I'm 24M, graduated a year ago. Didn't socialize at all during college because COVID made my schooling online and because of the poor asian family grindset. For the past few years I only cared about getting a 4.0 GPA and good job so I could help my parents with their debt. I managed to get the job but I have no friends or social life and feel very lonely.

My life basically looks like this: wakeup, work, exercise, play video games and fap, sleep, repeat. I don't really like fapping or playing games anymore. I only do it because it makes me feel numb and helps me forget my bad feelings for a while.

I'd like to have friends my age but I don't know how to meet anyone. Part of the problem is I work from home so I never meet people from work and I rarely leave my home, maybe 2-3 times a month for groceries/haircuts. I think I've got social anxiety or something because I find it extremely stressful to interact with people or go out in public.

I'd like to get a gf but I know there's no chance of that if I don't even have any friends. Also I'm quite ugly (tall and fit, but very ugly face). I thought about getting plastic surgery to fix that because I could easily afford it and maybe it would make me more confident and less stressed going out. But I feel I'd just be digging myself deeper into having a complex about my looks, not to mention my family would mock/criticize me for it. I considered using online dating apps to meet girls but since I'm ugly it seems like a horrible idea.

I've seen ppl online suggest: church, sports, clubbing/bars, volunteering. But I'm not religious, got a health issue that makes sports infeasible, and I don't drink or do drugs (ptsd from alcoholic druggy dad) and I find parties really stressful the couple of times I've been to any. Whenever I've volunteered in the past I never met anyone who wanted to make friends, mostly just older people who make small talk and focus on getting work done.

Any advice for what to do?

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dunno wtf to do