Board: /adv/
"/adv/ - Advice" is 4chan's board for giving and receiving advice.
I’m a sad fucking loser and I hate it. My entire adult life, I’ve been coping with loneliness as I’ve gone to uni. My family has become much more distant, and I just want somebody to love me. I see everyone around me in a relationship, but I wonder why not me almost every night. I’ve felt like I’ve exhausted everything, and I should just give up and blow my head off. Will I regret not marrying the most beautiful girl I can pull? In other words, settling for someone more average-ish when I can and have dated hotter girls? Anons what should I do about wasting your early 20s? I know I can't go back, but for various reasons I won't go into, I eventually became a loser. I just turned 24 and I've now developed the sense to get out of this hole I've dug myself in. I have no friends or any real experience with girls desu.
How fucked is my situation? I'm going to graduate really late, like 3 years later than my peers for a degree that could've been done in half the time. Average ?
Ugly?
Above average ?
23y old
5ft9
140lbs How do I cope with being a brown Hispanic guy and the feeling of inferiority? I have white family members who are 6'2 with blue eyes and strong European jawlines and thick heads of hair while us brown mutts are 5 foot 4 on average with tiny dicks and generic poop colored skin and black hair and eyes just like everybody else. We are also genetically predisposed to obesity because we had to live under constant famines or in case hunting was unavailable, so I'm also fat and ugly in addition to being brown and inferior Can someone explain to me the exact reason why women get turned on by a lean physique? We all know the strongest men are on the fatter side, so it can't be for strength. A lean guy is also not particularly big either, what is it about muscles being visible that makes women tick? I don't get it. How can I become the greatest loser who has ever lived? Will getting visible abs finally get me women? I’m 5’9 my mother is a narcissist with BPD, my father has autism, my sister is in her emo stage, I suffered bullying and was bullied throughout my school years, every girl I date (maybe because of my mother's traumas) usually has BPD or some disorder that makes the whole relationship a disaster, maybe I am asking for it and I focus too much on the negative things? I feel I am surrounded by bad people, I can't keep a group of friends, nor constancy in something like college or work. what proportion of women are indulging in this, year on year? any data on this by age, race, country, etc.? Lads, where did it go wrong here? I was ghosted right after this. We were texting Albeit somewhat sporadically but this was the cutoff. For reference this was back during Easter and I asked if she had any plans and she was taking her dog out for its birthday. We were talking about classes some too. I'm really trying to learn so I can do better because I am ghosted A LOT and I am not sure why Why am I attracted to Jewish women at my college? What do I do about this? Is this a part of the Jewish conspiracy people on 4chan talk about? I’ve been an incel since forever (am 25). Decided to stop being a hikki and turn my life around. Got a job where I met a cute girl who wanted me. But she met me at a bad time where I had low self-esteem. I tried really hard to talk to her and get to know her. But I ended up fumbling every chance I had to be with her (and she gave me so many chances). It eventually ended with me blocking her. I did it cuz I couldn’t handle the thought of her eventually finding someone else. She also got fired so I’ll never see her again. Now I’m left stuck thinking about what could’ve been and how I could’ve been happy.
Not sure how to proceed from here. I want to chase her but also don’t want to upset her anymore than I have. I unblocked her but she hasn’t blocked me so she’s definitely not thinking about me anymore. Idk, maybe I just made this post to vent a Get it off your chest
walk out edition >grow up being called "hoogbegaafd" by family and teachers (dutch word for gifted child, very cringe)
>"oh anon you are so smart you can do anything you set your mind to!"
>ok whatever
>breeze through school because shit was easy
>graduate university and get ok job
>fast forward 6 years
>suddenly becomes hard to learn new things
>i never feel smart, start feeling retarded
>depressed because i feel like i let everybody down
>try to learn something new but adjacent to current work
>feels legitimately impossible
>no longer able to meet my own expectations
>feel like i cannot do anything right anymore
>start abusing nicotine to get some brain power back
>only kind of works, still feel hollow and like a fraud
do i just rope and reroll stats or is this fixable >go on date with girl to some dessert place
>goes great
>her mom picks her up (shes 22 but does not have a license yet)
>after the date, I tell her I had a nice time
>she said the same and said she hoped we can do it again
>i text her asking what she told her mom about the date, just out of curiosity.
>she told her that she had a fun time and that I seem like a good guy
>she asked me what I told my family, and I told them I had a pleasant time with her
>she then randomly asked me if she was bothering me. that confused me so I asked her why was asking me that
>pic related is what happened. I responded to her story about her love of the film 500 days of summer, and she only hearted it. She did the same with me letting her know when I would be free again.
Am I going crazy or does it feel like she lost interest already? 1/?
Bear with me here
>Be me f 19 and a result of miscegenation, born in a 1st world nation
>Move to live in 3rd world country in Asia
>Look misplaced since I inherited all the Anglosax
>Get ostracised, bullied, sometimes favored over other kids by adults
>Then molested and groomed for the rest of my developing years by several figures (5 to 11 yo)
>Return to 1st world country
>Lacking English skills, horrible social skills, suddenly I am seen as everybody else and no longer a white-skinned model
>Try make friends in elementary years, realise everybody is so privileged and shallow
>Feel irrelevant and then result to doing what I always did for attention from adults, sex How do you prevent someone from cheating in college? I said , " you are my endless " for now. I'm developmentally, emotionally, and mentally stunted. I spent all of my time by myself and never had any sort of social life. In school and college I never managed to do anything. I have no noteworthy achievements. I completed college but feel like a fraud because I'm certain I would have failed my degree had it not been for living at home and having excess amounts of time to complete things that other people finished five times faster. I have no positive traits that I can think of. What should I do? 
I'm an old guy. As of last Thursday, I am 89 years old. I have a big dick, I've had sex with at least 216 women, I have 36 confirmed children with 22 of these women (all of whom payed me child support until the first 10 of them turned 18, the last one is only 6 months old), I've smoked approximately 118,000 cigarettes since I was a boy working in the coal mines of eastern Scotland in the 40s, and drank about twice as many beers. That doesn't include the several thousand handles of vodka and bottom shelf whiskey, mind you. I've snorted several snow shovels worth of coke, dropped acid with Paul McCartney and Bradley Nowell among several dozen other prominent figures in pop culture history, I've injected several hundred pounds of pure white heroin and pure golden marijuana extract into my veins (I was the first recorded man to inject marijuana unless you count Jimmy Paige who shot a load into his penis in 1973, but he apparently didn't get high), and I've written a total of 47 self-help books. Also, I have many interesting hobbies and pursuits, such as painting Warhammer figurines with the blood of dead mini-horses that I purchase from a local farm. All of the figurines are red, obviously. I wouldn't have it any other way. By the way, this is a picture of me and my son Licious-Grand Marhkhaven.
Basically, I won, and you didn't. You're just a shadow in the light that is my life. Yeah, sure, I'll die soon; but so what? At least I lived. Ruining my life. I see every woman now in life as some kind of threat. I fear getting into another relationship because I'm afraid she'll get her claws into my heart and backstab me. I thought I moved past the relationship, I don't have any ill feelings against my ex, but maybe not. Any advice? >gf moving in with me
>I am genetically deficient
>regularly take both finasteride (combat baldness) and viagra (had ED for years before even starting fin)
How do I hide it from her? Or what’s a plausible lie for this medicine I have to take at the same time every day? Is there a cost effective way to fix? Picrel is not me but somewhat similar to my situation
Teeth don't look too bad at first glance but gums/gumline are a mess. Does bonding fix this? Or something else? My boss wants to send me away on a business trip abroad, everything's paid for by the company. I've never lived alone or left my city so the thought of booking everything on my own and staying alone in a hotel room is intimidating to the point I'm strongly considering declining. People keep telling me that I should be grateful for the opportunity and broaden my horizons but even besides the sheltered aspect I don't really care about travelling even if I know it's logically the best choice. I'll be just as miserable there as I am here.
I honestly don't know why I'm typing this because I think I already made up my mind but I figure I'd read what anons think about the situation. I wish I could just be normal but I always have these retarded inner conflicts over stupid non-issues like these
Pic unrelated >financially
>mentally
>love relationship
>good advice.
>hobbies
I seek guidance from people who are older than me 
>be me
>annoyed with asshole brother visiting on the holidays, who treats you bad
>months ago he threatened to fight you just because you kept letting the dogs go to the backyard, or back inside
>decide you just want to walk your dog and have nothing to do with family that morning
>leave house without saying a word
>mother calls me back, telling md she needs something
>go back inside, and she just wants us to talk about why I don't feel like talking
>tell her "no" and try to leave again
>6'3" 280lb wrestling, powerlifting brother bars the door with his body/arms and won't let me leave
>I tell him to "let me go"
>he says "not until we talk"
>try to squeeze past but it's no use
>see my off-leash dog on the other side begging for her walk
>"let me go"
>"no"
>I pull out dull paint scraper and point it at him
>"let me go"
>"no"
>lightly press the against his arm, making sure it doesn't actually cut him
>"let me leave"
>"no"
>start pressing the paint scraper in
>"let me leave"
>"no"
>press it in more
>"let me leave"
>"no"
>I withdraw the paint scraper from his arm and make a wide swing
>it hits the door frame
>he looks at the direction the sound came from then notices his bloody arm
>I try to squeeze past while he's distracted
>manage to get halfway out before he grabs me and takes us to the ground
>continues to hold me and my paint scraper arm
>"let me leave"
>switch the paint scrapper to my free arm and nick his cheek
>he grabs my paint scrapper arm with his legs and puts me in a lock
>we're like that for a few minutes until he gets tired and lets me go
>once he goes inside, he calls the police
>I put my dog away and wait patiently for the police
>get arrested for "assault with a deadly weapon"
Am I in the wrong? I believe I was only defending my right to leave my own home. How do I prevent 4chan staff from stalking me? The leaks proved mods can see anyone's IP whenever they want. 
>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.
>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
https://fantasticanachronism.com/2025/03/20/how-to-be-good-at-dating/
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)
REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.
Prev: >>32982636 How do i actually stop procrastinating? I just want to practice guitar, workout, or do martial arts but i always end up just watching slop youtube videos while playing games or some shit. i want to actually get fit and start making music but im so addicted to content consumption and leisure i cant do it consistently over a long time. If I were to dissappear where would I go if people were looking for me and my life in was in danger hypothetically >be me at the mall
>run into qt former coworker
>we get to talking and she’s a bit flirty
>touching my arm, compliments
>suggests we hit the gym together
what’s the play here bros, it’s a weird setting. plan on doing it on my rest day, should i just follow along with her leg routine? i guess i should break the touch barrier, be flirty and see how she reacts? I just found out this female customer is a cutie so I’m thinking of texting her this weekend. Both of us work 9-5 at an office. Is this a terrible idea? Is 35 too late to start a trade job? "Borderline Personality Disorder with heavy but sub-clinical narcissistic, histrionic, and sociopathic traits." That's my diagnosis. (My sociopath score was said to higher than 95 percent of non-sociopaths and is at the lower end of the score common in prison populations)
How do I become a better person? My entire life, I've been cruel and predatory. As a girlfriend I've been nothing but abusive in my every relationship. I don't know. I want to be a good person. Why can't I just be good. Interacting with people normally isn't fulfilling, at least not in anything except short bursts. I enjoy tormenting and hurting people, but I always feel regret and hate myself afterwards. What should I do to survive all nighters?
The main problem for me is passing out. Over and over again, I keep thinking "Hmmm...I think I'll lay in my bed for a little bit with the fan on. I won't fall asleep." Of course, when I do, I lay for a couple minutes, close one eye and then the other, and then it's fucking 9 AM.
Preventing myself from passing in the middle of he night is my main goal but tips about anything else are appreciated. I made a huge mistake.
About a month ago I got drunk and posted a comment on a local news article talking about a Palestine protest in my town. I said they were a bunch of lunatics and they should be arrested for supporting terrorism.
Unfortunately, I left my name and email in the comment. Then people used that to find my home address.
Now for the past weeks I am being relentlessly harassed. I am receiving 10+ emails per day calling me a racist, a neo-nazi, and an islamophobe. I am also receiving death threats in the mail daily, and a couple times I have seen people outside my house throwing rocks at my windows. Worst of all, they contacted my work with screenshots of my message and got me fired. Now I worry I am going to become homeless.
I don't know what to do. I am at a loss. Wtf is a daddy? I go ask these girls if they're wanting a boyfriend, and they say no. They just want a "daddy"...
What is that? I don’t drink. I remember my aunt giving me a beer to try and it tasted like shit. I also hate my family so I associate drinking with being a loser. But everyone I know drinks for fun and I feel I miss out on opportunities by choosing not to. Thoughts? I got committed to a psych ward multiple times as a kid because my parents didn't agree with how I felt about myself and they made up claims I was gonna self harm. They kept doing this until I stopped saying anything that disagreed with their views.
I'm getting ready to move out of my parents' place, but they're really determined to keep me here as long as they can and my dad "joked" last night about getting me committed again.
I'm thinking of taking off secretly tonight. I have about $500 cash saved, a week's set of clothes to change, a laptop, my phone, and I have a car but its in my dad's name so idk if it would be a good idea to bring it with me. I'm 27 and when I was 25 my parents started dropping hints that they want me to get a girlfriend. My dad said women would want me because I'm attractive and when I went to the store my mom was there as well and she saw a woman on the till and she said to me that "that woman looks nice, you should ask her out" and this kept up for a while but it stopped and my mom saw my typing on my phone and she said "Nobody types for that long, you have to be talking to a girl" and my dad thinks I'm into asians and he said we should go to japan so I can get one of those dumb bitches like the one from death note.
I wish they'd stop asking. There's no benefit to men dating and getting married in 2025. a guy did all this boyfriend stuff with me - play video games together, eat dinner together, message every day, hung out all day, but he's not interested in me? he sends hearts , sends his video game clips, all this stuff nd its like he doesn't want anything serious... i wont sex casually!!!!!! So I dont know if anyone reads this board but i need advice
Me and mi girl are currently in a distance relationship and we usually masturbate with eachother, but recently she is been into a streamer way too much but in kind of a dodgy way, i ask about it and she always is like I got nothing to watch now, but I discovered she is very commited to their channel, Active in their discord, comments on every video, and now after a session of us masturbating i noticed that she was watching,chatting and making clips, speaking with chat, WHILE we did it.
Am i fucking crazy if this freaked me out a bit?, Like how do i aproach her to tell them that it was fucking weird?
It honestly made me really uncomfortable, i was like focused on her and all and she was doing her thing but When i noticed she was distracted and it was also doing that, i kinda got bummed out, like she was chatting with someone else while i was giving her my 100% So I moved to Arizona and I'm 20 mins away from Tempe. I've heard ASU has a reputation for hot women giving it up easily in exchange for booze and a good time. What's the best way to approach them? how do i find non artificial women? like, especially women that get their validation from likes online? i want a real woman. i know i have to accept a degree of artificiality to anyone, but how do i find one as close to my description as possible? How can i demonmaxx
The spirits? Already in communication with me (from hell). Should they maybe realize that they deserved to die? When I’m drunk, all of those pent up feelings of loneliness and not being good enough, working hard for such little pay seems like such non issues.
Is this what it feels like to be an alcoholic? That it just solves my bad mood and my stress? Life feels like such bullshit sometimes but this temporary high makes life seem worth living again… somewhat. Even if I were feeling miserable, the alcohol makes me wistful. whats the fastest way to improve your life in meaningful way? talking jobs , drugs, opportunities that can 10 your entIre direction. 
typed this shit so many times ill make it short. i fucked a guy, caught feelings, got into a manic episode induced by the excitement, started doing crazy shit, saying crazy shit, embarassing stuff. fucked his friends, did everything imaginable that could ruin your reputation, but all i did that time was be a dumb hoe. manic episode ends, i realise the stuff i did got back into reality. worst feeling ever but i still continued fucking him. the feelings were waying on me, nightmares, discomfort, just basically slowly going insane. started sending him and his friends p diddy jokes, sex trafficking, rape and murder, sexual assault. now at first they probably thought it was funny but it stopped being as they started thinking i was serious since i would make these jokes like every fucking day. anyway i continued fucking that guy he probably thought i was edgy. but i started making jokes that go into details, thats when 2 weeks ago i was invited to wat i feel like was a set up. since on top of that i used to constantly insult him and his friend.. they asked specific questions , realiwsed what this was, ended up with me breaking down in his arms, he consoled me yada yada whatever. this is when things get extra fucked up. i started descending into something bad. sent my friends and his friends detailed messages of self harm, self mutilation and cutting myself in the vagina. sent videos of me running around naked and harming myself naked. then coincidentally came across someone called isabella janke, who just drove me to say the most fucked up stuff and send people stuff about her saying shes misunderstood and i would do that stuff too. currently, nobody at all wants to speak to me and my pics and really bad messages hav been posted. im leaving the country soon as i have no future at all here. thats my story. i still have urges to say really fucked up shit and i do on discord. sh9ouldve kept it there desu. bye bye. how can i cope with the fact that most people believe i am less than human and would prefer if i died I'm in my mid 20s and I've experienced very little due to intense social anxiety/depression, paranoia and probable ADHD. From late elementary all the way up to college I've been a borderline mute and made no friends. No license, barely paid attention in school, have never stepped foot in a gym. Even the concept of hanging out with other people is foreign to me, this extends to online interactions as well. I have a very shallow understanding of adult life, my only real interest was playing video games but I guess my frontal lobe has finally developed and it's sunk in just how screwed I am, the games are not really fun anymore. Despite all of this I somehow have a job yet I'm a social pariah and don't really get along with my coworkers even with them being my age and working there for almost 5 years now. I know I need to change drastically but I don't know where or how to start. I am 23y old
How old i look? I really don't want to go down the incel rabbit hole and I am trying to avoid it. However, the issue I have with it all is that sometimes the incels appear to make sense. If they say on /r9k/ something like "You know women get dates way more easily and get into relationships way more easily right?" Which is a common talking point. It drives me crazy because I in my logical mind cannot refute it because I have lived the experience. In my experience as a man, it does indeed SEEM like women get dates more easily and get into relationships more easily. So in a case like this, what do you do when the villains start making sense? I don't see a way to not fall into the pit. Has anybody ever used this site before?
I haven’t yet, because I don’t know how legit it is.
Some of the girls are suspiciously cheap.
Are those scams or setups? How to scoop eye out in the least painful way ? 
I'm a high school graduate that's been out of school for 9 months. I've been applying to jobs but the only one I finally heard back from (and I think i got because of a family friend???) is a Host/Hostess position.
I got the look down, that was easy, but i'm relatively quiet. disturbingly quiet. I've scared a couple people just walking up to them because my footsteps stopped making noise a long time ago.
The General Manager says he could tell I was nervous and that with this job I can't be. I have no idea how to manage that. He explained to me with the pricing and popularity of the place, they want someone nice who will smile. I can smile and I even recently learned how to make it reach my eyes. I don't think that makes up for my lack of social skills. I know how to be polite and say please and thank you of course, but I don't think that really cuts it either. There will be, from what I understand, a week of training aswell as some course online?
Also, I'm worried I give off the impression of a loner because when I walked in the current host said "Hi! Table for one?" but maybe I'm overthinking it.
I think this would be good for me but I'm starting to feel like maybe I moved too fast.
Any advice? how to get over a breakup I am graduating from undergrad this weekend and tomorrow i'm driving 2 hours away to pick up pic related. I got it for $250 dollars. The only thing is, I'm moving out west with my family and we don't even know if we're bringing a moving truck or just taking our vehicles or what; and my dad's vehicle very well may not be big enough to fit this, I don't think it is. My vehicle can't go because it's an old POS that wont last longer. So ik my dads going to be mad at me for getting these. Am I making a bad move on getting them? It's such a good deal and it's such a beautiful piece that speaks to me and would last my lifetime. 
Femanon here I’m at a point where nothing is getting better for me just keeps getting worse. I have thoughts about killing myself or killing my ex boyfriend in horrific ways. I hate that fuck but I want myself dead too. Is it that I just want things to get better for me and stop hurting? Maybe. I have no friends, I don’t have a future. Barely can afford my rent. I work a dead end data entry job I hate working. I go to work and come home. I’d like to get a pet but I can’t even take care of myself. I’m a loser volcel. Yeah I’m good looking but only good enough to fuck everyone leaves in the end. I barely shower I smell most days don’t have it in me to wear makeup or look nice. I have terrible nightmares that make me not even want to sleep ig im addicted to muscle relaxers
It just gets so lonely, ive always been alone i do everything myself i wish i had someone to even talk to. I finally trusted someone after my last bf was cheating on me with trannies and he leaves too. Why do I always have to deal with things alone. I was so happy just for someone to crush the future I wish I had. I don’t think love exists but at the very least I’d atleast like a friend but I’m old enough to where finding a best friend is near impossible everyone has their own lives 19m Moved to new state couple months back and haven’t had luck meeting people at community college or work. Should I give dating apps a shot? I’m not particularly attractive and frankly don’t have much desire to date rn (not a huge fan of person I am at the moment). But frankly am getting very bored and don’t intend on doing hard drugs yet The less bullshit the better. Jobs like: tattoo artist, security guard, forklift, plumber, underwater welder, pilot, tower climber. Things like that. I'm too shy and I hate it.
I'm 25, no friends, never had a girlfriend, and I have a hard time starting or maintaining a conversation with a man, and I find it impossible with a woman. I hate being like this. Should I accept who I am or try to change? How can I get Adele's Rolling Deep out of my head.
Need death metal suggestions. 
>be me
>regular dude in international college
>not super social, but got a small solid group
>friend introduces me to this cute girl from my country
>kinda tomboy, but attractive in a weirdly specific way
>we start hanging out
>laugh at the same memes, grew up on the same stuff
>finally feel like I met someone who actually understands me
>she mentions she’s on antidepressants
>bit sus but I don’t judge
>meet her friends
>they look at me like I just joined a cult
>they all call her some dude name
>think it’s some edgy Discord nickname
>fast forward a few weeks
>we're tight now
>I'm thinking of asking her out
>she randomly asks what I think about LGBTQ stuff
>I say I’m not part of it but cool with whoever
>she goes “I’m actually a guy and planning to transition someday”
>nervous laugh
>assume it’s a joke
>joking back
>next day I see her friends
>ask if she was serious
>they say “yeah, she told you finally?”
>bruh
>she starts using he/him now
>friends go along like nothing changed
>I’m still stuck calling her old name in my head
>says he’s gay because he likes guys
>biologically still a girl, calls self a gay man
>so... she's straight but not?
>if I like her, what does that make me?
>gay? straight? broken?
>trying to stay chill but losing grip on reality
>still lowkey hoping it’s a long-running joke
>it’s not
>it keeps getting more real every day
>what do I live in northern Wisconsin. I am 22 male. I have parents who let me stay with them but they keep pushing me to get a job around here but I see no point because there are only a few factory jobs. Right now I have enough saved to drive somewhere and live a few months and find something else. I have a rav4 and a bed in the back and could potentially live in the car/camp outdoors for a while. What should I do? I barely have friends here and the ones that are my friends are hooked on drugs. Any recommendations on what direction to go? Im thinking west to Seattle then down maybe skip California and end up in Vegas. >finally self exclude from online gambling after blowing 50k over the years on Andrew Dice Clay Craps, Draft Kings Live Dealer Blackjack, Lucky Larry's Lobstermania Slingo and leprechaun-themed casino games
>save a ton of money
>nothing fills the void of occasionally winning $600 on some shitty slot while 15 beers deep and chainsmoking
I don't know how to replace this. SAM SULEK
5ft10 and 230+lbs eating like a horse + a lot of steroids
Real life = Doesn't look huge next to a twink
What is the point of muscle ? I thought they make you look HUGE next to the average skinny boy
His shoulders barely look wider with big deltoids What's the difference between a woman disrespecting you and a woman "just" shit testing you/being a woman? At what point do you put your foot down? How do i stop getting migraines? My neck and shoulders feel tense and my sinuses and behind my eyes hurt like hell To make a long story short I have a 2 bedroom apartment that I need to split rent for and my dad knows a girl who is willing to clean up the house and do all the womanly chores as well as split rent with me. How do I get her to suck my pee pee? I'm not a virgin but I only hooked up once off tinder and haven't really been trying and I gained some weight which I am going to lose soon, 3 months tops. How do I make her my gf? She was basically born in the same country as me too and speaks my native tongue. im 28, 180cm and look like pic rel. im very torn, the longer I live around white people the more I realize - racism never really went away , its just more covert now.
But fuck I've seen the true colors of muslims (my birth religion) and they are so hypocritical and honestly while I like islams monotheism , I hate the nitpicky little rules like keeping a beard , cant pray 5X a day due to work conflicts, etc etc. I've been openly chastized for not keeping a beard and I'm like eff off. There's nobody of my ethnicity around me cause im a small minority , I've met like 2 families in the last 5Y tops.
I feel like a man of no nation and no peoples. I was born here and grew up here, I've met good people here but damn shit is just so toxic now.
I just hate humans in general desu. I really did just want to get along but some of you just make it impossible. I have a hard time dating because I believe that I sort of dial back my own masculinity. I am not a gigachad or anything but I feel as if I am fearful to actually go on dates with women. I am scared to make mistakes or somehow offend her. Or maybe I do something too forward(or not forward enough). What kind of masculinity are a lot of women really looking for on dates? A prime example I can give is that I feel a strong compulsion to ask for permission before I do anything with a woman because I can't feel out moments. Last woman I dated, I asked her if I could hold her hand and I am sure that probably killed the mood. I just don't feel confident enough to just do things. It seems fundamentally wrong to me for some reason. Like just reaching out and taking someone's hand feels wrong without asking. What can I do to get beyond this? Apparently women like men who lead but even that is hard for me. anyone else have issues getting/keeping an erection when you use coke?
any tips on what to do to counteract this? even with viagra the problem isn't totally resolved Gentlemen. For far too long, I've allowed myself to waste away in my own misery, to remain bedridden, lazy, and porn-brained for too long. I don't want to live like this anymore. I don't wan to sit around all day, eating junk food and masturbating to porn. I want to do more, I want to BE more.
But it feels like every time I try, I always end up failing, going back to the status quo because that's always easier, nothing ever changes, and I'm sick of it. I feel empty and hollow inside. I have no emotional attachments to anyone, and I spend most of my life alone. I don't have motivation, drive or ambition. I'm addicted to both food and porn and it's eating me inside.
If any anons here have been through, or are currently going through what I'm going through right now, I'd greatly appreciate some help. am a college graduate.. bachelors in finance. this girl is interested in me but she’s uneducated. pros n cons to being with her? shes easy to talk to but she had a lot of boyfriends from her job like 1 chef 2 cooks n 1 security guard. i legit don't get it, i look much better than all other guys near me.
literally no girl ever shows me some type of interest, where i could say "i could ask her out".
do i need to show that i find her attractive?
no, right? women do it normally, no? What are the steps involved in achieving this? I'm always completely drained after work, mentally and physically.
How can I refresh/reset/revitalize after getting home?
No coffee/caffeine. Is it possible to open my clogged left ear from home? I am a cheap fuck
I have:
Salt
>cheap drugstore bulb syringe
>debrox
>water
Can I do it myself with just these tools? I have work in two days and I can’t hear shit
I tried taking a hot shower and rinsing but nothing I'm a 20 yr average looking girl, not fat, not tall, not mature looking both in face and body. I don't know how to cook besides the basics, I'm not social, too shy, all I do is play games read clean the house then study. All I want to do is live peacefully... Is it even possible to find a Sugar Daddy in this state? I don't want it to be sexual since I get really nervous about sexual things. Looking for just eating together and keeping each other company.
I'm a college student and I'm struggling financially so so bad, tuition and dorm room prices are so expensive. I've been thinking of finding a Sugar Daddy since last year but I don't know where to start and it mainly because when I look at myself I don't even think anyone's gonna want or like me.
I wish things won't be this expensive, I just want to study in peace and have a roof over my head while doing so but the current prices for stuff is so frustrating... Any advice? I have Italian ancestry, and in my 20's my skin color has become less white and more sort of olive. I've tried drinking water, exercising, and getting sunlight but it just sort of looks sick all the time. Is this normal? Should I just get a tan to look better? How do I actually force myself to draw? I've been wanting to draw for nearly 2 years now and have barely made any progress towards that goal. I've only done one Loomis face like 2 years ago and haven't done any exercises or line work since then. I've been trying to get myself to draw, but all of it looks too complicated and exhausting for me. I've tried multiple different strategies, but they never seem to work. I've tried forcing myself to draw, but can only make myself draw circles for barely 30 seconds before stopping and looking at my phone again.
I've got a couple of drawing books and a drawing tablet for my PC and barely touched them.
My shaky hands fuck up every drawing I make, and I can barely do lines without fucking them up. I can't use my shoulder, I only feel good using the motions of my fingers. How does one transcend this? 
How am I supposed to connect with people and get a girlfriend if I don't care about people?
I am aware what I'm supposed to do is people-shopping. If I start caring about a girl and falling in love I already ruined everything. However if it's not falling in love I just don't give a shit about anyone.
Classmates fucking around? Don't care about them. Ask someone to hang out? I wouldn't know what to say or ask, if I ask things I'd forget them. If I tell things, I might as well talking to the wind, people don't give a shit about me and never ask me questions.
Ask a girl out? I would ask the typical interview shit, I don't think she would ask anything back unless she's horny and wants to fuck me. Never had sex by the way.
>Just do what you like bruhh
I only like things that give me a feeling of self worth, such as playing an instrument, or working towards autistic shit like hiking or mountain climbing (never climbed a mountain yet). It's either shit I can do at home alone, shit that's effort-dependent and socializing means less effort invested on it, or stuff that people only would do if someone already takes them to do, meaning I'm still not meeting people in the right places.
Either way, lately even things I do haven't been able to make me feel right. I'm tired of doing things alone but I don't know how to get people into shit I want to do because nobody tries anything but popular shit. Nobody walks into my life. I try to walk into theirs and they don't open the fucking door. Im 6ft, muscular(everyone tells me that i have crazy genetics aesthetics and i wrestle), average face, smart but my issue is that i m a fucking nerd that thinks to much.
Normal social interaction are boring for me, like if im playing a game with uninteresting dialogues, i faze out so much thats crazy i dont really feel into it.
Is there anotherway than alcohol for me ton enjoy those things I'm not really sure how to phrase this. But I would appreciate replies listing symptoms of autism and aspergers. To see which ones apply to me, if any. And I'll ask a doctor about it later this year. They serve me this for breakfast everyday.
I'm concerned over whether these are real eggs I am eating.
Should I be concerned? If they're not real eggs, what am I eating and will it impact my health? 
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Previously on ATOGA: >>33031016 My head tenses and hurts bad whenever i have to use it. I cant even read a book because reading and processing the material causes these spikes. As a kid i was overly sensitive, as an adult i still am like this. Ive gone to neurologist and psychiatrist but the meds dont particularly help when it tenses.
Am I not telling them accurately whats going on?
Its not a simple thing i can ignore, my brain becomes slow and incompetent. I neeed advice on how to fix this. I'm 27 but have a really fucked up life right now not including any undiagnosed mental disorders I may have, basically I'm finding it impossible to get on my feet.
Is there some kind of temporary assistance for people like me? Or do I have to get a medical diagnosis to even qualify for such a thing?
I'm like 90% sure I have some form of PTSD so getting diagnosed isn't a problem, I just don't know if I want that kind of thing on the record. How many pics do I use for a dating app profile and of what type/variety? Why do men who are or have been in an abusive relationship simply dismiss it as "crazy"?
Men seem to oversimplify abuse even when it happens to them, and many of the traits that they describe as "crazy" would be immediately considered abuse if the genders were reversed. 
when my gf and i started dating we both understood we wanted to to lead to kids someday. I have a few health issues that could possibly be hereditary, but i still was feeling hopeful. I was at the doctor this week and and was told I could have another health problem that I would need to get tested for, and would likely be genetically passed down.
I had a conversation with my gf telling her that I was feeling bummed out by this news and gave me some concern for what could be passed to our future kids and if i could be an effective father.
she become incredibly angry at me, told me i blindsided her with that information and that I tricked her into dating me because she wanted kids and believed I did too. When i tried to explain that this was just was I feeling in the moment she accused me of going back on my decision to have kids and that 'something changed' with me compared to when we first started dating 6 months ago. I never once said I dont want to have kids anymore, I was just considering what it would mean in the future if we had as many as she wanted.
we are both in our 30s so i understand that shes under pressure but I couldnt believe she would act that way.
How can i resolve this? How do you write your plans?
How do you take notes? Since i’m depressed, i feel like every day is worse, i don’t feel happy in any way, i don’t want to do anything, i don’t enjoy anything, it’s so fucking awful i don’t care about anything. I just want to be happy but i’ve lost every hope 
Can someone please give me advice on how to stop binge eating i really need help because its honestly getting out of hand. no matter what time of the day i come back home and i eat and eat and eat and eat and i do not stop like my stomach will be bloated like a fucking balloon and i still can’t stop eating. no one in my family cares and any advice ive read up on is also not helping and i don’t know what to do im trying really hard not to go back to therapy. some things i tried include writing myself meal plans, staying away from snacks, distracting myself, eating multiple meals a day and nothing worked nothing. instead of candy i would just eat whatever the fuck else i would find, if i tried distracting myself the second i got up to get water/ use restroom i would immediately go for food. even when i ate multiple times a day i would still just end up eating a bunch in the end. the worst part is im not overweight (yet) so maybe that’s why no one in my family cares and even believes that i have binge eating disorder but i just want to stop but no one is willing to help me. i’m seriously so sick and tired of constantly feeling the need to eat food and honestly people might make fun of me for not having any self control but i seriously tried my hardest and i still can’t get anything to work. I just became Chad from losing all the body fat that had been preventing me from getting bitches.
I'm just very conflicted now, should I seek one partner or fuck as many as I can? I'm feeling the latter from years of deprivation. But at the same time I'm feeling quality girls only want the former. All my life whenever I come across a girl I like I always fuck it up by playing mind games with her, essentially making her believe that I don't like her and that I think she's pathetic, then she finds herself a boyfriend and I get depressed. In some instances I do manage to eventually get sex from her, but the fact that I could have made her my girlfriend at one point and that I'm now enjoying sloppy seconds because of my insecurities, is really driving me mad. I can't seem to maintain relationships in general, whether it be platonic or romantic. Anybody else deal with stuff like this? Any tips on how to fix it? My main issue is the fact that I'm scared of rejection even when it's plainly clear that she likes me.. Pretty much every group of women finds me undesirable
I would blame looks but I know this probably isn't true
I assume it's my mindset is bad but how can people smell a weak mindset off of me? I feel like I don't make it too apparent and try faking it (and never making it) 
I'm in my late 20s and pretty much have everything going for me in my life. I have a good job with a decent salary, plenty of friends, a good amount of hobbies, and for the most part don't really have much to worry about. I somewhat enjoy my life but have been dealing with the anxiousness of being alone with no companion.
Lately I've been thinking about how fucked my last relationship was and how the few dates I've been on for the past 2 months have led to either being "friendzoned" or just getting flat out ghosted. My last outing with a female for sure amplified how I've been feeling disdain towards them, especially when they said they wanted to do a follow up date and then suddenly ghost. Its been exhausting and it feels like my effort means nothing on this front. I've typically had a major bias against women since I always felt that either they could extract something out of me such as money or favors or I'd be nothing to them. For the past almost 10 years of my life I've always had this hatred for women and lately I'm contemplating if I'm in the right for it.
I definitely want someone I can call my partner in my life but I feel like my anger and frustration for them gets in the way, and it doesn't help especially in this dating climate. I'm often conflicted on wondering if I'm right or wrong about how I feel about them and I'm trying to find ways to get over that feeling since I think it would be healthier to get over it. Any anons got any advice on this? Thanks for reading my novel ![a38z1aubpyyd1[1]](https://i.4cdn.org/adv/1746672833376384s.jpg)
/adv/ at this point I am well and truly cooked and could use some advice and/or guidance.
I am a 33 year old boomer. For the first time in my life have enough money/time to pursue a bachelors degree. I am considering getting a SWE or a comp sci degree. I have a 2 year diploma from a small college (yes I am a leaf) but no post secondary outside of that.
Is tech as cooked as the redditors say it is? Everybody says there's no entry level/junior level roles available for new devs. Are they all hiring strictly jeets?
I don't need to be in fagman or anything but SWE caught my interest because I like dev work (used to do a bit of light web dev when I worked in digital marketing right out of college) and the decent wage is obviously nice.
I do manual labour right now installing CAT cable and while I don't mind it (primarily because it's kind of mindless and the people I work with are good guys, also being active the whole day is nice) I don't think it has ""real career"" potential. Trades are tempting, but I really don't think you get paid enough to bust your ass like a lot of trades guys do. They also don't make as much as people seem to think they do.
idk, thoughts? It is either CS or try to become a psychologist or something. Are there any other areas that would be worth investing time into a 4 year degree in?
Any help is really appreciated, thanks I don't even know where to begin honestly.
I'm a good talker, I have a nice deep voice, I have a great accent.
But I can't for the life of me bring myself to becoming good at cold calling? Now granted I only have a sample size of like.. 40 cold calls in total, but it has resulted in 0 meetings.
Do I need to have a degree of shamelessness in me that I currently lack? After I get "sorry not interested" I'm just stuck and don't know what to do and just thank them for their time and hang up. But the "not interested" is usually just a knee-jerk response it seems, because they've neither heard what services I'd offer their company, nor the price. Where can I find asian women that want to date black men in america? Why is college so fucking hard? I studied and I'm pretty sure I did shit on my Calc 2 exam and the only reason why I got into that class is literally because I only took Calc 1 as the only class in my last semester. Am I just unironically low IQ to do this shit? I don't have 850 dollars to afford an IQ test so I have no idea what my IQ is, I hate how exam heavy college classes are. I'm not going to go into trades and damage my body so am I just doomed to minimum wage jobs for the rest of my life? As the title used to say I used to watch and download a ton of WMIF cuckold pornography and while I have deleted all of it I keep thinking what if I never deleted it and it was found while I was president and people saw it and my male caste members were hurt. Can anyone fucking help me with this shit? I have no idea what I'm doing and all the retarded autist faggots on yt are useless. I just want to move everything to my new laptop and that Macrium Reflect shit is confusing.
I'm a techlet so I don't know how to start, my new laptop isn't even getting recognised as a disk. I'm not entirely sure where this fits but can someone explain to me what's so bad about dating a single mom?
>She's damaged goods
Yeah and so is 95 percent of the dating market. Your chances of getting a virgin are slim to none.
>She's probably a slut
All it takes is one time to get knocked up and the fact she kept the kid is proof she's loyal so it's not like she's going to be cheating on you behind your back.
>But I don't want to take care of kids
I'm the oldest of 5 and my youngest brother is profoundly disabled. I've been taking care of kids my whole fucking life. I can handle being step dad to 1 or 2 kids. It's not the end of the world. Is socializing as a NEET even possible? Anytime I tried the first thing anyone ever asks about me is about job or work. What the fuck am I supposed to say? 
Got diagnosed with BPD. Read post. Says BPDemon. Now I am concerned. What do people think of BPD? Mostly what is BPD? I am confused. I guess I won't tell a soul and try to be a chill human somehow. Is there a cure? I keep reading info and everything is like "substance abuse, lots of bets, drunk driving, being a whore...". Shit like that. I was depressed. Got diagnosed because I got suicidal. Now I am more depressed. Why did the doctor tell me? He just dropped the bomb. I hate him. He said it in a nice way though. Now I can't sleep. I already knew there was something wrong with me. Now it is just chronical. This is awful. At least I am happy because now I know the problem. But I don't understand it yet. So please help me understand. Will I become a betting drunkdriving whore? I am a healthy person. I just have depression or at least I thought so. Not a whore. Don't do drugs. Don't steal. I mean. Is there any hope left? Thank you for reading I guess. Sorry for not asking ChatGPT or something but I want the cruel real truth and he would be like "that term is wrong" or "you are inflicting our policies" or something. Perhaps I may ask him? I just wish I could sleep... I guess you are not health professionals. I want to know the stigma I might face not the medical definition (which does not clarify much at all). I'm 23 and it feels like I'm doing nothing even though I'm almost finished with college, working a simple job to pay school and some bills. Life is not bad but for me it just goes like nothing, my friends are great and I've been able to go out with some girls but I'm not even interested in trying something else. Even tried some pills to stop feeling like, it helps for a day or so but end up feeling the same after that. Is something wrong with me by default? what should I do? Maybe the worst place to ask but whatever How do you deal with people that think you're stupid? I have debt collectors trying to take me to court, its like at max 15k in credit card debt, I have pretty minimal income and no posessions worth more than like 500 bucks, what do? I can't help but think I'm cooked in life. Sorry if this is blogposting but I don't know how to really ask for advice. All I do is work and when I rarely leave the house I drink too much at my shitty local bar. When I'm home now I just doom scroll all day and am active on incel servers that I feel shame about. I've never had a relationship or sex I've tried talking with girls but I've only been rejected. I'm not physically attractive but I am fit and do work out. I think relationships are such a big thing that weighs on my mind because I don't know what I'm working for or why I'm getting out of bed in the morning. I don't really feel human more like someone watching other people who live their lives normally. I feel a lot of shame that my life has ended up this way and I want to fix it but each time I try I fail. Any advice appreciated. Woe is me, there is no curse by the Gods from above and bellow greater than to lust after men... manly masculine men. Why would fate force upon me such a pathetic and repulsive desire!
What should I do? How do I quench such undignifying lust? Is it impossible to date women as a guy with long hair? Should I date men instead? should i donate blood? i just rewatched Heat last night, and i have the same blood type as the little girl. 
do things rlly get better?
ive had a pretty shitty life up until last year when i moved away from my abusive parent after recently turning 18. im still finishing highschool and i know im still young but i dont feel happy still. ive stopped being abused, left my abusive ex bf, cut off any bad relationships i had and i only have 2 people who are family that i trust now. after everything ive been through, i have deep trust issues and i dont know how to fix them. when i meet new people i automatically put up a fake "nice and sweet" front because thats how ive always been forced to act. and in most relationships ive been in, the guys always neglect or abuse me because im annoyingly needy/clingy. i feel like i should give up because theres no hope for me, but i dont want to. i just wish someone could stand me. im scared to fully be myself around those i trust already too. i also just really really fucking hate myself but i dont want to kms rn. srry if this makes no sense im extremely retarded and maybe this was more of a vent than an adv post but if u have any then lmk ig gaycels to be honest, i just fucking love incels mostly because they dont have much experience with relationships etc, am i wierd for having this thing for them? I'm in Toronto for work, what should I do while I'm here? Is it stupid to fight a big huge dude and get your ass kicked just so you can prove to him that you're not scared of him? Even though he kicked your ass? >caught watching yaoi on my work computer during my lunch break
>subsequently fired
How do I tell my family who depends on me financially? Is there a way to frame this so it doesn’t sound like it was my fault? Realistically how can I move out of my parent's place at 20? I'm allowed to stay here rent free but I'm sick of sharing a space with my unemployed loser fag 23 year old brother. He's a legitimate bipolar schizophrenic retard and my mom's too much of a pussy to kick his ass out even though it's what he needs. Seriously, I can't bring friends or girls over to the house because he's always home; fag has no friends and no life. It pisses me off to no end.
So yeah I'd like to move out but admittedly I'm quite sheltered and not really ready for what that entails. To provide some useful background info,
>$1,500 currently saved up
>work an average of 30-35 hours a week at wagecuck job getting paid 13 an hour
>attending community college where tuition is $2,250 - $2,750 give or take every year
>No knowledge on how to pay bills
>No friends who are looking for roommates
This is where I stand. What do I do from here? Even a few useful tips will help 
I'm 36 and have 3 year old son. My whole life I have had social anxiety or avoidant personality disorder. Or whatever you might call it, I never got diagnosed officially. I always had one friend at a time at most and was more attached to the friend than he or she was to me - they never invited me to personal parties like birthdays if at all.
Now I see the same shit happening to my son. In the kindergarten he has only one buddy and doesn't play with other kids. I think the others do want to play with him, but he rejects. Does not greet them back in the morning, for example. When some kids are mean (he is not get singled out I think, some kids are mean to everyone), he does not defend himself, just starts crying.
I don't know how to deal with this. Both me and my wife have no real friends, we don't invite people to our place, we don't show our son how to form friendships, I think this might be a problem. But I thought kids can learn by themselves how to function properly. I always thought my problems are from my parents beating me as a child, not genetic. I am really surprised this is happening. Who can I ask for advice? i cant ever get hired at jobs because im completely socially inept. are there any online jobs i can do?
its not that i cant do the work, i just cant hack the social game because i am fucking autistic. 
How do i break my mom before she falls into full schizophrenic delusion?
i know you can make someone snap back.
I just question her, keep questioning her, then she slips, keeps slipping.
she's stopped preaching her stupid shit to me but i can tell she still believes it.
she styles herself as some kind of "researcher and intellectual" but honestly she's the most self-absorbed and uncurious person i know.
she's starting to hate me for studying stem, very often says shit about physical reality that are so fucking retardedly untrue that i can just prove it to her with example right in front of her eyes.
i don't actually know what goes behind her head when i do that, if she even accepts that it actually happened right before her.
this isn't about some kind of intellectual sparring or whatever, i just don't want to lose my mom to some stupid bullshit.
every time my siblings "argue" with her it just gets worse, they clearly don't know how to communicate with her, they've clearly never actually tried.
i tell them plainly
>you don't know how to talk to her
and they just get as stubborn as her when she says some bullshit about reality.
she believes in that standard vril shit, hermes trysmagistus or whatever. No she's never read anything on it, only shitty content-mill slop. Maybe the original book but that i doubt. she's not much of a reader.
Of course every stupid shit she believes in is because she's "the center of the universe" or whatever bullshit. If physical reality doesn't conform to her "objective truths" she just chimps out. She can't fucking shut up about rape (in general) and at this point i suspect she's maybe been molested though i don't want to pry, though that might just not be true cause she wasn't always this batshit or obssessed with the subject. I don't feel anything. I pretend all the time where in reality, I couldn't care less about people. I don't give in to people out of a sense of duty and due to the fact that I know that it's not other people's fault I'm miserable but I can't connect with them.
I wasn't always like this, what is wrong with me? 
>be me
>join RP server, decent mechanics, pretty active
>build my character, fire bruiser type with stacking burn debuffs
>get into a fight, use my kit properly
apply burn stacks over time like I’m supposed to
>forget to post one effect IC during a hectic exchange
> but I did clarify it in OOC chat later
>“Hey, that hit gave you a burn stack from earlier”
>everything seemed fine, other player didn’t complain
> weeks go by
>almost a month later
> mod drops a bot warning on me out of nowhere
>says I “cheated” by hiding effects and “metagamed” by backing off from an obvious damaging effect IC
> asks no questions, just throws a punishment and says “this is the end of the discussion”
> claims I’ve “done it before” with no explanation
> didn’t even talk to me like a person, just wanted me flagged
>meanwhile everyone else jokes with the mods and gets helpful feedback
>I get “stop pinging me” when I ask a mod to explain what I even did wrong
>been walking on eggshells ever since
Is this normal? Like... seriously.
They wait weeks to drop a warning, act like it’s been a known problem, and refuse to even talk about it.
Should I just bail from this server or what? Is getting into cybersecurity worth it in 2025? Leaf here.
I fucked up the summer internship search so how can I best ensure I get a summer wagie job (burger flipper, etc) with decent hours ASAP. I'm an engineering student and gonna take a summer course at the university in the meantime. This summer job is to bolster my funds to buy a car by the end of this summer.
My city isn't too big (under 200k) and is on the periphery so less than usual Indian migration. During my time, doing manual labor jobs, I have often come across coworkers that work a bit differently.
They basically move like superman on steroids. Like you see them on the belt, moving one item after the other like they are on cocaine. Or ringing up items at the register like a machine gun. Washing dishes so fast, you'd think at one plate is going to be shattered from the billions of clang sounds per second of plates hitting each other as they shove a billion plates into the machine in under a minute. It's like an earthquake is in progress.
And they do this for the whole shift.
It's usually asians and hispanics though.
I'm wondering, is it worth it to move that fast?
I got fired from my last job for not being as fast as them.
I was being paid $16 an hour. question to white women from westerners countries and maybe(eastern europe is fine too). I'm a thied worlder living in a first world western country a d I never had a gf, I want to know why so. I'm kind of brown but not dark brown with black hair and brown eyes. do you know why I never had a gf, is it because women from westerner countries are racist against me? it would be weird because I saw white women going with brown or black guys, so didn't I stand a chance? Is therapy a meme? I spent 3 years of high school doing it and it never helped with my antisocial tendencies then, and I'm wondering if it would help my self-defeatism now. Am I wrong for complaining that all my (single) mother gets for food is cereal and frozen pizzas every fucking time? I’ve had this shitty diet my entire life and it made me skinnyfat and when I complain about it she says im ungrateful and threatens to send me to the mental ward (she’s done this before,, lied about me having a breakdown and sending me a mental health ward when I was 14, I was locked there for 5 fucking days). I’m 18. She says now that I got a job I need to pay for my own food when I make like $150 a week thanks to my shitty 7 dollar hourly in my crappy state I can’t afford much of anything 
I have never lurked here before so sorry if there are etiquette things I get wrong.
>be me
>meet girl
>woman of my dreams
>kind of woman I fantasize about meeting
>deeply appreciate who she is as a person
>fall deeply in love with this woman
>she expresses that she feels the same way about me
>things are going very well, every day I find new things to appreciate about her
>tells me about guy who hit her up and offered to take her to the mall in exchange for sex, tells me "I would if he would just buy me stuff online"
>think she is kidding
>one day she randomly asks me how much I would pay to have sex with her
>I tell her 100 dollars as a joke
>very playfully gets upset as a joke
>tells me a guy on Tinder offered her twice that
>ask if she is gonna do it
>says maybe
>think she is kidding
>she is not kidding
ive asked a few female friends and they have all told me that it really isnt my place to dictate to her that I dont like that she is dipping her toes into sex work, but this is a hang-up I can't get past,
Anyone can answer the following questions but if you are a femanon, please lmk because you have a perspective I am interested in hearing from specifically.
1. Am I being ridiculous for being upset about this? like is this an irrational hang-up?
2. is it sexist to even be upset or have this strong of an opinion on this?
3. Should I make my feelings known to her or swallow them because they are irrational and try to improve and not get hung up on this? i’m 28f and still a virgin (raised muslim all my life I don’t believe in sex before marriage) but I have a very high libido and I get so horny especially on certain times on the month like ovulation so naturally I discovered masturbation in my teenage years. How would a man react if I tell him that yes I am a virgin but I self pleasure when I’m horny? would he be disgusted? How do I force myself to enjoy interacting with people? I’ve had enough bad conversations where people seemed to just be listening for the opportunity to try and humiliate or insult me (you don’t know this song what kind of loser are you? Why would you ever boil water you freak? Oh my god you watched that movie are you a nerd or something?) that I prefer to just not bother talking to anyone at all. Unfortunately this limits my career and I recognize it might not be entirely fair to judge people based on how I’ve interacted with others. However I’m not sure being incapable of learning from the past is the right answer. So I live alone in a shitty studio apartment and my neighbor is an older lady in her mid 70s and she's in rough shape. She uses a walker to get around and can barely walk at times without being in pain, I've talked to her and she's got no family left and she has tons of health problems (Brittle bones, fucked up spine, Hep C/Early Stage Liver Failure). She often comes to me because she can't walk very far anymore or leave the apartment building for me to run to the nearby grocery store with her social security money to buy food/drink and a couple packs of cigs for her. Is it wrong to buy cigarettes for her considering all her medical problems, I feel like I'm enabling her and aggravating her problems medically and not being a good person, but at the same time she's a grown woman near the end of her life probably and the smoking seems to bring her some joy/pleasure in her sad life Since I was 13 I watched a bunch of porn and masturbated pretty frequently, I think it has made my mind pretty degen? At least maybe more than it should be. Now at 20 I watch fucked up stuff and sleep around. I feel okay when I do it but sometimes I feel like it may have a negative impact on me, I feel disgusting and broken beyond repair, just yesterday I was heavily considering accepting a guy's offer to have sex for money. Is it over for me? Where do I go from here? Do I have to say goodbye to sex and porn forever or is there a healthy amount? I went to the strip club today around 6pm and there was no girls except for the bartender and an ugly chick flirting with another dude, when am I supposed to go to get a show tf Guys, please help me, how can I stop biting my nails, I just can't get rid of this habit, it's torture I've had astronomically bad luck all around me this year, it's driving me insane. Loved ones getting horribly sick, old injuries acting up, truck got robbed all my tools gone, moved into a new house and on night one we find mice, I just can't catch a break.
I put good energy into the world, I love helping people and bust my ass making an honest living to take care of the people I care about, I don't have any enemies that I know of and care for my friends like my brothers.
Cherry on top is that I just found out my freezer died on me, the freezer I had full of food for the move. Everything inside is trashed, totally thawed.
What am I doing wrong? I'm not the spiritual type and didn't even believe in luck but I'm about ready to call a shaman over this shit I can't take much more.
How can I fix my luck? >when you've started to feel guilty over the amount of times you've cheated, but she cheats on you so you finally have an excuse to break up and be the good guy
Holy shit I am LAUGHING my ass off while she's begging for forgiveness. I know I'm a bad person but I don't care. This is a forbidden feel I can't share with anyone.
How do I gaslight her even more? I just wanted to know if it's normal. I'm so self-aware, I over analyze things, I'm not myself because I know people will dislike it. But being so analyzing will also be disliked. Been like this I'm just so tired. Luckily there's chatgpt to talk to I can't just simply open this up to anyone.Fortunately there's this site to, thank you for reading I'm just so lonely and overwhelmed rn I'm a fking 25 years old and still unsure of myself and what the fk am I thinking I should be thinking of career, family, real stuffs. Am I normal. Am I likable this way, I read self help books and how to deal with people but fk I'm still shit. It's still hard to deal with yourself and people. Tell me guys, Am I a failure for a 25 years old. >25
>no friends
>no gf
>shit work
I wake up every day wanting to kms
How the fuck do you get through days like this? Doing a shit job, seeing everyone happy and with a gf and friends while you're all alone,
coming back only to go on youtube and browse shitty videos of people being happy and having gfs and friends,
not being able to travel anywhere because you have no friends or gf to travel with
How the fuck do you manage to not kill yourself in this situation? How do I get out of this situation? How do you listen to podcasts without internal distractions? I feel like I'm not made for them because I forget most of what I hear, and I'm only 24 years old :(
Also, does the kind of podcast I listen to matter? If it doesn't benefit me, should I listen to something else? 
Yesterday my wife found a filtered Facebook message from a month ago that she hadn’t seen until now. See pic. It’s from a burner Facebook account with four friends and a male’s name in the URL.
I got kind of creeped out. The email address is a secondary address I use mostly for promotional sign-ups, etc. and the town the person mentions is a suburb of a major city I lived in for a few years around the time in question.
I dug into my direct messages and found this message:
“15 years ago, you spent 2 years stalking, harassing, and blackmailing me to the point where I completely emoved myself from every social circle I was in. I unfriended most people I knew. I stopped talking to my closest friends. And I contemplated killing myself nearly daily for damn near a full decade. I'd like to think you grew up a little since then, especially since you're married and have kids now. I just want you to know that you single handedly ruined my 20's and I almost didn't see my 30's because of you”.
I have never stalked or harassed or blackmailed anyone in my life but I’m paranoid that I somehow did and disassociated it somehow. Is this even possible?
Could the person be crazy?
Could it be a case of mistaken identity?
Could the person be social-engineering somehow?
Do I reply or just leave it go? I am turning 21 this year and I signed a contract with the military of my country to start an IT carreer, it would last 15 years. I am not sure if this is the right thing, i dont know what to do with my life. I dont really have a dream job, i signed just because that was the best thing that was available. However, I can still dissolve the contract. >be me playing games with female friend
>female friend is arguing with some guy on enemy team
>she says "you are so miserable because you have a micro penis" to the guy
>I get slightly hard when she says this
WTF I don't want to have a SPH fetish and I'm 5 inches anyway so I'm not small. I hate it when people bodyshame others. WTF can I do about this? What's the best response to getting doxxed? 
