing my mind with this free time. I got offers to apply to the Navy for NUPOC or as a NOAA Comissioned Officer, which I will chase, but I lack confidence, particularly due to no (since 2020) employment history. I spent most my life playing vidya and tried hard to separate myself from that identity during college as a freelancer, but there's little fruit.
I have a literal handful of IRL friends that are all dumber (less educated) but more successful than me, all who work manufacturing/trades or own their own business.
Do I go all in as a manufacturing/tradie wage slave? Do I stick it out and try to land a unicorn gig? I had imposter syndrome until right before the the free money in tech dried up. I like working with my hands and learning new skills, and I'm a competent programmer.
I'm fortunate to have wealthy family to care after, I just want to be able to make it on my own, especially if I move to the city. My dad failed me growing up, I'm the most masculine role model in my household. I hate myself for it, but I need guidance.
My contingency plan for the last X years has literally been a bullet. I don't really care what I do at this point, I just want to leverage my skills and make a (eventual) living from it.
Sorry for the rant, I'm drunk and looking for any advice. I'm losing my mind staying in front of a screen all day every day. I need some actionable advice.
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The other night while we were together, she went to share something from Facebook messenger on her phone, and the first suggested contact to share to was her ex. (Huge red flag for me)
When I checked whose Netflix she uses, it's his.
Her Facebook is still full of old pictures of them together as well, and none of us together.
I highly doubt she is cheating on me physically, also her cuck ex bf lives in Europe where he belongs. However of course there is a possibility at these concerts they both perform at. This really disturbs me.
This type of "emotional" cheating does in fact bother me quite a bit. As recently as last year she was liking content on his Facebook and even a "heart" emoji on one of his profile pictures. Wtf is up with that? You hearted his gay ass profile picture???
Am I cooked or what? I'm not even sure how to bring up this topic and it has been festering in my head for a while and only getting worse.
I feel very disrespected and want to confront her, but I don't want it to turn into a huge blow up. Unless of course it's worse than I think. What do you think bros
>upper middle class parents, went to private schools
>almost got a philosophy degree bachelors (have to write a 60 page thesis to finish)
>was a rebel that’s why it took me so long
>107 IQ
>want to be a physicist or some respectable career like that
>have AGP so in the meantime I thought it would be hot to get a job at a makeup store lol
>have worked like 3 months total in my life
>can paint quite well but I’m not a real artist so i would feel like a grifter even though my art has divine inspiration
>spend my days gooning
>want to get out but I’m addicted to the internet
>if I quit or diminish the internet I get massive stress that makes me sleep 3 hours a day
>my fathers lawyer can maybe offer me a job as a real estate agent
>my father wants me to help him at his job but it sounds lame I wouldn’t leave the house
>I have never had sex
>I am on female hormones despite identifying as a man just to goon .
>feels like my life is over and it’s too late to start anything
>also started an online associates on programming but I fear we will be replaced by ai so I stopped but I could resume I guess would finish in 1.5 years .
>want to work to improve my situation but I don’t even know how
>inb4 just troon out
Larping as an ugly manlet will effectively end what little chance I had at love in the first place. I don't agree with the ideology, and while I find myself agreeing with and relating to men more, I'm not retarded enough to believe I'm a man trapped in the wrong body.
now i’ve been with my gf for 7 months and haven’t seen my ex since, until yesterday. i went to a book store with my gf and i noticed my ex. i completely ignored her and felt incredibly tense just seeing her, but then my gf and ex just hugged each other??
turns out they met at the gym a few months ago and have been friends ever since? i had no clue and my gf knows about the history and doesn’t care.
why hasn’t my gf said anything about this, am i wrong for thinking this is weird as shit? all this time they’ve been going to the gym together sometimes and even went shopping
only I sent was my first name and an obscured pic
I just want to know if its an empty thread
what should i do to prepare? can i just scream jury nullification to get out or will they arrest me.
(both /r/ and /wsr/ are closed so I'm asking here)
>stuck in burger king bathroom with diarrhea
>apparently it's also a cruising spot
>so far three men have attempted to initiate gay sex
>one of them stuck his dick under the shared wall between our stalls
What the fuck do I do? I've been here 20 minutes but it's felt like an eternity. I know i'm not going to make it to my car without shitting myself, let alone the drive home. How do I make my diarrhea stop immediately?
Her highlights were pics with her parents, sister, friends (not even “hot” pictures she could regret or pictures of a pet that may have died). And then she suddenly deletes them. Does it mean she is going through some type of crisis? is that the 2020s equivalent of dying your clothes black in the middle ages? I need to know what’s the reason she may have done this.
I started dating her at 22 when she was 25 and I was pretty introverted when I met her so I never dated anyone else
Her friend suggested I have sex with other girls since men dont attach emotionally so easily and itll boost my confidence
She is not going to have sex with other men and has no desire to so itll only be me going crazy for 6 months
How should I approach this she says I cant fall in love with or date any other girls