>>76230351
>do martial arts
Find a striking based martial art with a lot of sparring, something like (kick)boxing or Kyokushin karate. The sparring is all about facing your fears and quick, instinct based decision making under pressure. This is the antithesis to the overthinking spergs like you and I are prone to. Find a good gym: bruises after a good spar are normal, broken bones and concussions are not. Regardless this is what changed my life the most and my biggest regret is not doing it sooner. Try it for a year, see what happens. It unironically changed my life.

>put yourself out there
Join something like meetapp and attend parties and group activities. Go on speeddates and to singles events, which are getting more common as more people are jumping ship from dating apps (lmao Tinder just committed suicide with the height filter). Even if no relationships or friendships follow, you're getting in your social reps. Keep trying, keep improvement.

>study
Read up on social skills books. The classic is of course "How to make friends and influence people", and the author's central thesis still rings true: focus less on making others think you're interesting and more on being interested in other people.

This is what changed my social life. I still haven't made it(tm) but I'm doing a lot better. I even exchanged phone numbers with girls on two different instances this year (both on their initiative).

Oh and
>keep hitting the gym/do the looksmaxxing basics
Looks are a modifier, not a flat bonus, but spergs like us need every leg up we can get. Exploit the halo effect. Stay away from hardcore lookism schizo shit like bonesmashing and mewing though. Just get lean, lift for aesthetics, dress nice, take care of your hygiene and get a good skincare routine.

Also
>avoid the blackpill
Don't demoralize yourself. The blackpill is crabs in a bucket. You're climbing out and they don't want to see you succeed.

Good luck! We are ALL going to make it.

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