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>scandinavian
>early 20s
>178cm/5'11(?) Tall
>blue eyes
>well built
>6/10 to 7.5/10 looks
>8.5 inch cock
>HUGE shower (as in grower not shower)
>only got laid once with condom
>and couldnt get fully hard (for the first time ever)
Its so over if i dont fix this. Im too short in my country and im not zoomer enough.
This is my last trip unless something changes i think, its too lonely and disheartening to have zero success where i should have some success atleast. How do i fix this? I've been sticking to mostly dating apps, bumble specifically. Im going on my last trip soon
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I don't actually care. I hate people, all interaction even with my own family. So, why should I care about feeling embarrassed to not spend my hours toiling for scraps.
I have tried many times to succeed, it just doesn't happen.
2019
>fail college become punching bag for being failure for three years
2022
>return to college
>bullied since I was isolated and freaked out under the adjustment to a massive building full of people and shook every time I spoke.
>become depressed and drop out
>go back 9 months later
>same thing happens with different students
>professor looks at you with sadness and also frustration every day
>had A+ grades in the first and second semester, teasing myself with success
>finally leave for good
2023
>work at pharmacy for a year
>burn out and tell boss I'm depressed and can't do it anymore
>he ignores you and eats his lunch
>I go home.
2024
>Get job at supermarket
>they call me at 5:00am when my shift starts at 9:00am
>I get there and the boss screams at me for not answering
>I leave cowering and never return
>screams slurs at me from his car in the following months
I don't want to keep doing this. I just want to be left alone. Its so hostile out there and I can't click into any group or anything.
I have a girlfriend somehow, so there's my only positive thing. I guess I really just wanna know. After it gets so proven to you that you will not make it out there why is it the shameful thing to withdraw? Isn't it the logical thing to do?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.
>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
https://fantasticanachronism.com/2025/03/20/how-to-be-good-at-dating/
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)
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>finishing HS soon
>have two options go to uni or work
>pros of uni are is that I may actually have a social life and such
>cons is that I really dont want to go to college and I want to avoid meeting some people there
>cons against jobs is that I will lose my social life and the chance of having a girlfriend
I'm so fucking lost, parents basicly want to force me to college but I really don't want to and every option sucks ass for me, what should I do?
>Vegetarian
>Bmi 31
>want to loose weight
how and where to start bros?
Now it's back. And I feel fucking miserable.
I have a fucking addiction. I cannot physically stop myself from punching in the letters "4chan.org" into my browser. It is genuinely like being a crack cocaine addict and trying to stop yourself from getting your next fix, even when the crack is right in front of you. I just can't fucking do it.
I NEED 4chan to be dead, or else I can't fucking survive anymore. I need this website to be completely and totally shut down, or else I won't be able to function as a human being. I just can't fucking do it anymore.
Please someone tell me how to cope with this. I don't know what to do anymore. I thought the nightmare was over, but it's come back stronger than ever before.
t. 22 year old tech obsessed hikki thinking about trying to go to college and hopefully get a more physical job in one of the engineering fields (so i cant be replaced by rajeesh, monica the single mother, and CoPilot)
As for my credentials, I'm physically fit, not a bad shot, and fairly self-discipled when I get my shit together.
The biggest issue i have with prostitutes is how ungodly fucking expensive they are. For the price of two i took a MONTH LONG vacation through northern europe. Not costa rico, not SEA. Expensive first world nations. After that the cost of them actually makes me feel ill. I also still have a part of me that wants to experience a relationship and go on a first date even though i am nearly 30. And even though i have everything against me on this, i just hope somehow ill get super lucky. Hard for me to do considering i now see spending any time with a reasonably attractive woman as equal to $600/hr. I dont believe i have nearly enough to offer to compensate if that is how expensive physical touch from a woman is worth.
Anyone here quit seeing them but also is a LONG ways away from being dateable? Should i just suck it up and push through it or tank these ridiculous prices so i can feel human for the next six months? I dont want to travel super far because of various things in my life making going to say, thailand, difficult.
Help?
I plan on talking to a recruiter to see the process, I already picked out a non-combat job (Human resources)
I have my reasons for joining, mainly because I can't find a job, I just keep getting tons of rejections and ghosting, plus going to college would be nice, and I would like to throw my luck in with the army and see how that goes. i read the vast majority of people don't see combat but the work environment is awful
Any thoughts on this?
>not even close to cumming
>think of my piece of shit and cheating ex
>imagine me fucking her
>cum within a minute
Guys how do I stop this? It was a terrible break up for me and I want to move on after what she did. Do I really need to give up masturbation altogether? Thinking about her always ruins my day.
Is it a good career? is the test difficult?
please help me I just want to have a stable life. I have been a NEET for roughly 4 years after graduating university. I feel so lost idk
is it over? I'm an alright looking dude who's never had any issues talking with women but I'm incredibly insecure about taking any relationship to the next level.
I am in my second year of college and I still don't have any friends. I joined clubs, had roommates, I was friendly with them and exchanged numbers, but that was it. After we parted ways we never talked again. Most of the time I felt it was one sided since I was the one reaching out and I still felt like that person you just talk to out of pity.
I do want connections, but it just feels like to me every interaction I have is superficial and that I would come off as that annoying clingy guy if I try to pursue others.
I was throwing an army/navy themed party because I'm obsessed with wearing cute sailor outfits and wanted to hang out with autistic people dressed in camo. The party was supposed to be a house show so my best friend/roommate's band and my other friend's band could play. But she refused to participate in anyway: the sound (she has the equipment and no venue to use it for), her band playing, or even just drawing the flyer. I told her I am going to throw this regardless if she can play but obviously I want her to. She still refused with no explanation. But my other roommate who I was throwing the party with was excited, so we just went ahead and asked a different person who has all the sound stuff to help us.
When the very innocuous flyer [it had derpy hooves in a naval captain hat and osaka wearing an army helmet on it (like they weren't even dressed in ss uniforms or anything though that would have looked awesome)] was posted all hell broke loose. People were so mad and virtue signaling like CRAZY in the comments. Calling it "larping as war criminals" and "ragebait" and accusing us of being "nazis" and telling us to "go die". Which is fine, whatever, I didn't want those people coming anyways. But it got so much hate the whole thing had to be cancelled because these people were dming the bands yelling at them for participating.
Anyways, long story short, my so called best friend won't talk to me at all anymore. She won't pick up my calls. She won't come to the house if she knows I'm home. She deleted all the photos with me from her instagram. She's been staying with her other friends who have been shit talking me on their instagram stories. She skips the class we have together.
We're 2 weeks from graduation and have been best friends throughout uni. How do I reconcile with her? Do I just lose the friendship or do I do something? What do I even do? This is such nothing burger middle schooler drama.
other things he does that pisses me off:
-he scams gay guys and sugar mommas
-went to prison briefly without telling me
-flirts with other girls infront of me
-will randomly ghost me a few days
pros:
-he's really hot
-lots of things in common
-nig nick
-he hates jews
-he treats me semiwell (atleast better than most of the white faggots that try to get with me)
Don't say get a job, cause I'm already applying for jobs.
I am the person who asks for advice on how to make friends, if you could answer the following:
How do I get a person/people to stop harassing or bullying me?
since that person even stalks my social media profiles, along with his friends, because of what happened in the above that I explained and also, they spy on me at university and bother me on outings with trivial things or about my condition, since I have a chronic anxiety disorder.
Although they do respond to me by accusing them to the director, it did help a little but they continued doing it.
Drawing recreated from an image I saw a few days ago*
I'm planning to just not pay. Will my insurance premiums go up?
Does it make sense to even try?
I was accepted into a pretty highly ranked grad school program, but it's ludicrously expensive. I can afford it with tuition reimbursement from my employer, but considering the back taxes I either need to live in the ghetto, get roommates, have 0 hobbies that cost $ until I graduate, or put a huge dent in my savings.
Both my parents work in banking or finance so I talk to them about investments & the like regularly. I was talking to them about my predicament. They have offered to help me out on numerous occasions before and after I mentioned it since they want to help me to live a good life & know my sister has taken a lot more $ while doing shit they hated, but I just keep refusing it. I feel so pathetic taking a handout, even though I know they want to help & I know I'll just be suffering for the sake of suffering & to say that I didn't accept any financial help from them since i was a kid.
How can I get over myself?
>Never really cared about money, material things or had any dreams
>Have always loved my cats
>Move to neighborhood with lots of stray cats
>Feed them and pet them
>Want more money to get them all fixed and vaccinated, better food too
>Don't know what to do, finally find a purpose and want more money to make it a reality
Is it too late for a 35 year old anon to try and move on from wagiedom to a career?
I just want enough money to help more cats.
Let’s take I already dress well, never play video games or associate with “nerd” culture and i try to hide my special interests even to friends. I also try to avoid gatherings unless i’m with people i know or they’re focus oriented. Can you give me more ideas? I bet more of the ideas you give are things I’ve already developed through my life experience but maybe we get something new.
I have math degree which I've heard is "tech-adjacent". Should I do projects? Leetcode? Leverage my managerial experience? Anyone been in my position before? Any general steps I should take? I would really REALLY appreciate any insight you guys have
>jack off
>orgasm and feel good for a few seconds
>get hit with post nut clarity and realize how stupid women and sex are
>life is pretty peaceful
>few hours pass
>get horny again
Is it even possible to break this cycle?
We didn't plan this
She would like to keep it but I don't
I don't want the rest of my life being locked down to only focusing on reading a kid.
I am scared of fomo if we abort it but I'm even more scared of regret if we don't
Help me I can't really imagine either option well enough and obviously have zero experience
Either I can follow a 125 QI lifestyle and perform well on any midwit task, or I can forget my studies (not like I have been studying for the past three years in HS, slept on half of the classes) and apply myself on something greater.
Instead of a great business uni here in Brazil, I can try to study abroad or to abdicate my studies and focus 100% on learning business-related skills (focusing on oratory rn).
Should I just live normally and be applauded by midwits (become one of them)?
Try to study business abroad?
Forget uni and focus 100% on learning exclusively on practical money making skills?
I'm 22 M and will be turning 23 this year. I dropped out of UNI last year. I have a history of depression from adolescence and haven't been able to deal with it. I was on medication for a while and also used to cut myself but stopped for now. I tried to get back into unis and use this year to apply to other UNIS in Europe but I fucked up and missed the deadlines for most of them. There aren't a lot of opportunities outside of UNI in my country so not getting an education will really hurt my chances in life. I don't have even the slightest sense of discipline. I live with my parents and don't do anything for the whole day, I rot and play video games and that's about it. I feel like a failure all the time and I want to fix it but I genuinely don't know where to start. All of my old friends are already finishing unis and some are even getting married, they're all moving on with their lives meanwhile I've failed at everything.
I have no friends and no social life, just rotting in bed. I don't know what to do so I came here
Any help is appreciated..
>Zero work experience
>Zero education
>Spent my youth NEETing
Do I have any chance at future employment? I am beginning to study computer science, but that's just because it's most compatible with my lifestyle.
I don't really know what I want to do or what would make me happy.
And I'm worried that when I'm ready to go out and start working no one will take a chance on a loser like me.
I know I’m a bit autistic and short but I just wanna have my fun with Uni aged chicks before I settle down with the one
But they aren’t really interested in me. I’m neet so I have all the time in the world to improve
Any tips?
>NEET for basically entire life
>no high school or college education
>dropped out of school in 9th grade
>never worked
>have left house maybe 6 times in past 15 years
>0 social skills
>never had a face to face interaction with someone my own age throughout my teens and 20s
>5'7”
>never had a job
>can't drive
>never had friends
>parents are broke so I won't inherit anything
>no skills
>never exercised in my entire life
>club feet
>phobia of grass and plants
>have had probably fewer than 10 irl interactions within the past 20 years
How do I get out of this? I've literally just played video games since dropping out of high school when I was 15. It was pretty fun but my parents' money is running out. How hard are 6 figure jobs to get?
>mom brings me a pumpkin
>display it in my room
>put it away when fall is over
>don't throw it out because I wanna make a pie out of it, and pumpkins keep for a very long time
>ffw today
>pumpkin is largely covered in mold
I see the pumpkin every day when I bend down to get pants out of my drawer, so this mold popped up recently. I've disposed of the pumpkin, but it stuck to the carpet a little when I took it off. There is no visible residue on the carpet, but I'm worried that mold is gonna start popping up in that spot soon. It is near my bed so I've begun the process of disinfecting my bedsheets, but is there any preventative action I can do to my carpet to keep mold from popping up?
yeah, i know 4chan isn’t the best place to get social advice, but i have no other options.
to give you an idea of my situation, about a week ago, i spent the entirety of english class hyping myself up to compliment a girl’s sweater. she looked at me like i was crazy and barely mumbled a thanks. i went home and cried myself to sleep.
my grades are fine, but all of my teachers give me poor collaboration marks because i have this phobia of people.
The only person outside of my family i’ve been able to talk to was a man nearly triple my age, who i recently blocked because i’m stupid and jealous.
i don’t want to be some loser femcel or whatever the fuck they’re called. i want friends or a boyfriend or something.
My major is in chemistry if that matters
>decide to go back to college and actually finish this time
>during the semester apply for a study abroad program
>to my surprise actually get in
>will be spending 3 weeks in another country in a dorm room provided by the foreign university
this is gonna sound silly but how can i avoid masturbation while there? I'm so used to being able to fap whenever i want and in the past like year i went from not fapping that much to fapping A LOT. i honestly didnt think about this before applying
Need feedback on this please thanks boys
My brain feels fried, health is screwed. I've been employed for 2 years now as a help desk guy and now wish to fix my life.
I've daydreamed my way through the equivalent of high school and then just screwed around, giving up every time I'd start something, eventually I stopped starting altogether. I don't remember anything and my memory is poor, roth memorization was never something I could do.
Now I wish to acquire general knowledge that "men should know" and somehow unfuck my brain.
I've considered picking up some elementary and highschool books on math, physics, chemistry and biology as these would probably give me a decent foundation. To an extent where I know which chemicals to use for safe cleaning, how to not get electrocuted swapping a light fixture or an electric socket and stuff like that.
Then move onto some higher level electronics knowledge if possible.
I plan to get a CCNA or a basic IT engineering degree at some point down the road if the EU doesn't start WW3. The issue is after a decade of pretending and failing at everything I no longer trust my ability to learn.
Thanks to the job I lucked into I can now manage talking to people and make phone calls, emails competently.
It sounds like nothing, but I've seen a huge improvement in my ability to interact with the world around me in the past 2 years.
If I get some refresher driving lessons and probably a car I might even pass as an adult now.
TL:DR; I would like some advice on restoring my ability to learn, to acquire general "common" knowledge in a timely manner and to slowly work towards more specialized skills. All this after a good decade of rotting away.
Thanks.
Do you know anything like Microsoft Designer. I like it but it's slow and crushes too much. Reccomend me anything that is useful for editing.
Its gotten to the point where i just do all the chores and cooking. I can clean in the house in 3 hours which would take her several days.
I feel like a 1950's housewife complaining about her husband.
It can be anything. Coming home from somewhere? oh she did not bring her key and she needs help grabbing her bag from her car. Making coffee? Oh she forgot where the coffee filters are. Playing a game? The simple tutorial will fly way over her head. Sitting on the couch and cannot find her phone or the remotes which she just used, better call for help.
Taking the garbage out? She will take the bag to the front door, both not taking it out and not replacing the bag.
Doing the dishes? She will take all the clean dishes and put them on the counter to dry, never putting them away.
Cooking anything? She will leave ingredients out that need to go back in the fridge, while making a child like mess on the counter. This is after calling me several times to either help her or find something.
Vacuuming? Oh the filter is clogged, i better ask for help.
Cat litter or feeding the cats? well thats complicated so she just stays away from it. Feeding or cleaning the fish? same thing.
All of these are fine, but when you compound it during the day i have to help her with something every 20 minutes.
I feel belittled and disrespected
Am I wrong to feel this way?
Any advice?
Before anyone says she won't agree to short term stuff because her profile says long term only: my current fwb had her profile set to only "long term" or "life partner". Tbh she was such a kind person if she just lost some weight she'd be such a good gf.
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Whenever i hear some dude tell me "i fucked so and so" or "i hooked up with" it pisses me off. Yeah that guy is cringe and sounds like a fucking knob but at the same time, anyone who says i cant get laid, is correct. I cant. Im not aromantic with women so i have tried to get into relationships before but i just flunk out entirely, get nowhere, just bomb hard. It makes me feel like a total failure and someone who is inferior to the men who can. If you can even get one girlfriend in your entire life you are immediately seen as better than me despite whatever you do. Because its not something you can control, you cant control if a woman likes you or why she does. Its why it hurts harder than being called "broke" or "weird" or "out of shape". All of those you can fix. But women being attracted to you? Thats so so much harder to fix. It is the total combination of your entire worth as a human being and its being thrown in the trash. Every person who has struggled with this has been judged by hundreds if not thousands of women in their life time and were told "no..not good enough". Keep in mind the most common cause of death for women outside of disease is her partner and theres an army of single moms raising the offspring of felons, rapist, pedophiles and other degens. That means they all say those people as better than me. Objectively, better than me in the eyes of women.
This has caused me to have a LOT of hate towards women and further hate towards myself. Is a mans worth tied to his ability to attract a woman? And if so how do i even live with it?
>19 yo neet
>no real friends
>obese
>no skills
>has a stutter
>no discipline
>didn’t finish highschool
>no plans for the future
What’s the quickest way to kill myself? I’ve been trying to keep my hopes up but the road seems dark.
And maybe off topic, do online jobs like this exist? Boring data entry jobs that anyone can do from home for minimum wage? Or am I hoping for something that's not real? Taking into consideration I don't have a hs degree yet (and maybe worse that I go to special education, it will be obvious if I have to submit documents for the years I did graduate), but I'm still in high school.
Parents used to cook for me until they stopped, so I transitioned to fast food. My breakfast consists of sandwiches and tea, my lunch consists of a heavy meal with soda (burger+fries, rice bowl+chicken, steak, etc.), and beyond that I just eat snacks or dessert.
I picked up a cookbook for "teens" which has over 150(I think?) recipes for the most common foods (boiled eggs, omelet, rice bowls, pasta, chicken, fish, some dessert dishes, etc.)
I also picked up a food scale to hopefully start tracking my caloric intake and lose weight.
The only thing left is to pick 1-3 breakfast recipes, 1-3 lunch recipes, and some low calorie snacks, and to start creating a shopping list, buy the ingredients, and somehow manage to cook it all correctly and track the calories but I feel like I am gonna fuck it up.
What to do?
>be me
>early 30s
>degree with over decade of work experience
>sending off over 75 application a week on average for 2 years
>in my country, women and immigrants are prioritized for interview shortlists.
>past 5 months i've been stuck inside paying off my local council tax and rent arrears.
>this month an american freind is coming over.
>my glasses just broke. and i owe quite a bit in bills from paying off council tax and rent arrears
>monthly income from welfare 1116
>electric and gas 300
>credit card 200
>phone 100
>internet 100
>hygenist for my teeth (really bad state) 100
>money i owe a friend for this month 170
>overdraft fee 40
>i owe about £3000 in debt.
what do /adv/?
what am i not seeing
>what about food anon?
i use a foodbank
>and if this was a "normal" month, what would that look like?
>rent 600, E&G 80, phone 25, internet 35, water 35, local council tax 150.
pic unrelated.
assume i have nothing of value to sell.
any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I've already decided a while ago I'm bailing tf out of here, I bullshitted my way into convincing him me getting some extra qualification will be good for the business but I'm only getting that since it will enable me to land some posts with housing included and better pay. But obviously once I do that there's no coming back here.
So I guess my question is what are the things I should be taking with me? If I forget something here I won't be able to get it back. Should I first change my address so my mail doesn't end up here?
Today there was a dude that was on a pretty nasty loosing streak at my table. I felt bad for him. I don’t mind taking money from tourists or rich assholes but a normal dude 1500 in the hole from betting table minimum with several friends and his GF telling him he should walk away kinda got to me. After he pushed a good hand I told him he’s having bad luck and should try another table to something. His friends and GF thanked me after he got up with what little was left of his chips but my boss told me I should never say something like that (for obvious reasons admittedly)
I didn’t get in trouble or anything but it highlights the moral issues this job has. I’m a religious person and I don’t really gamble much. When I see gambling addicts blowing money they don’t have I feel like a piece of shit, it’s made worse by the fact I can’t say or do anything to help them and should actively encourage them to keep going.
I don’t know how to reconcile this. I’m making more money here than I can anywhere else in the area and the job is legitimately fun most of the time, when I’m dealing with casual gamblers blowing a few hundred on a fun night or rich bastards throwing 5 grand they made an hour ago at a game they’ll be playing again tomorrow. But when it’s bad I feel like a godless bastard.
The thing is that I've wasted a lot of time (more than 6 months) "thinking" about this, I even told a friend (who is a constructor) I'd hire him, yet I'm still unsure about this all.
I wish I had someone else to ask for opinions or, even better, for advice on what to do and, most importantly, what NOT to do, but I have no one knowledgeable/experienced around me. My close friends are retarded. Even this friend is fucking stupid. He only knows how to build shit but has no clue how to build shit for humans.
Who the fuck should I ask about it? An architect? If so, how do I find a good architect?
Also, my main problem is psychological: I'm cheap. I fucking hate spending money. And as I said, I expected this to be far cheaper than it will be. This means that if I ever have to adapt my plan, things might get out of hand and I might end up spending a TON of money...
Should I just buy something smaller and cheaper? Should I drop the plan and start over? WTF should I do? Why are money and adulthood so shit? ;_;
Pic unrelated (kind of)
>Struggles in social situations. I generally find people uninteresting, and I have no idea how to interface with the ones that attract me. I only have online friends and generally avoid leaving the comfort of my home. Eye contact is uncomfortable for me but I tend to force it so that I don't seem impolite.
>Possible fidgeting / stimming? When my hands aren't on a controller or a cell phone, I will bounce my leg, sway side to side when standing up, graze my hand across my knuckles repeatedly, or tap things as if they were drums. Sleep can sometimes be challenging because I roll around and move my legs a lot. People have noted I have a tendency to hum or sing as well.
>Obsessive interests. Right now it's pokemon. I'm trying to make my glorious king probopass viable in the tcg and I got a platinum rom because sinnoh is my favorite region. I bother my friends asking them their favorite pikachu clone and regional bird and fossil pokemon and so on. Marvel rivals made me obsess with marvel slop for a while but it's dying down now. I had a thing for dinosaurs. Jojo's been my fascination for years and I gladly jump at the opportunity to yap about it, most of my music taste was inspired by it. When I'm interested in something I will collect every drop of information on it that I can.
>Restricted diet, possibly ARFID, which is commonly associated with autism. I have not ate a single fruit or vegetable since early childhood. My mother says I have a "kindergarten palate." No sauces, no drinks except water and rarely soda, no spices.
>AGP paraphilias which seem to be common in autistic men
>Oh also I'm on 4chan
im willing to offer any ids/passport and KYC info any site would need, as long as it works.
i would prefer not having my irl name visible [for obvious reasons, im a woman.]
but at this point i wouldnt mind having that visible if the service works.
if you have any info, or ideas please let me know.
We ended up playing really late a few weeks ago, and I fell asleep leaning on him bc he's warm. It was the comfiest nap I have ever had.
When I woke up, he had an erection and I freaked out because it was really gross for him to let that happen and he kept acting like it wasn't his fault so I left.
I want to hang out with him, but I'm scared he'll be perverted again. Was he making it up when he said he didn't mean to?
I've tried starting 2 businesses, both failed for different reasons. My business partner passed away on one and I couldn't handle their half of the tasks and we went under. The second one was that I couldn't sell shit. Doesn't matter what I did with Instascam or a website, I could not get traffic to my shit and sell.
Too poor for real estate. No licensed for finance. How the fuck do I get rich and travel the world and fuck 10's the rest of my life?
Do I have to speak to him? What happens if I refuse and just sit there silent? Does anything I say may incriminate me?
>Am I allowed to do that?
>Am I... sort of allwed to do that if I am discreet?
>What kind of personal details should I avoid putting out there? Is a phone fine, or should I only put a burner email?
>What are some turn offs or red flags that would make someone avoid trying it out?
>What are some must haves on the ad?
>should I stick to stylized art like anime art, or draw more realistic animals and nature or the flyer art?
>any suggestions on how to do it right and what to avoid
I have also been considering walking up to my local misic school and just offering them to draw album art for them on the spot for 20$. Again, no clue if this is even legal or how to do it right.
Note, I have the art skills and ability to teach. What I am more asking is if it is legal to do and the logistics
Am I considered short?
I'm a dude.
ps hes a christian and doesn't support women rights. but all he listens to is women podcasts and music made by women. this is confusing me, but again this all might sound cringe, i am asking for advice cause i completely lost my mind
I live with my family and i’ve been crying a lot lately, I see no purpose anymore (barely any hope). There are some days I wake up with ”some” energy but then i’m back to being sad again. I just want to end it, but don’t want to make my parents disappointed when they find out I killed myself :(.
For me, I'd look for:
>Being gentle.
>Educated, well spoken. Doesn't have to be a Doctor of anything, just not an absolute idiot.
>Takes care of her body and overall health.
And I'd be wary of:
>Party/club hoes, alcoholic/drug users.
>Has hoe/deadbeat friends, "male friends", "male best friend", orbiters she decides to keep around. Basically: surrounding yourself with shit people usually means you are a shit person, too.
>Vulgar clothing, excessive tattoos, excessive cursing.
inb4 >>>/soc/ noone there actually uses 4chan
I should mention I have moved out once before about 4 years ago but that was with my ex, I'm single now so thats why I'm trying to be more careful with money.
I know obviously prices vary depending on where you are but are there some general rules I should follow?
It was driven worse by the fact that people definitely noticed and would make a game out of it, like whenever they would notice this pattern, other people in the room would go "X is getting married with Y"! but this would happen literally every single time to mock me indirectly.
I feel so deeply ashamed that I feel this way, as if it was meant to be me, but for whatever reason, this thought lives so rent free in my head, and it feels like such an ugly thought despite that fact.
Why am I this way? I really needed to get this off my chest, as I really don't understand this about myself and this is an extremely loser way to think.
I remember using Popcorn Time and Stremio but my experience has turned to shit as time passed by, both became filled with low seeded torrents that didn't do the trick at all
Oh also all of this would be contingent on her having my kid in short order.
Everytime I end up meeting people or in groups, I end up being the butt of every joke and people feel free to disminish my opinions. It is not banter, you can see the difference between banter and being a laughing stock. Doesn't matter what I try, it ends up with people not respecting me. This has happened many times already.
>Better alone than with those people
I'm tired of being alone and meeting and meeting people that don't give a fuck about me.
Some items are blatantly NSFW; ive always wanted, but never done it, to pay a femdom prostitute for her to give me a severe beatdown; kicks, whips, caning, punches and slaps, etc
I also want to do Pablo Escobar stuff like giving 4 bills of the highest denomination in my local currency\country, to each beggar I find--and to deliberately set out to walk the streets wherein I know beggars WILL be there.
I've got a couple of drawing books and a drawing tablet for my PC and barely touched them.
My shaky hands fuck up every drawing I make, and I can barely do lines without fucking them up. I can't use my shoulder, I only feel good using the motions of my fingers.
So about a couple weeks ago, I started talking with this really pretty girl in my math class who I'd had my eye on for a while. I did get kinda lucky because we were randomly assigned to the same group together for a small research project, and she was actually the one who initiated our first convo outside of class. For the record I probably come across as a relatively deferential though not overly submissive guy in person, and I feel like that's probably the rough impression that she had of me at first. After a few days though we started flirting with each other a bit, and she seemed a little taken aback by how much I was taking command of things, I would say it looked to me like she was pleasantly surprised by how dominant I could actually be and this probably heightened her attraction to me at least somewhat, I got the sense she was impressed that I was capable of naughtier talk than my usually innocent self came across as. Anyways I felt like things were going really well between me and her for a while, maybe it's just a coincidence but I feel like the turning point where she started to lose interest in me came right around the time when she asked me to send her a dick pic one night. For reference I don't think I have a really big one, it's like 3 or 4 inches hard and I think she could probably tell it wasn't the largest and in hindsight I probably wasn't using the most flattering angle at all desu.
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What are the best cities to be in (USA)?
How do I audition?
> be me
>18
>parents moved to city for “better future”
>grew up soft, introverted, feminine
>never became what I was supposed to
>social anxiety, porn addiction, no friends, no gf
>height below average, no real skills
>tried to study for exams but procrastinated myself into failure
>now even my well-wishers laugh at me
>fetishes and habits I don’t even want to admit
>tried “reflecting” on life, >thought of killing myself, didn’t
decided instead to rewire everything and enter “Monk Mode”
>plan my day around energy cycles, clean discipline, present-moment focus
>still feel lonely
>still crave human connection, sex, validation
>still haunted by wasted time and missed potential
>stuck between two worlds—one that expects greatness, one that’s already given up on me
How do I keep going? How do I stop feeling like a failed manchild and start actually becoming someone I can respect?
Don’t sugarcoat it. I want real advice.
Also open to book recs, schedule hacks, and mindset shifts.
Just don’t say “go outside” unless you actually explain how to make it stick.
>NEET for basically entire life
>no high school or college education
>dropped out of school in 9th grade
>never worked
>have left house maybe 6 times in past 15 years
>0 social skills
>never had a face to face interaction with someone my own age throughout my teens and 20s
>5'7”
>never had a job
>can't drive
>never had friends
>parents are broke so I won't inherit anything
>no skills
>never exercised in my entire life
>club feet
>phobia of grass and plants
>have had probably fewer than 10 irl interactions within the past 20 years
How do I get out of this? I've literally just played video games since dropping out of high school when I was 15. It was pretty fun but my parents' money is running out. How hard are 6 figure jobs to get?
What coping mechanisms/ways to resist temptation do you guys recommend? Because FUCK I love acid and shrooms.
>the real thing is expensive (a single session is fine, but going every week adds up quickly)
>finding a good psychologist is extremely rare
>a real psychologist will likely try to string me along for as long as possible
>real sessions only last about an hour
I want to buy her trinkets, food, clothes, etc., and for her to love them, and to love that I do those things for her. But she frequently just complains about me or the shows and books I like, and it gets a bit tiring.
I was happy being a guy, though. I don't feel like I got a say in any of it, and I'm feeling cheated. I'm short, and I keep thinking about how if "fixing" me had been removing the inside organs that didn't line up with the outside, I could have lived as a mostly normal guy.
I don't feel like I fit in with anybody now. I haven't left my apartment for more than 30 minutes at a time in 3 years because life just feels weird now.
I don't believe in trans stuff, if you're lucky enough to have all that be medically certain at birth you should be thankful for it but in my case it wasn't certain until I'd already spent my most formative years believing I was a normal boy.
I figured posting this on /lgbt/ would get me a hugbox answer. I'm hoping for somerhing more honest. In my case, would I be wrong to want to trans my gender? I feel like I just do not have the foundation in my upbringing I need to live the way I've been forced to.
Like the second you are actually happy, somebody with everything in their life and access to anything the want simply cannot handle you being happy?
>drift apart during teenage years because I became shut in at 12
>gradually get better stop being depressed in mid 20's even though my life had been fucked
>28 now
>NEET, KHHV, diagnosed with aspergers
>cousin is now 30 and probably a bigger loser than me which is saying something
>he's fat and depressed and smokes weed all day and plays D&D
>struggles to have job also but for different reasons
>don't think he has ever had a gf either
I feel bad. When I was 18, he knew I was having a hard time and he once invited me out, which I took him up on. He tried to help me. He reached out to me. I feel like I should be doing that, but even though we are both losers, I don't think I have anything in common with him anymore. Smoking weed disgusts me. I have no interest in D&D. I am more of a solitary sperg who is into biology, paleontology, astronomy and astrology/mythology, history ect. I like being on my own in nature, analysing plants and animals. He likes smoking weed and playing D&D. What can I do?
My extended family are getting real worried about him
Every time I go to sleep early, I wake up 2 hours in and then can't fall asleep again.
I can only sleep a full eight hours if I stay awake until 4AM. I fall asleep from exhaustion, then I wake up in the afternoon.
How do I fix this?
>inb4 no screens
>inb4 no caffeine
>inb4 no bright lights
>inb4 sleep hygiene
>all school friends stopped existing after i went to uni, nobody messsages me, nobody calls anymore
>hang out with a circle of good online friends i stuck with for 10 years
>talking to normies at uni or work feels like a torture
how do i even meet new cool people? everytime i force myself into a social interaction i just find myself thinking "man i don't even like these people, i should get out of here" i never had problems socializing in school, i'm not bad looking or short or whatever the fuck i just want to talk to someone from outside but everytime i do it feels like a torture
because of this i keep spending time online and being more and more distanced from irl people,
sometimes i meet irl with said online friends and it's always a blast, but whenever i'm hanging out with a new girl i met or just trying to make conversation with somebody outside it feels like i'm being held hostage by myself
I bought it for around $90k in 2019 btw, I know I'm a lucky duck
(pretty normal since I'm a good conversationalist)
Out of nowhere she asked how tall I am, so I kept my promise to myself and ghosted her.
I'm so proud of myself.
>how did you pass all the other subjects you needed to pass
Pure luck in some cases and because I was interested in them in others.
>have you tried just manning the fuck up
Yeah, as I said, I tried eliminating distractions and just doing it and it didn't work. I ended up just sitting there and getting progressively madder and madder.
apparently he was still seeing that woman and spending money on her, she's very ill and her meds are expensive.
once he passed away she was left with nothing, my mom refused to even see her which I understand, I stepped in and kept financially helping her in secret.
now my mother found out and she refuses to talk to me, I've basically been ostracized from the family, neither my mom's relatives nor my dad's wish to even speak to me anymore.
how do I fix things? I honestly don't even feel like what I'm doing is wrong
You know the kinds that always have a stick up their ass and are like ready to fight you at a moments notice?
>Hey how's it going?
>WHAT DO YOU WANT
>Could you pass the butter?
>WHAT YOU LOOKING AT ME FOR
>Do you happen to know the time?
>WHO THE FUCK YOU THINK I AM
>Hey what happened to your leg there?
>MIND YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS
You know what I mean? And they're always like this. How do you deal with that?
24/7 I hear 'voices' (thoughts in a voice not like schizo just normal) burning every thing I think, say or do. Everything they burn me so ruthlessly. These are my own thoughts because I hate myself but they took on ' persona ' . I internalized the world and that world has become a living character in my head and verbally destroys me every second of every day for atleast a year now.
I didnt get that voice for no reason. People always look at me an immature failure. With good reason yes they are completely right in their judgment and assesment Im 30 and never had a job as I just had welfare. Yes Im not a real man Im a failure I have contributed nothing Im a parasite I should be grateful for every single thing I have as I worked for nothing . Yes I am useless and all that. All the criticisms I ever received (and I get them 24/7 people have been talking down to me all my life) are completely true I fully accept them but Im just so tired of never having a break of people or life in itself spitting in my face.
Like its either my mind terrorizing me, other people or I just see things around me that mock me. Like I can see an 18 year old hard working and I am reminded of how worthless and inadept I am. I see a younger kid studying and I am reminded of how I wasted all my life and how much more mature and grown up and superior they are. Everyone is superior and the world has to continue remind me of that and push that in my face till I fall down on the floor not looking up just praising everything and everyone as they are so much superior to me but even if I do that it is not enough and then I am just disturbing others with my presence itself. But if I am not present then I will be internally spat on for not being out there contributing while if I do I am just taking up space wasting everybodies time poisoning the energy
This has destroyed me man. I dont know what even to ask for but if someone has advice tell me
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I do not go anywhere. I go for walks and read books by myself. I feel like I might be a schizoid or something as I do not have a strong desire for socialisation, though I do crave romance and love... but I'm honestly not sure if i want girlfriend and all the hastle that would result in. I fear I would be inadequate in a relationship and I fear even having a relationship to begin with due to the change it would cause and my previous fear of inadequacy.
I'm not sure what I want, I'm a very introverted person but I do enjoy the company of others sometimes. I spend hours of my day in fantasy and daydreaming, listenting to OST's and pacing around my room pretending to be in a fantasy.
I'm not depressed. I feel joy... but I wonder if I'm making an incredible mistake not doing anything... I'm about to finish college... but I struggle to take that first step in iniative in doing an activity.
What do I do and whats wrong with me?
Is there any way I can get that more, other than job-hopping until I find someone who's nice to me?
One especially concerning example was one of my closest friends with this really terrible ex, when they broke up she told him she hated him and was gonna ruin his life just he wait and see. He didn't take it serious at first. Suddenly almost everyone he knows, including close friends and family members, is accusing him of being an abusive rapist and women beater, and until he was proven innocent his life was made absolute hell until then, even had to be detained by the police in jail. Even all of his family members with the exception of his parents wanted nothing to do with him anymore. These days he struggles with depression and drug addiction.
I also find that women in general tend to be really petty. There have even been many times where I was just zoned out and just accidentally ended up looking at a certain woman for like 4 or 5 seconds, and then they wouldn't stop telling their friends for literal months how this one time I looked at them for 5 seconds and made them feel "so unsafe."
So with this I'm wondering if it's even possible for men to safely talk to women unless they're gay men. Cuz women love hanging out with gay men, but not straight men.
For the record, I don't mean to be sexist, and I don't hate women. But with all the issues women can bring, I find it's better to just avoid them unless they reach out to me first.
Should I confess to her I voted Trump? I feel bad she’s scared and that I in some way contributed to his winning but it’s not like I can really do anything, and I do really like her.
For starters, I've been into some obsessed shit, more obsessed than anything my autistic ass has been for a long time.
to best describe it, It's kinda like a (S)hitlist thrown into some christian induced stuff where it's just a shit load of fantasy level ideas of shit loads of people not existing in the first place, what my true life would be like, how things should've gone, it's something i have to admit is just sad and concerning for my mental health, and it's probably due to getting some misanthropic mindset shit from alot of personal problems like with my family and the internet.
The fuck do i even do?
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