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>spent my entire teens/20s ignoring women and being ignored in return.
>now I'm getting random compliments from women in public
>sometimes they just sit and chat with me
>react every time with MAXIMUM SUSPICION
I recognize some of these women and have talked to them before about inane shit, but not enough for them to start complimenting stuff about me.
I was sitting in a coffee shop when some girl just sat on the chair by me and started laying it on..
there's nothing NATURAL about this. It feels OFF somehow. It feels like they're trying to get something out of me but idk why or what... I'm a third worlder and I'm visiting for ten days. How do I land a job where I can be sponsored and eventually be a citizen? I want to be an American and I don't want to stay in my crappy country. Any real advice would be appreciated. I am willing to pay the sponsorship money of course. I use to see escorts for about 10 years. I feel disgusted with the whole thing now. I feel like a rapist or prevert. Anyway How do i get over this?
it's legal where i live, so i know it's not insane to see an escort. I support sex work my values of whats acceptable have changed and i won't see one again. How do i accept myself and the opinion of others? I feel like creep Failed my road test today.
Permit expires in less than two weeks.
Im 26. There are 16 yos driving.
Before I off myself at the manhattan bridge this evening, what should I do legally to address any resolving debts?
How do inform my job that I'm quitting life?
How do I comfort my family?
Will a heavy dose of weed make the fail less painful?
How do I keep my parents and girlfriend from worrying?
Am I rushing the suicide? My grandfather passed a month ago and we had a funeral a few weeks ago.
>His death was from medical neglect, so it took a toll on me.
Im too retarded to live, every breath I take is embarrassing. Does anyone pay for Amazon Music or Spotify or anything? Why? All this music is available for free and more on Youtube for free. Trying to understand. i don't like men, i tried kissing with dudes and it felt horrible and gross, i like the femininity of a woman, her fragance, skin, clothes, even if she's trans and has a dick i mean for example this one has a penis that looks like it's made out of strawberry and marshmallows i wouldn't mind touching it while i'm fucking her/him/whatever does that make me gay anons? maybe bisexual? I think I have anger issues or something
when I was a kid I would punch people who pissed me off and cry and you know get in trouble
my solution was to just hold it in however I still have this issue where ableit rarely I get so easily pissed off I get a headache and want to crack someone's skull and I feel like crying
and I feel like if I let out a sliver of anger it'll all blow up in that >meet this girl online
>we get to talking, have some rather niche interests in common
>she cooks, crochets, plays vidya, etc and wants to marry a good man
>the first woman who actually wanted to have conversations with me
>find out she's black
Ok seriously what the fuck. Since when do black women act like this? I thought they were all loud baboons twerking to loud music and screaming/fighting in movie theaters, and yet this woman is actually rational and calm so far as I can tell. I don't know what to do now. I was thinking about pursuing her, but I can't marry a black woman. Even if she is good, the resulting mulatto children will just act like niggers and hate me, not to mention what my family (and probably her's too) will think of the race mixing.
I can't believe it, the first woman I ever actually connected with and I have to friend-zone her. Luckily I hadn't moved things into a relationship yet, so I can just pretend like I was never going that direction. Even so, how do I cope? I just had a panic attack. Im feeling a little more calm now but now I have this intense feeling of sadness and loneliness. Please give me any help lads or any words or encouragement. And pray for me. Lost my office job and started going to stenography school, but I want to be working in the meantime. How do I go about applying at a local brewery or bar if they dont have anywhere to apply online? Do I show up with my resume and a firm handshake like a boomer? I also considered my neighborhood sex shop My calves hurt like if I had bruises on them. There's no black spots and they're not swollen, just pain in certain spots when I touch them or they touch something, even my bed
Can't say for sure when it started happening, at the very least a month. Any idea what's going on? How do I get through mind-rattling 40+ work weeks and still have the energy left for personal projects? I feel like a zombie halfway through the day it seems hopeless i buzzed my hair as an 18yo female
ugly = no job = no money
ugly = kms
i quit 20mg lexapro a while ago and the first week or two was maybe intense, i don't know, but i think any sort of side effects would be gone by now. i hate everything infra√œvgrhw
every day all i do is wait
before u call me retarded i cut my hair bc uhhhhhmnn. i knew it wouldn't look good i just thought i should once in my life and was sick of finding my hair everywhere
does any have any sympathy for me lmk asl add me on disc join my server throne wishlist lalala femcel Is it realistically possible for an alcoholic to become a responsible drinker, or is cold turkey the only solution? 
I've always wanted to be a creative ever since I was young. I've day dreamed about being one and tried working my ass off trying to write ever since I was around 12. My parents tried pushing me towards it for school assignments. I also wanted to draw but never got into it seriously.
I've been wanting to write again for nearly 2 years now and have barely made any progress towards that goal. I've only done one little drabble like 2 years ago and haven't done any exercises since then. I've been trying to get myself to write, but all of it looks too complicated and exhausting for me. I've tried multiple different strategies, but they never seem to work. I've tried forcing myself to write, but can only make myself write a couple of sentences for barely 30 seconds before stopping and looking at my phone again.
I've never been able to complete a single multichapter story in my entire life and actually coming up with stories isn't much better. I can't think anything through and everything about trying to make an entire story looks too hard for me. I want to be a creative really badly, but nothing I've done seems to have amounted to much of anything. I want to become one so badly, and I want to stop wasting my life doing nothing. 
>Work at some building
>we have this "earthquake drill"
>see cute girl from another office
>not sure where she's working
>new year's dinner party
>see her there again, and identified her area by the coworkers she was with
>ask a coworker I kind of know from that area about her
>he tells me about her
>seems she's pretty "quiet", and never leaves the office unless she need to go to the restroom or after the wage ends
>got some work in that area, so decide to introduce myself
>got her name
>do small talk whenever I see her (mostly when she comes to the building to work)
>3 months later, she has a cold
>go and give her some tisues
>next day I ask her how she's doing, she still seems to be sick
>I give her some
cough syrup
>she tells me we need to talk
>asks me what are my intentions by giving her stuff
>not sure what to respond so I just say I wanted to know more about her
>she tells me she's just trying to work, and she's not interested in anything else, also gives back the unopened tissues box and syrup
>feel like shit, I just say sorry and leave
>decide to not bother her again, and whenever she sees me, she seems to hide
I talked to some friends about what happened, I know you won't be liked by everyone (I'm not handsome or charismatic, so it's not surprise), it has been like 3 months since that and I still feel like shit. I continue with my life, a friend told me to just continue improving myself (I practice muay thai, and cooking as pastime), and then when I don't expect it, some nice girl may come, but I don't know... what can I do to forget her? I still feel attracted and I'm the kind who only likes "a girl at a time", but yeah... never been on a relationship before either. Has anyone here worked at one of those AI training companies, like DataAnnotation or something? Is it a complete scam? I'm getting desperate for any sort of stable income The sundress hugs and accentuates the bodylines, has elements of formalware but is actually casualware, and signifies lighthearted-ness/youthful-ness.
What equivalent outfit for guys do girls go feral for? 
I wanna cheat on my bf. It pains me, I wish I didn’t have these impulses. I pride myself on being as loyal as a dog, however, whenever I get this weird feeling he doesn’t love me, my brain IMMEDIATELY wants to GTFO and fuck someone else so I can have a back-up. My heart does not want to be broken again, it wants to flee and prevent damage.
The only thing stopping me from doing this is thinking about him and how special he is to me.
You see, I’m incredibly autistic (diagnosed), and normie men disgusts me, I hate them. It was always my dream to get a slightly edgy 4chan bf.
I don’t go outside, I have no human contact except online people and him. In the past, whenever I wanted to feel human connection I would whore myself out on the internet.
However, ever since he’s been taking these SSRI’s, he’s not himself anymore. He’s become a boring safe normie. But more importantly, his love for me has muted. He isn’t horny anymore, doesn’t compliment me, doesn’t wanna fuck. I feel entirely worthless while I KNOW that I’m very pretty & desired. I want nothing more than to sit this out, wait while he’s off that poison and resume our love. But for what it’s worth, I want to cheat. I want to cheat because my brain wants to be safe
What do? Most of the world disgusts me so I prefer to be withdrawn which even includes avoiding mass media and college education. My ex knew all of this yet still broke off with me because it. Most likely it was an excuse for something else but I still think it is a sign. I will still watch media with you since it is fun together, have your child if you want one but won't change my beliefs. Unfortunately it seems although what you guys say that men are oh so not picky, that most want a really active and willing participant in society >37
>NEET for basically entire life
>no high school or college education
>dropped out of school in 9th grade
>never worked
>have left house maybe 6times in past 15 years
>0 social skills
>obese
>never had a face to face interaction with someone my own age throughout my teens and 20s
>ginger
>never had a job
>can't drive
>never had friends
>parents are broke so I won't inherit anything
>no skills
>never exercised in my entire life
>fear of birds bad enough I went to therapy for it
>have had probably fewer than 10 irl interactions within the past 20 years
How do I get out of this? I've literally just played video games since dropping out of high school when I was 15. It was pretty fun but my parents' money is running out and I’m being kicked out in October How hard are 6 figure jobs to get? - Pure and applied mathematics
- Electrical Engineering
- Computer Science
- Core concepts of Software engineering
- Philosophy (From Ancient Greece to Contemporary)
- Physics (classical and modern)
- Languages such as: Italian, Portuguese, Greek, Ancient Greek, Arabic, Hebrew, Latin, German, Japanese, Mandarin
Is this even possible in a lifetime? 
>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.
>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
https://fantasticanachronism.com/2025/03/20/how-to-be-good-at-dating/
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)
REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.
Prev: >>33263842 I’m fucking a girl right now who I’m not dating, but definitely would feel angry and upset if she knew I was doing things with other girls. She has a roommate, and I just found that roommate on Tinder. We’ve only been civil with each other, but I want to fuck her roommate so badly. Should I swipe? How do I cope with being an 18 year old virgin? I expected to lose my virginity at 16 when I was 11 and now it's been 2 years since and I'm still a virgin. I'm thinking of just not beating off ever again, if I want to release my horniness I have to have sex. This forces me to seek out girls for sex, right now I don't speak to any due to fear. What do you do when your current life is full of regrets and wasted time How do i not finish so fast? My gf and i were about to have sex and after 2 thrusts i finished. This happens every time. I'm very anxious but i want her to be pleased. I feel like i don't satisfy her. I don't want her to leave me. How do i get better at sex? The inevitability of death paralyzes me.
One day I will simply cease to be, and then nothing. Nothing. No more tomorrows. No more thoughts. No more pain, or laughter, or anything. No more idle time spent worrying or planning or hoping. Nothing. I won't be anymore. None of this will have meant anything.
We all learned this as kids, but lately it's been sitting on me with the weight of the world. How do I get past it? How do I bury my head in the sand and pretend not to know? I am so completely afraid, and devastated, by the fact that I will become dust, and then less-than-dust, just like every other person and animal and thing that has ever been. I’m 18 years old and struggling with something I’ve been carrying alone. I wanted to share it here, hoping to find some understanding, because I haven’t really had anyone to talk to about this. I’ve been addicted to nicotine (snus) for almost a year now. At first, I never thought I’d fall into this trap, or that it would be this hard to break free. I kept denying to myself that I was addicted. But now, I can’t even get through a single day without it. It feels like I’m slowly disappearing, and it’s tearing apart my mind and body. I wish you could truly understand — it’s like stepping into a deep, dark hole, and once you’re in, you just keep falling deeper into endless darkness. Can you peacefully overdose on Hydrocod/ Acetaminophen? How much do you need for it to be toxic?
Any ideas on where to find this info would be a huge help. 
>just like everyone else covid destroyed my life
>had to move with no-so-caring parent, didnt helped me move schools so as soon as they needed me to present phisically i had to dropout from highschool
>as soon as i turned 18 started working a 12/5 work becuase they couldnt care less for me
>didnt interacted a lot, everyone was on their world just wanting for the day to end
>covid ends and i move back with my relatives
>they live now on a tourist place so everything is overpriced so now i have to live at the outskirts of the city
>work as a cashier at the local walmart so now i dont only overwork but also the people suck
>still everyone is old so i couldnt relate to them or have friends there neither
>got fed up with everything and everyone there so i quit and use the severance pay to survive till i make it big online
>i dont make it big but i get enough money to survive
>feelsgood.png
>make a couple friends online in a GC but still pretty lonely, DM are still dry as fuck and bussiness only...
this has been my life for the last 6 years, i dont really *hate* my life anymore becuase at least im doing something i love doing now but it gets lonely having no real friends,
i tried to go to a small MTG community that appeared recently but after spending a good amount of money on cards i just wasnt having fun, everyone were friends already there and it was pretty lonely evertyime i went since i dont even know how to socialize anymore
is this what my life will be from now on? did i really loose my life to some virus?
what can i do to fix this? is there even a way to fix it? 
I'm a 25-year-old Canadian and I've been unemployed for 2 years now. It's been making me really depressed on top of other issues.
I've applied online and in person. I follow up over the phone or sometimes I go in person again. My background is in construction (HVAC) and I've visited all the contractor offices in my city, but not a single one has reached back out to me. Not even shitty retail jobs or McDonald's will hire me. The only replies I get are from dataminers, automated emails, and those shitty AI interviews where you talk to yourself in front of a webcam.
What am I doing wrong? Because I just think like the new Pajeet slave class in Canada have really shit up the job market. I've changed my resume a million times, used different resumes for different jobs, added a cover letter, etc. I've been to three different job agencies and others have said my resume looks good, but I'm not getting any results.
My last job was working as an apprentice HVAC guy doing sheet metal, but I only worked there for a month because the company went broke. Before that, I was working in retail while doing my preapprenticeship training at a trade school. I also have some general labour construction experience too. 
>be me, almost 21, Asian cuck, HCOL state
>rising senior, CS major at big state school
>completely jobless, parents pay for tuition and housing because I'm not a wagie yet
>manage to find a house with a bunch of white fratboys for senior year
>was hyped to get out of the house for another year and not be a NEET
>get assigned the attic room since I was the last to join the lease
>whatever, a room is a room, has windows and a door, idgaf
>make mistake of telling Asian immigrant parents, and they have a COMPLETE FUCKING MELTDOWN
>"IT'S NOT A LEGAL BEDROOM ANON! WHAT IF THERE'S A FIRE? WHAT IF THE LANDLORD GETS SUED?"
>tell them it's like underage drinking, literally everyone does it and no one gaf
>they call me a "stupid idiot" for even agreeing to it, say they'll stop paying my rent and tuition if I don't back out
>"in American, it's important that you follow the law"
>shit gets so crazy they call a lawyer, who literally tells my mom on the phone to chill the fuck out and let me grow up
>thought I won, but they double down even harder after the call
>mom, known for being a drama queen (and was a covidian during COVID), starts literally crying about how worried she is, dad gives me the "I'm so disappointed" speech
>we argue for days, parents won't budge no matter what
>had to cave and tell the boys I couldn't move in
>found a replacement tenant last-second
>boys were cool with it, just irked af
>now it's fucking July
>all decent housing is gone
>I am now officially commuting from home for my entire senior year, my social life is dead on arrival
I feel completely humiliated. Parents are acting all smug like "you'll thank us for this one day!", and think I'm an ungrateful shithead. This has gotten pretty intense, with screaming matches etc.
Am I a retarded cuck who isn't ready to live on my own? Should I just suck it up and be grateful for the free ride? Or did my parents fuck my life over? broke up because of we grew apart in the career sense, i never, we dated for about 9 months, i feel so empty now, he was my first close connection, how do i get over this fast?, we never met but it really hurts me, i thought online relationships aren't real Imagine you were suicidal since you feel like a burden because you have been unable to get a good job for two years while recovering from severe health issues. Now that your health is better, you want to get a better job but have to wait 2 months because your work schedule has to align with another important schedule that you can't sacrifice. The wait is unbearable because you are extremely suicidal about your situation. You are not in financial stress because you have savings and a support network but you can't help how suicidal you feel anyway and your self-esteem is currently non existent. What do you do? What are some good jobs for a very attractive male? As a major autist, should I seek out other autists for friendship or try and make friends with normies? Normies can introduce me to more people including girls to have sex with, but are harder to befriend. I recently started a job at Walmart and there's this one massive autist cashier who I could befriend. 30 something years old, 300 something pounds, unkempt beard, manbun. Glasses. Talks to customers in weird fantasy voices and asked me about my favorite D&D build. The other cashiers are normie college and high schoolers. I'm 18. >I am very addicted to my primal urges.
>I binge eat, masturbate excessively, have to very often fight the urge to go see a prostitute (I have spent more money than I would like to admit) and have fallen into depression due to my longing for a companion/partner not being met.
>I have a lack of motivation to the point where I need a reason to get out of bed (like an appointment, or work) and I am a chronic procrastinator (the type that does all the work in the final 2% of time and crashes out).
>probably have ADHD and Autism
How do I gain that unwavering passion for my craft that some people seem to have? I am constantly putting things off, the moment I have free time I binge watch Youtube.
Meanwhile my idols are the type of guys that will spend 2 weeks straight on a project nobody told them to do.
How do I fix myself? Remove my need for love/friends/attention? Is it me or do catholic churches suck if you are single lonely adult? I added some girl I never met on Facebook. Kinda cute and a bit chubby. Late 20s. She posts shit like pic related. I like her stuff and leave a comment now and then and occasionally she has replied. Not sure how to escalate it because just sending a message to her feels creepy. I suck at flirting too.
How should I respond when she posts pic related? what advice would you give an ignorant 28 years old who's just now about to face the real world? I wasted half my 20s and spent the other half up to now working in a trade, no gf, grew apart from friends. Share the wisdom anons. 
as one of her regular necklaces my gf has decided to start wearing a little key. i told her absolutely not. she wondered why and i said it's because everyone knows what that means now. she said she didn't and i started to explain chastity cages and she rolled her eyes and said i had seen too much porno. she said it was something a couple of them volunteering at the cat shelter did to remember a kitten that didn't make it by making that little kennel key into a memento.
i felt a little ashamed because she wasn't lying. but it's like if you heard your gf wanted to get a single spade tattoo, you'd object, right? it's not hugely prevalent but in the 1% of cases or whatever where someone would recognize it, i don't want them to mistakenly think she's "locking me down"
i know 99% of people won't think anything but i want to make sure that small margin of society that is really pornobrained creeps isn't gonna think she's broadcasting a kink. i know for a fact all my friends would recognize the symbolism if they saw How to stop being a desperate horny bastard? 23 year old male by the way I’ve always been the golden child in my grandmother’s eyes. I think it’s probably because I was born a couple months before my uncle (her son died). Ever since then, my brother has been number 2 and while we have a good relationship otherwise, I can tell he really resents this because he brings it up a lot. I have no idea how to respond to this when he talks about it. How should I deal with it? Realistically speaking, how can I become a male dominatrix if I'm not tall? Is sex without a condom really that much better or not really? 
>tell mom every job I applied to rejected me
>reeeees at me that there’s a gazillion jobs and I’m lazy (she doesn’t even know how online job search works)
>finally get some shitty job and the manager tells me to start work in July (this was in May)
>past forward to end of June and the manager doesn’t answer my email
>have to pull some strings (semi nepo applications) to see what the fuck is going on
>the manager emails the guy ccing me that he doesn’t work there anymore and it’s literally not his problem
>tell mom about this, she starts reeeing again
>tells me how ChatGPT told here there’s alschually a bazillion gazillion jobs in my city and I’m just lazy
>try applying for jobs again, there are actually none in my city that are entry level and require my degree
>apply to McDonalds for shits and giggle
>they have this video message bullshit so I know for a fact some AI bot will get the ick before a human will even read the CV
Thanks for reading my blogpost. I don’t even know what to do anymore. It’s so over. How do you ask out a stranger? Like a passerby in a mall or something ITT: We ask the opposite gender (almost) anything.
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It would also be really cool if you waited until the old thread is on Page 10 or is close to the Image Limit (150 images) before you make a new thread. Take a look, here's our old thread right now: >>33304837 How come even though I'm a heterosexual male, it's not in my nature to pursue women? i feel like i have such horrible hair and i dont know what i can do anymore ive tried anti thinning shampoos ive tried oils and different conditioners . i got a buzz cut last year bc it was worse than and this is what im working with, darker hair was older pic, before work and second one is after work :||||| i feel chopped in the hair department!!! 
Remind yourself of the facts and only act based on them, and not on the emotions they make you feel?
To keep a long story short: I unintentionally upset someone and they used the opportunity to guilt trip me to hell and make me feel like the most pathetic person ever. They even found someone else and tried rubbing it in my face.
I'm not a bitter person but this has been exceptionally taxing. Luckily, I'm so self-aware, I sense what emotions arise in me and I don't let them control me. But I still feel bitter and resentful.
But just now I had a realization. With narcissistic family members and their games, I typically think back to the last positive emotion they made me feel, before the games. If my sister caused me bitterness with her irrational behavior, I remember that one moment when we last spoke normally, and I acted based on that memory. For example: she walked into my room one day in a rage and "accidentally" (intentionally) shut off my computer because she was looking for something very important to her. Instead of being upset, I remembered the day before when we were cool, and instead of going crazy I calmly asked if she was looking for her dildo.
She laughed, I took control, I won and went back to my game.
Just now I remember this tactic and I thought about applying it to this girl too. Our entire story started from that moment when I unintentionally upset her. I felt guilt. Next time I see her, instead of being bitter and resentful, if I think back to the feeling of guilt, I can imagine myself mumbling an apology to her. Suddenly, I feel in control again.
I imagined doing this and all the bitterness went away, despite all her games afterwards.
/adv/, I want to ask, is this a proven method for dealing with narcissists? Did I stumble upon something that is known by the experts here? I've been thinking about suicide for a few years now. Does anyone know what the best way to do it is? What has the best chance? What is painless? Don't give me any "this is a permanent solution for a temporary problem", "this is not a solution" or any bs like that. I'm very tired without adderall.
How can I break this cycle? I would have no fortune at all.
A huge number of people have dropped out of my indi film, making the whole project unstable.
The first girl to give me the time of day in years is moving out of state.
And both my room m8s are moving out, one suddenly.
My work sucks for pay, I scratched the family car.
How do I fucking get past the stress that just makes it harder for me to think and act clearly in relation to these things. >be me
>neet chud
>wake up at 9:30
>scroll /pol/ for two hours to see if anything happened while I slept
>after 2 hours of scrolling and shitposting realize nothing happened
>have breakfast around noon
>eat moms delicious food and now getting sleepy
Give me one good reason why I shouldn't take a nap in the middle of the day. I believe that genetic determinism is real. If you are ugly there's no way a girl would genuinely love you as a life partner and father of her kids. If Chad appeared in her life she would leave you for him as he is the better man.
Am I jaded and wrong? Or am I unfortunately right? Can I ask god to do two specific things without it falling into some form of heresy if it would make me and everyone’s life better?
For example, what if I wanted someone to just never exist?
Like:
>They never had existed
>They never did exist
>Never Will Exist
Straight up their entire self DOWN TO THEIR soul is just never made, ever. Like the big guy never made them in his entire work time.
Am I just coping with this in some way with life or what? Am I going to hell for even thinking or planning to do this? welp u read the title. i tried to kill myself and sent out a suicide note to everyone i knew basically/people who cared about me (including MY OWN FUCKING PARTNER.) i failed to actually die and now i've been hiding from everyone. i even deleted my social media apps so i dont get notifications about them. i want to tell them i did survive but i feel like i would be a loser if i did.
what do i do fellow Anons? I had this idea for a graph in my head for a while. Do you think the concept is accurate? I was just in Berlin airport and they did the xray thing and i heard one of the airport workers say 'klein schlong hahahaahahha' after it
does everyone know i have a small dick?
i am crying This might be a little more trivial than some other threads on here, but I'll give it a shot anyway.
My mother's birthday is coming up and she's hinted that she wants a poem. I recently learned that she really likes them, used to write them all the time, all that jazz. The problem is: I've never written a creative word in my life. I don't read very often, either. My familiarity with prose or rhythm or even meaning is minimal and my spirit is devoid of any real emotional pull or passion. In short, I'm a massive NPC retard. Both from a technical and an emotional standpoint, I'm completely clueless on how to write a poem. How the fuck do you do it? How do you determine something to write about and how do you write it to a passable quality? More critically, how do you do it in the span of a week? there's nothing to be gained by staying here in this world. the few short moments of happiness are always drowned out by the long and disastrous moments of "bad". there's no hope for the future and staying here would be a mistake. even if i could afford to retire someday, even if i wasn't to die young in the climate catastrophe, i'll still never be able to do many of the things i want, so i'll just spend the rest of my short life staring at a screen for 8 hours a day, fantasizing about blowing my own head off with a shotgun.
why the fuck SHOULDN'T i kill myself? I stole music from a famous artist like 2 years ago. People are still trying to find me, dox me, and they attribute their music to me. How do I fix this? 
It seems like the longer i go celibate the more angry, agitated and entitled i become. I used to have explosive anger issues when i was a teenager, then i became a young adult and found escorts and that worked a lot with calming it down. I think its because its not normal for a man to not touch another person for years at a time. I havent been with anyone in well over a year at this point, almost two years.
Its causing me to act like an asshole though. I just hate everyone. I dont want to speak to anyone because they get what i cant get regularly. They operate on a totally different plain of existence. Theres nothing i can do to get to that level. Theres no way i can be normal, or like them, and i hate them for it. When i had sex often i could feel like i was now normal, a sane normal human being. But now that sex costs at least $500 and i just dont want to spend what could be a nice vacation on a woman for an hour. Regardless, being alone and stressed with life is making me blow up at random shit and in a crashout suicidal type of way. Like a way where i dont care what happens to me in the future, just destroying whatever is in front of me. I honestly think if someone tested me in public in my mental state i would just kill them. Luckily i dont go outside that often anymore so that sort of removes that issue.
I dont want to spend a shitload of money to temporarily fix this issue but i also dont want to be suicidal and angry all the time. Can things really get better even when you can't see a single way anything turns out okay and doesn't hurt . Like you can't heal from anything and the stuff normal people do feels out of your reach even the most basic ones ? I don't know how much hope I gave left but I've been running on really low for a long time and a part of me just wants to say fuck it and get it over with and just hurt myself forever I live with my best friend from college and his girlfriend.
He’s short, like 5'3", kinda feminine looking, and always had that soft, twinkly vibe.
His girl’s a bit shorter than him, really cute, big tits.
One night the three of us were drinking in the living room, just hanging out.
I began to drink a lot, and eventually, one thing led to another.
The next thing I know, I’m in bed with both of them.
I don’t even remember how it all started, it’s just a blur.
I remember having sex, lots of touching, moaning, all that.
Woke up the next morning naked, both of them cuddled up against me like it was nothing.
I’ve never felt anything for guys before, not even a little.
Still don’t know exactly how I feel about it now.
It feels kinda crazy.
So yeah Was it just a drunk threesome or am I bi and didn’t know it? 
I took way too much bendryl and apparently the police got called up to my parents cottage and they found me hiding in the anchor well of a boat.
They took me out of the compartment and accused me of doing shrooms and I was super confused. They left after i denied any medical attention.
That night apparently I was running through the woods searching for cops hiding out watching me. They came back this morning and changed their approach complimenting my sweater etc and I broke down sobbing and the officer gave me a hug.
They let me sit in the front of the cruiser and showed me how the sirens work etc. They said they might periodically check on me but i’m worried I should just tell them not to come back since the hospital is going to let me out tonight. The police are still here they want to drive me home but I’m worried I could be getting set up or something. They keep saying I’m not in trouble and I must be so exhausted etc but is this just a trick?
Anyone ever been in this situation? They said I had severe psychosis and hallucinations. How do I get a big booty gf if I wasn't blessed with a BBC(or any kind of big cock)? How do I find the toxicity of a prescription medication. For reference the medicine is called Hydrocod/ Acetaminophen 
Like the title says. I only ever get attention from males. I'm a male too, but I'm 5'3", 115lbs, long hair, soft jawline, can't grow facial hair, etc etc the list fucking goes on. Tbh women never paid attention to me and I didn't care much about that anyway. I was depressed and a recluse during the pandemic lockdown but I've been hitting the gym since the lock downs lifted and I gained weight and stuff. The guys over there, idk probably gays actually pay lots of attention to me. I'm talking about borderline sexual attention to me and I fucking crave it like a junkie craving crack. I e-flirt with them and even send them nudes and I'm not even gay. But I love it so much because I feel desired for once. They send me gay porn too and it didn't do anything to me so at least I know I'm straight. The things is this whole situation got me femboymaxxing myself. I literally look like a fag and I can feel people's eyes on me in public. I dislike that anons. I don't want people to think I'm gay or nothing. What do I do with myself? 
I'm 24M, graduated a year ago. Didn't socialize at all during college because COVID made my schooling online and because of the poor asian family grindset. For the past few years I only cared about getting a 4.0 GPA and good job so I could help my parents with their debt. I managed to get the job but I have no friends or social life and feel very lonely.
My life basically looks like this: wakeup, work, exercise, play video games and fap, sleep, repeat. I don't really like fapping or playing games anymore. I only do it because it makes me feel numb and helps me forget my bad feelings for a while.
I'd like to have friends my age but I don't know how to meet anyone. Part of the problem is I work from home so I never meet people from work and I rarely leave my home, maybe 2-3 times a month for groceries/haircuts. I think I've got social anxiety or something because I find it extremely stressful to interact with people or go out in public.
I'd like to get a gf but I know there's no chance of that if I don't even have any friends. Also I'm quite ugly (tall and fit, but very ugly face). I thought about getting plastic surgery to fix that because I could easily afford it and maybe it would make me more confident and less stressed going out. But I feel I'd just be digging myself deeper into having a complex about my looks, not to mention my family would mock/criticize me for it. I considered using online dating apps to meet girls but since I'm ugly it seems like a horrible idea.
I've seen ppl online suggest: church, sports, clubbing/bars, volunteering. But I'm not religious, got a health issue that makes sports infeasible, and I don't drink or do drugs (ptsd from alcoholic druggy dad) and I find parties really stressful the couple of times I've been to any. Whenever I've volunteered in the past I never met anyone who wanted to make friends, mostly just older people who make small talk and focus on getting work done.
Any advice for what to do? hi, i just started going to the gym so ignore my nonexistent muscles haha. is it weird to see a female with back acne out in the gym? i dont want to get made fun of. would people just ignore it and focus on their own thing or would anybody comment on it? please be honest. thank you!!
and i am working to get rid of my bacne, anybody who has had it would understand it's very hard to remove and takes a long time. i just need advice for my current state on if it's a okay for me to wear a tank top at the gym. do any of you guys wear tanks with bacne? I find it impossible to look into other people's eyes, especially if they're looking at me. How to fix this? I accidentally blabbed about a family secret and now I've got that side of my family on my back giving me shit constantly even though I've apologized. On top of this I've got drama at work and a huge workload to do on a tight deadline and I CAN'T FUCKING COPE. IT'S TOO MUCH AND it's my fault I admit it i fucked up but everyone IS ON MY FUCKING BACK AND IT'S TOO MUCH FOR ME. What the fuck am I supposed to do I can't concentrate when all these different voices are barking at me all at once. 
I got 3 kids. My oldest son is almost 6, after our third came this spring he has had a complete regression when it comes to using the bathroom. He potty trained very easily, was completely fine when his first sister was born and only had resonable accidents like being sick.
Everyday he pisses his pants now, he'll piss himself in public, he'll piss himself at school and now he's pissing on his bed room floor at night. We took him to the doctor and they ruled out any sort of constipation or physical problem. We know he can do it, he did fine for 4 years. We tried a reward system where if he doesn't piss his pants for 14 days he will get a new lego set. He has just given up and isnt even trying for the set anymore. I've started taking toys away for every time he has an accident, he doesn't care. The only time he won't piss his pants is if we are at the zoo or something similar and i tell him "if you have accident we are going home immediately" this is the only time he won't have an accident.
People have suggested its an attention thing but i involve him in everything i do, I'm teaching him to ride a bike, swim and he helps with cooking and chores.
Im at my wits end here. I'm ready to just start beating him if he continues this. I'm tired of cleaning up piss and i feel like I've exhausted all the nice options. Any suggestions before I start giving my son tje belt? 
I have been using drugs (weed/shrooms/mdmda/coke) since august 2023 (introduced to me by my mom) and have pretty much used multiple times a day, every day since then even at work or when doing favors for people like dog/house sitting. I don't want to quit because I cant stand feeling any emotion other than numbness or euphoria.
Recently I've had reoccurring thoughts while high that I've never had before, where I envision myself dying and it makes me feel physically tingly and euphoric. The thought of escaping my wagecuck life and slaving towards my pointless degree makes me think I might be excited to die, where a few years ago I experienced severe thanatophobia.
I'm terrified of the afterlife but I hate my reality, I have ever since I could remember. I'm considering just dropping all of it and using my savings to do whatever kinds of drugs I can find until I die. I sometimes get jealous of homeless tweakers because they can get high and do whatever they want all day.
I will be a corporate zombie until I am in my 60s probably, I would rather have nothing and feel good 24/7 for a short while than give the rest of my life time to a company having regretted everything.
Pic rel: the ideal way out would be the Layne Staley way.
Does anyone else feel this way? Is there really any way out of the 9-5 hell or do I just need to search for a better way to cope? There are millions of women around my age in the world (I am 24), so what are the GPS coordinates to find my perfect beautiful thin loyal virgin gf?Where and who? 
Am in love with my best friend but idk what to do next.
So I and her have been together for past 2+years and I love her very deeply. We were just friends at first but she helped me through my depression and made me a man that I can say is worth and hardworking. So all of such incidents slowly got me feelings for her which eventually was true love.
I used to do anything just to see her and keep her happy. It's August 2024 and i confessed my feelings to her and she said she already knew but she didn't had any feelings for me. I nvr proposed her as I already blush and my eyes get shiny and sparkly when I'm with her(she said it). I know everything about what are her likings and stuff and she knows everything about me too. We can feel each other's mood just by few messages.
Here when things got complicated. I used to say luv you and stuff to her as i meant it. She too started using these words like luv u, muwahh, and treated me like a child and ik I'm just a child of hers. But her luv u and all are like friendly ones she says. She nvr got any kind of feelings for me or anything. We are like a couple but she says it's just friendly ones.
She went on a break during Jan and March as she lost a childhood friend of her. She deactivated all her socials and left me alone. Ofc it hurted like hell being without her. During this time I made her ribbon rose bouquet, bought a book she wanted, got lots a gifts and a matching necklace too. We met on March 11 and she was indeed surprised by all the gifts and it went great. At last while leaving we hugged eo as usual and she kissed me on my cheeks but somehow i kissed her back. It was first ever kiss of mine and hers. But she said this kiss too was a friendly one and ntg more.
(1/2) I answered the doorbell today, and a pair of cute girls handed me a leaflet from JWs. It's an invite to an event several hours away (lol), but it got me thinking. I'm a 26-year-old KHHV who could use love and a sense of belonging. And they just so happen to have cute girls my age who, if they're the same as in the US, like to breed like rabbits. Should I join them? I have no existing religious convictions. how do I truly give up on people, friends, and relationships?
>you dont want to do that
i am ignoring posts like this Will caffeine stop making me anxious if I keep drinking it every day? Will I eventually adapt to it and just reap the positives from having it? Hi, and sorry for my bad english.
I'm writting a fan-made story of this character who gets the power to teleport to any place they want, and uses it to visit attractions around the world and enjoy "local specialties", the thing is, they won't have a visa, so they won't stay there "legally", and it seems in many places they don't check out if tourists are carrying visas on the street (maybe unless you commit a crime or something), and most likely the character won't stay in hotels but their own home instead to rest, so I wonder...
What could be "unconventional ways" to get the local currency of every country they visit without getting into trouble? so they use that for their expenses on their visits. >be me, South American
>hard party with black music at apartment at midnight yesterday
>called the cops more than once and they didn't show up
>now dad wants to contact the apartment manager (to put regulations on the apartment) or the cops if that fails
I'm worried the guy that made the party, a probably unrighteous individual judging by the music, will harbor a grudge and try to harm us. My dad was the first to complain at the group chat. What should I do? Sometimes I cum to really fucked up borderline illegal stuff and I want to stop it, I'm not a turbo retard gooner who does this everyday, I'm a well adjusted person, I have friends and people that care and value for me but once in a blue moon I get this terrible itch for it, and I hate it, and I know if I don't put a stopgap, it will develop into something worse. I can’t believe I blew it with this ramona flowers alt-girl with big tits. There was something there, she wasn’t just some random girl. We went to highschool together. We graduated together.
And now she’s ghosted me…
She said she was busy so I sent another text a couple weeks later. I told myself I wouldn’t send a third one and would just cut my losses and walk away instead of simping and sounding desperate. She still didn’t respond. Then the semester ended and I sent another text a month after the last one, just to reach out to her.
Still. Nothing.
I can’t fucking take this anymore. She came on to me in the first place. I’m legitimately thinking about going to her apartment and waiting for her to walk out so she can’t avoid me. Is this a bad idea? I already exposed myself as a simp with the three consecutive texts so I might as well double down, right? I grinded, took each day as it came, then I met her. My mind went into overanalyzing mode and I pushed her away. She ghosted me.
Now how do I move on? I tried going back to my lonely life. It was all a fake. Do I find someone else now? But that's just coping with losing her, I was fine without her.
Cue getting depressed like a cuck. It was all for nothing. If I pushed her away, who am I going to settle for now... She is having sex every day now and it is not me. She is jumping on someone else's dick in all sorts of lewd, undignified positions, screaming in pleasure and what am I doing. She is exploring someone else's ass with her tongue and look at me 26 m
fall last year I got head from a femboy. I was 6 months into a relationship at the time. I’m very much in love and still together with her, and I’ve mostly decided not to tell and move on from it. Been dealing with it in therapy since.
I was in agony for months over it and it still flares up now and then from time to time. Thankfully got tested twice and came back clean both times. I want a serious future with this person, but telling her would ruin everything. We’re each other’s firsts and I’d do anything for her. But the pain of knowing what I did can be very brutal.
Do I have the right to continue on if I have changed for the better? I am 26 and I'm balding since I was 16. I tried Minoxidil and Finasteride, and the infusions specifically did help, but I never got to a point where I stopped feeling insecure. Picrel is my hair now.
Whenever I talk to people irl about this they just say "do what would make you feel more comfortable". Of course, that's weak advice, and I can't tell if they just don't see the issue I see or if they're massive cowards. What would help me make good first impressions with women? Keep it as is, shave it or try one of those glued-on wigs. 
It's not the kind of question that normally lands on /adv/, so I don't expect a lot but perhaps someone here will be able to help. I see very little available resources for cases like mine online, because all diet plans either include foods I can't have or can't afford. tldr; my health worsened last year to the point where I can barely even walk for more than 10 minutes, I am wheelchair bound for most of the time, I can't really exercise with my arms either.
I am having a really hard time adjusting my diet to this lifestyle and I can't afford a dietician. I am burning only about 1000kcal/day, 1300 on a good day when I can move. A consistent diet of 1300 kcal resulted in overall weight gain. I might be disabled, but I don't want to be fat too.
The problem is, I genuinely don't know what to eat to meet all my nutritional needs and not exceed the 1000-1200 kcal a day (and preferably, to enjoy decent food too). The biggest issue is that I am allergic to nearly all kinds of grain except rice and corn, so bread, oats, all that is not an option for me, but it's also the lowest calorie food that keeps you feeling full. It's genuinely hard for me to fit all the necessary nutrients into such small daily limit, especially when I need something like rice and potatoes to go with it and keep me full. I also don't have a lot of money because I lost my job as my health worsened, so expensive things like seafood are also out of question for me. I will genuinely accept any advice on the topic. Should I get a tattoo to celebrate my 18th birthday? I have very sick and twisted fetishes that prevent me from getting hard. I have decided to quit porn and try my best not to masturbate ever again. That said I probably will always be a sexual deviant, even if I don't act on it. Could a woman ever love a man who is essentially sexually impotent? I've been going to therapy for the last 3 years and while I've made a lot of progress, I still can't figure out how to get a gf.
I'm 33 now, the loneliness is starting to get unbearable. Is there a way to make it at this point? 
Iv been having an affair with a coworker for the past 8 months. It went from just a 1 night stand to regular sex to full declaration of lube for each other. Secret vacations. Work trips. You name it....with the intention of living together.
She tells me how she never sleeps with her husband (but shares a bed). Hasn't been intimate with him in 2 years. Always fighting. Has 2 kids 7 and 10. Tells me I'm the one etc etc.
I then sell my house, leave my current partner, and ask when she will do the same... But her tone changed. She told me 'she is not strong enough to leave the kids... Even though I told her she can bring the kids to live with me. She's also afraid her husband will stop her from seeing the kids.
I feel betrayed and lied to. Having been told she wanted to do all this life stuff with me, married. Have another child with me.... I'm now being told 'not right now...' and 'I can't take my kids away from my husband'.
I tried to be nice and supportive, but she keeps saying to me while she's living with them 'I wish I was doing this with you'. AI is fucking scary, man.
They can do deepfake face swapping in real time.
How the fuck do I know the girl I'm chatting to online is real?
Cause obviously asking them to send a video of them touching their nose is not enough.
They can fake that too.
How do I tell what's real and what's fake?
The fuck? please give me advice on how to date women who are taller than me
it might be hopeless but if i ever have children i'll make sure that they have it a bit better than me I met a Chad and became friends with him and we get along pretty well. One day, I was on a videocall with my girlfriend and Chad appeared asking ''can I say hi?'' so he did and everything was normal. At some point I told my girlfriend I felt insecure about my looks when I compared myself to him, as a response she asked me for his instagram because ''the cam was blurry''
I didn't do it. I would have let it slide but each time I brought him up she asked for his instagram. At some point I confronted her about it and she told me she wanted to make me jealous because it was ''cute'' and because she felt insecure I would lose interest in her (right now we are long distance, we met in person but we had plans to meet in september)
We had an argument, she told me she didn't believe her when she told me she loved me and I really don't, she is too pretty for me but I'm also mad at the fact that she knew I was insecure about my looks and used my friend to make me feel even worse What makes you go on? How many people really keep existing just so their loved ones don't have to go through loss, even though it feels like suffering? A lot of times I feel like I'm not made for this earth and ask why I'm here. But if someone said the same to me, I'd tell them life is worth living, and try to convince them to keep going. Have you ever felt truly invisible to others?
I‘ve, somewhat willingly, designed my life for optimal solitude. I‘m young, I speak to no one outside of my immediate family. The few friends I‘ve had I cut off, because they never really cared. Now I wander the streets living vicariously through the few words I manage to catch from strangers as I pass them. A sliver of hope remains that one day someone will ask me for more than s cigarette but in the meantime I‘m fully aware of my now entirely real and tantalising invisibility.
I‘m not looking for a solution. Not anymore. I would just like to know if anyone shares my predicament. Am I alone even in being alone? Recently I've been having serious anxiety problems and I don't know what to do about it. Everything seems to be causing me a massive deal of stress, even upcoming good things. My girlfriend brought up camping and I immediately felt fear at the idea. I have to find a new site for my security job, and I just feel paralyzed by the idea. The thought of doing anything but hiding in my room and just sleeping the rest of my life away is a terrifying thought. It didn't used to be like this at all, and I don't know what changed.
I was diagnosed with a generalized anxiety disorder, but I don't know where that starts and ends and what's just me being a little bitch. What can I do to just calm down and try to be normal again? 
Hi everyone , I'm a 20yo from Tunisia who never kissed a girl or even touched one.
The thing is I'm exceptionally beautiful and handsome ,and i know that and i feel that every day and it makes me feel weird when i be around people specially girls they be looking at me some type of way they always treat me in a special way and boys too, they be looking at me in an angry way (they can do nothing, I'm 6,4 .64kg full of muscle) .
My main problem is I'm shy and i feel like I couldn’t grow up and be independent from my parents, they treat me like i’m in elementary school and it’s killing me .
I also have no friends (i have them but they don’t talk to me bcz my mom always says no to me i never gotten out to a place of my age i only go to coffee shops, and now i only go to one coffee shop with nobody in it by the time i go there so i can sit there comfortably I didn’t made contact with anyone in a while , ANOTHER reason my friends cut me up bcz my parents don’t give me enough money , i only get 3 Dinars which is about a dollar while my friends get about 20+ Dinar which let them go to way better places that i can’t go even in my dreams) i have a chance to work as a model but i’m a very very veryyy shy person plz help ASAP i feel like I’m wasting my life(I'm only at a small home 24/7 in the summer doing completely nothing) plz no trolls i genuinely need help Should I make a Tinder account to get pussy? I turned 18 7 days ago and I think im fairly handsome just majorly autistic with no friends so I dont have a social circle to meet girls from. I might do decently on Tinder as im 6'0 with a sharp jawline but im kind of embarrassed about taking selfie and the idea of my family finding it How do I cope? I love her, she is the best person I could come across and we get along great unless when she:
> is forced to socialize or spend time with someone, the stress makes her self-destructive
> gets swept off by one of those weird magical waves
She's currently having one of those ideas that are like sunspots on her brain and won't go away for days/weeks/months. I can see she has some purpose, but her purpose now is to:
>lurk /x/ and all esoteric knowledge on the internet about other beings
>do meditations and techniques a few hours a day to learn to astral project
>wants to meet and summon other beings into her life
>can't focus much on other things irl without these ideas coloring them or bringing them up somehow
>wants me to join too
She's not psychotic, she can be reasoned with, she showers and is fairly functional otherwise but won't let go of these ideas. Advice? I made a tinder account and my dad REALLY wants to buy me tinder gold, should I accept it? Unrelated but my uncle also pays spotify for me but I pirate off of soulseek 99% of the time. What should I do if my friend accidentally walks in on me masturbating? I'm an 18yo kissless virgin, never had a gf. I want to get rid of my shameful virginity and insecurity by paying for sex, but I heard terrible stories about brothels which is why I'm scared of going there. Call me a bitch or pussy or whatever, but I don't want to spend my hard-earned wagiebuxx on some 40yo trafficked woman from Romania who might try to steal my phone. When I look up hooker sites online I get a few results but I want to know what's actually good according to experts in this field.
Another detail: I still live with my parents so at least some of the girls on the site should offer services in Motels, their apartments, basically anywhere outside your home. Wouldn't mind doing it in the back of my car once I get my driver's license.
Pic unrelated. How do I cope with getting my nudes leaked? This has not happened but it will tomorrow unfortunately and there's nothing I can do to stop it. Huge betrayal and man if he sees this thread I will just drive off a cliff. Anyways. Relationship of 2 years, lots of nudes sent and he saved them all. He has access to all my old social medias, all my contacts saved, school emails / college emails. Yes these nudes have my face in them. He has my family's numbers. Last time he Leaked my nudes I went on a mission to block.him om everyone's phone and it was hell. He has multiple numbers. Am I cooked? Its summer holiday. I need to apply for college but I'm Convinced no one will take me in anymore. What do I do ??? Is your life just done by the time you reach 25?
Basically this entire year of my life has felt much more void than 24
Don’t feel like doing anything ever
Just go to work and come home
Not a tiring job either and even on weekends I just don’t care
Never in the mood and when I make myself try something it’s never fun
Maybe like 2-3 weeks per month or so I feel ok other than that it’s like I’m experiencing that long Friday before summer break except the vacation never comes only the anticipation for things to change and be free again mentally How do I cope with losing my looks. How to cope with being a short desi in Canada? Especially all the Indian hate now my social opportunities feel limited. Not only am I 5'4 I'm Indian too which is like being a Jew in Nazi Germany. Even Indian women fresh off the plane prefer white guys. A little while back i got really sad one night and decided to cut up both my wrists.
The cuts were very noticable.
Upon pulling up to school the next day my friend notices them.
Instead of asking something along the lines of "Are you okay?", he says im right-handed.
THIS MAN CALCULATED THE WRIST TO WRIST RATIO OF THE CUTS, CONCLUDING THAT I AM RIGHT-HANDED DUE TO HOW MANY CUTS WERE ON MY LEFT WRIST.
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i have been passively suicidal since i was about 9 years old. it's been a hardcoded part of my thought process for nearly two decades.
i attempted suicide when i was 14, and every time something goes wrong (or the possibility of something going wrong) my go-to coping mechanism is thinking about and planning suicide. it's retarded and i want to stop but i don't know how. any advice?
this mindset is what charged shitty grades, a drug addiction, and a smoking habit. im now 3 years sober and my gpa is sitting in the 4.00 range but it's still the root of other problems. i keep smoking because im too cowardly to actually kill myself, so i choose to slowly kill myself instead. ive quit twice, but eventually relapsed and started smoking again because it's the closest thing i have to killing myself. thinking about death/suicide is also how i make myself feel better when i don't do too well on an exam and risk bringing down my gpa. im sick of it lol. it's like i have a destructive, unhealthy coping mechanism hardcoded into my day-to-day thought process 
Context,
I live in a small town in the Midwest, and for the past 28 years I was kinda stuck here. Lately it feels unbearable, I feel like I'm drowning with sorrow and regret and I really can't stand this place anymore.
Constant flashbacks, on how I could've done things differently, and how I noticed that I lived life for others and not for myself at all.
Lost my mom a few months ago from cancer, had to take care of her since the medical bills kept pilling up. She died in my arms, my dogs died as well, I sometimes can't shake the cold that remains from that feeling.
I'm thinking about moving out and starting over, but for whatever reason I have this conflicting thought in my head about it, even though I can't stand this place, is it because of the comfort zone that this place has created?
I'm employed, have a decent job that can be done remotely, most of my friends left this hellhole, and yet I still found a few others which I can go out and stuff, but I feel alone all the damn time, even If I'm surrounded by people.
It has got to the point where I feel the burning sensation in my chest constantly, like a sharp knife that slowly puts pressure on my sternum.
I don't drink, I don't smoke, don't do drugs, I go to the gym regularly, and yet I feel like my mind is under this great mist and I'm trying to move forward while having anchors tied to my neck.
If anyone has similar stories, and how they started over. Feels like whenever I come to terms with something I've been agonizing over for 1-4 years, something new pops up in my head a few months later.
Why the fuck am I like this? Any advice? What do I tell people when they ask me where I'm from?
It seems like such a stupid question for them to ask, cause then they base my whole identity on a stupid piece of land that doesn't mean anything. I'm an antisocial loner who hates people. What are the chances of me finding an antisocial loner woman who also hates people but is also gorgeous and attractive?
Yes, this is a serious question. 
31, female. I don't mean to be rude to any man, except maybe jealous incels, but I simply can't find myself to be physically attracted to avg looking men with a really kind & helpful personality. I've had several avg looking men hit on me after we became good friends, but I can only see them as a brotherly friend and not as a romantic/sexy type. I can't help but feel attracted only to tall and good looking men but I've had to suffer heartbreaks twice in my life as a result of these kinds of men, once for being turned down by a kind hearted hot man and the other time when I got cheated on by another attractive guy who I was in relationship with for 5-6 months. Are there any ways to naturally like and find avg looking, good natured men sexy? Oh and before you tell me to date avg looking emotionally unavailable men, let me be clear that I find these clowns to be viscerally disgusting as I find their unearned arrogance clownish at best. It's one thing for a hot guy to act arrogant. but it's a whole another level of looney for an avg men to behave that way. Plz help, and again I mean no offense to good natured men. I do wish to settle down with a man who'd be a good dad but I just can't find unattractive guys as a potential romantic prospect and I'm scared that I might end up having a short affair with a hot guy and ruin my marriage forever. 
A friend was telling me that my rent is getting kind of high even though I have no trouble paying it(1200 USD a month). I am 35 and I have never lived in a house my whole life. I grew up in apartments and even now I live in a apartment. He said my rent is getting close to being that of basically a mortgage payment. The one thing I am concerned about is that I am a very minimal guy. If I got a house, there would definitely be empty rooms. I also don't like all the weird extra shit that comes with having a home like roof problems, GUTTERS, and fucking HVAC issues or boilers / oil issues. I am also single with no family. If I had a girlfriend or wife then yeah I would think more on getting a house. But I am single. It seems insanely pointless for me to get a house but maybe I am the full retard pissing money away on rent apparently. I am not even a very handy guy so any fixing up the house would need, I would probably have to pay out the ass to have done.
Whats your opinion? When is it a good idea to get a house if you can afford it? >got caught skateboarding in the hallways at around 3 am
>security guard told me I was caught on cam
>Said I've been warned
>Also told me that skateboarding is fun and to just wait until he was gone to start again
>Felt like it was a trap
>Left
Should I just go back some other night? >make thread
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Does anybody know how to fix this? It happens everytime I try to post from my computer. To put it simply I’ve FINALLY kicked a ‘friend’ out of my life for good.
1: I can’t be a babysitter/boyfriend to one of her friends who is mental retardant to the point she has a mind of an 8 year old and ONLY plays Animal Crossing to communicate.
2: I got tired of her leading me on ‘out of the friend zone’, just to say I’m not worth dating but I am a good friend.
3: Since we are childhood friends her parents thinks we can just talk things out despite the fact I’ve lost opportunity cause of her.
My question is this: How do I rebuild my social life after a mental break from her? I have a date in 7 Days, help me get prepared frens. How do I cure my autism? I'm tired of it ruining my life. I can barley make any friends because of it, let alone get a girlfriend. It's fucked me too hard for too long now. I just want to have some meaningful connections.
PLEASE HELP My father has left me 3 months ago. I have major depression and anxiety. Things just go worse and worse. I feel like my grief is eternal. I am still mourning the death of my dog that passed away like 5 years ago. I cant really accept my father is gone by now. I kept remembering him, wanting him here. I am really stuck at life. I have a gf and friends that love me, but I feel like a drag to all of them. A burden. Its not worth having me in their lifes. I only demand things from them and have nothing to offer back. I feel like I am shaped out of only pain. I once liked myself, before getting this mentally ill and losing people I loved. I miss this version of me, but its long gone. My whole life is a mess. I cant stand looking at the mess that is my room. I really love my things (mainly my vidya collection) yet I cant find strength even to play anything anymore. The whole world lost its color. I just ramble around, even my thoughts dont make much sense. Thanks to whoever read this shit. I look like Gollum unironically, I just know that even if I got a girlfriend she would end up leaving me for a better man eventually
How can I find the will to live? Recovering from two (yes two) breakups that happened one after another and I genuinely have no strength to meeting more women currently. I am still giving looks to women that are physically attractive but I cannot devote myself to it at the moment.
First relationship lasted 2,5 years and the second one only 3 months and we parted only because we didn't have a common living goal.
I'm tired bros I really want to be remembered as an achiever. 
How the fuck do I decide on who to be. I feel like every few months I'm a completely different person. Like, I used to be super "tumblr blorbo everything is gay" person, then I became a "this is retarted that is retarted, trying to be unique is cringe, I'm so edgy I use this one single slur" person, then I became an "I'm so quirky I like dressing in cool alternative clothes and drawing cool characters" person, and then I became an "oohhh those westerners they just want to shove their SJW nonsense into everythingggg why is everyone so sensitive??" person, and so on and so on. I think I even had like a single day where I subscribed to tons of gym bros channels and then unsubbed from everyone the next day, confused on why I was so into fitness for like that one day.
I just feel like I'm all over the place on what to think and who to be and what communities to be in, and this has been going on for YEARS. I just can't decide on what person I should be. And this isn't about minor changes everyone has in their personality, I just change my opinions and personality in ways that completely contradict each other really fucking often.
What the fuck is wrong with me? Can I even do anything about this??? Should I continue to thank someone who holds the door for me, but never makes eye contact or say anything after I thank them?
Do they not want me to say anything to them? Is that why they avoid eye contact? >*smug smile* "Hey man look at your code here"
>"Uhhhh, yeah I forgot translating that one comment sentence into English, haha. You could've done that yourself or sent me a message. Anything else?"
>"Well nothing seems to work, I wouldn't know what to report."
>"...like what? We found one random bug in the user interface yesterday, and that we only found due to a friend experimenting with the program. You never mentioned anything to me even if you knew about the issue for so long"
He's also actively driving people away from me it seems, or just not interacting with people that like me. He's a stereotypical Discord mod archetype so I thought he might be jealous of how lean I am and that I literally come to uni with a sports bag to hit the gym right after, but Idk if he's that shallow or if he's got some other grudge. I can't read him at all. Is it possible that being too funny will land one in the friend zone? I know women like funny guys, but do they want a laidback careless cool guy or a funny one? Hard to find a good balance ![2639d18b40bb0560ed2a5dcb3154f1a574e67174[1]](https://i.4cdn.org/adv/1751417676100904s.jpg)
>my gf (short pale thick girl with a big soft ass, big tits,and thighs) and i try the whole cucking thing
>the bull is 6 foot 4 while i am 5 foot 8 so i kind of know where this is going
>They are both naked on the couch.
>she straddles him while facing him and just starts riding him intensely
>she twerks and pops her ass up and down from fast to slow
>i get jealous because she never rode me like this
>the guy says he has to cum
>she raises herself so he can pull out
>she lowers herself to continue straddling him while facing him but this time his dick is just resting on her ass
>she then starts flexing her ass cheeks before he cums
>he cums and she is still flexing her cheeks during and after his orgasm
>we meet the bull again
>he picks her up and carries her while fucking
>shes moaning and panting. Shes just taking it all and really enjoying it
>im in awe but also feel a pit in my stomach because im seeing him rearrange my gfs preferences right in front of me
>she cums
>later they are laying on the bed naked
>she straddles him while facing him
>she then grabs his dick and places and slips it between her ass cheeks.
>she tells him that this is his reward and her way of saying thank you for the way he fucked her
>for the next ten minutes Im just watching them share this intimate moment
It was so hot but it showed me that she really prefers the bull more than me. Even the flexing of her ass cheeks to intensify his orgasm was a new move she pulled out of nowhere. He didnt have to ask for any of these moves from her. She just did them. Im sure the guy was in heaven though. I guess she was never that attracted to me.
I now want to receive what she gave to him. If I tell her to do those same ass tricks on my dick, do you think she will say yes. Where did she get the idea to do these tricks on him? My brother has autism/retardation and he's 22. Should he be getting disabilitybux? I'm pretty sure he gets nothing, just lives with my parents in USA and has never come close to getting a job 
It’s official. I’m fucked. I was in class (college, psych major) and I have a fetish for public masturbation/exhibitionism. I am usually not very daring with it. So I figured I’d be kind of bold. So I sat at the very back. Not near anyone. And very covertly stuck my hand into my pants and started jacking it. Don’t judge. We’re all into something. I thought the desk would cover it up from everyone else. It turns out some girl who came in behind me saw. And boy did she tell fucking everyone in the classroom by screaming “HE’S TOUCHING HIMSELF WHAT THE FUCK”
Needless to say, I had a panic attack. I ran out of the classroom crying and went right back to my dorm room and spent the rest of the afternoon sobbing into my pillow.
I’m in the thick of it now. Criminal indecent exposure or public masturbation and very likely getting kicked out of college permanently. My parents don’t know yet. I might just make something up for why I got kicked out. I could tell them my grades were bad maybe.
What should I do? I really didn’t mean for anyone to see. It just gives me a thrill to do it in public, I don’t know why. I’m justkind of a pervert like that. What do you do when you feel stuck? I've felt like this for like the past 18 months after a bunch of big (negative) life events. I don't really feel passionate about the things I used to feel passionate about and can't seem to get momentum going. Not a whole lot of drive or motivation. Any advice? My spouse never gets time off but once a year. I thought that he'd plan a fuckin vacation but instead he's home playing metaquest while I have an extra mouth to feed and clean after 
my online bf has an absolutely evil, digusting, abusive low functioning autistic older brother that actively beats him and his family everyday and ruins his life. Everytime I hear a story about something his brother has done I feel so fucking bad and wanna cry for my bf for going through that. Sometimes we're on call and i can hear the horrors happening in the background. Scariest noises ive ever heard. I remember sleeping on call with him and being awaken by his brothers disgusting groans and screams at 4am. I started to cry imagining what he was going through after he left the call thinking I was still asleep. Since then, he mutes every night or just leaves after finding out I heard it all.
He doesnt talk about him at all mostly, when he does its death threats and anger towards him.(100000% rightfully so) I feel guilty I cant do anything being across the country, but he might come and see me next month. I wish I could do something and like live with him outside of his household but his old parents steal his money and he has guilt leaving them with that thing. I have no idea how to help, let alone how to comfort him. I feel like a bad gf ignoring it. He tries to ignore it every single day of his life, and I think im maybe an escape from his household and the trauma he has inside from it, and reminding him makes it worse. But I dont want him to repress it either. Please help me if anyone can. How do I avoid making a bad impression in interviews? I think that I'm a secret misunderstood genius, I despise helicopter authority and being "groomed" for management, I think that having a job and capitalism is fucking gay
I would like to be a scholar, an artist or an expert but I'm locked into wage labor How and why do I keep playing video games when I always get bored of them eventually? Why do I keep forcing myself to play them? Are you gonna sit there moping your entire life, or are you going to listen to the people who love you, who told you to get up and start loving and enjoying life? 
So I'm a former incel (terminally online loner and pimple-faced video game and porn addict in my teens, didn't get laid until I was 20) who's slowly chadded out over the past few years by completely cutting all that out except for 1 hour of vidya a day, self-improving - working on appearance, life goals, social skills, etc., and all of a sudden I realized I've started affecting women emotionally and making them really upset when I don't give them attention.
Not only that, but I realized I actually like it. Breaking women's hearts and making them upset feels really good. I get a big rush out of it. I just got an angry wall of text today from a woman I ghosted telling me that I made her feel so many things and then ripped her out of my life and she feels like she's dying, crying every day and it's unfair to do that to her etc. etc. Meanwhile it literally didn't affect me whatsoever to cut her out because she wasn't even in my top 5. I've got so many people I talk to, I didn't even think about her. But I noticed it made me happy that I affected her so much. This isn't the first one either, just the most intense.
Is this wrong of me and should I stop? I didn't intentionally start doing this, it's just a consequence of having too many options. That said, I actually really enjoy it. Why is that? Is it my resentment over my loser days coming out subconsciously or do guys who have been successful their whole lives also feel happy in situations like this? I don't want to be a bad person and my feelings do concern me. I feel bad for her but also it's a big ego boost.
And don't worry, I will hang out with her again after she said all that, I'm not a heartless guy and I do care about her feelings. Just saying seeing her hurt also makes me feel good and turns me on. I learned that a lot of mayors nevwr handle anything and start to do whatever theg want with their power using the money from taxpayers they are given.
If I were to have a few good political connections in a rural town of illiterates that dont focus on their towns politics, would I be able to become mayor of a small town abusing democracy using ads since everyone is illiterate and doesnt pay attention there?
Asking for a friend How can I retaliate against normies that speed past me and call me a faggot or to kill myself? It happens like once a week when I’m walking down the street to get coffee. No cops, and preferably no guns I've been cutting myself since the late 00s and feel like a sissy over it. Go complete hiki especially during summer due to the damage, whole body is covered in scars that only exes have seen. I want to stop, but how? It's the only thing that soothes me besides alcohol. Would also appreciate advice on treatment that isn't tatting. Yes, I'm a man. Yes, I was molested. How do conventionally unattractive guys get married? Are their wives actually attracted to them or do they just stick with them because of lack of choice and societal expectations? Soon I'll be 30 and I've always found fun the idea of having a threesome, the problem is that lately the idea has begun to invade my thoughts more often.
I've been with my gf for more than 5 years and she is quite jealous, which makes it less likely to happen.
I don't know if this is something that I should seek or if it's only a 30s crisis, a kind of "soon I'll have a family, be married and won't be able to do". 
I was "raised" by a "person" with BPD.
I am high intelligence. She is about 80 IQ. And yet I cannot speak to people. I am funny. And yet I cannot interact with people. I am scared of everything. I cannot control it. I spent my childhood being screamed at and hit and manipulated and caring for my mother as if I was her parent.
And now I'm going to graduate school.
And she is living it up off of other people's money like she always has. She never has to work and she never will need to work. I will be working for decades. She couldn't complete a college degree. I did. She couldn't. And yet, she gets everything in life because she has a cunt and can get men to fuck her and give her money. If she was a man, she would be sleeping on the fucking sidewalk. And yet, she gets everything she wants. Her and my retarded fucking stupid goblin cunt sister get everything they want all the time.
What am I supposed to do? All that I want to do is get high. That's all I want to do. I just want to get high and wasted everyday. Don't fucking tell me to "go to therapy" and do not EVER tell me that. What am I supposed to do? How do I stop caring about things and become as apathetic as possible 
