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>I think you might've given me advice before
Possibly, if so hello again

>I think you’re right, it has to be built. Commitment, love, consideration. It has to fixed in place, stone by stone
Absolutely. And it's hard at first. It's not always sunshine and rainbows, it takes being vulnerable insofar as being honest about mutual limitations and faults. But it's also about recognizing each other's strengths. The ideal is accepting you suck at some aspect of the relationship, but are good at another. If your partner is mature enough to acknowledge the same, then what happens is you both cover each other's weak points. Reciprocity is the ideal. Not to be confused for transaction.

>I’ll be brutally honest, that as a woman, even as a teenager, attraction felt innate. It was either there or not. But I’ve realized that isn’t a good indication to follow at all. Not by itself.

Yeah it was the same for me. It's the fine difference between infatuation vs. love. No one can fall in love at first sight, they can fall into infatuation though. But actual love takes time to build. It can be built with someone you fall into infatuation with, or someone you didn't. Doesn't matter which in the end, because infatuation fades after 2-3 years no matter how hot or handsome the partner is. Familiarity breeds contempt and all that. (In reality it just breeds indifference). Unless love is chosen. Cuz love is a choice at the end of the day. You choose to date your partner even if it's been years, putting efforts in, and the good times keep rolling.

>I think a lot of people, myself included, find it difficult to meet people.
True. What I sought instead was situations > people. It's far easier to seek situations. By situations I mean social circles, groups, activities, hobbies, locations, Could be anything. Just a desire to go and talk about something you enjoy somewhere, anywhere. Could be online or offline.

People come along with situations without even having to try.

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